want him to need me the same way he need air

[diddy]

Hi guys,am in a situation and I need all your input,what do you think? Okay here it comes!

 

 

So I love/adore my guy so much! But its like I want more of him,I want to posses him in a way ,Its like I wont be fulfilled till he needs me for everything and nothing,I want him to depend on me emotionally . I have to be the most important person in his life ,its like I cant get enough of him,it feels like there is more to him that I haven’t had and I want that too.

 

 

Is this normal? Am kind of selfish could that be the reason?am i sadist or something? am i ****ed up? i wanna know why i feel this way

[PegNosePete]

I am the opposite. I want my partner to stay with me through good times and bad, in sickness and in health, by choice. Not because she can't live without me, but because she chooses to be with me.

 

Nobody needs another person. Well, except maybe disabled people who need helpers. In my opinion your aspiration to be needed is unrealistic and unhealthy.

[mikeylo]

If this is early in the relationship then it's just the hopeless romantic in you that is wanting this. It will settle down. After some time passes, you both will be emotionally connected and that is one of the most important part of a successful long term relationship.

[thefooloftheyear]

no ....not normal....

 

 

TFY

[SoulCat]

If you don't ease up you're gonna suffocate the life out of him.

[d0nnivain]

It's unhealthy & unrealistic.

[Satu]

There's nothing healthy in this wish.

[phillyisfun]

Trust me. You don't really want this. I had someone who needed me that way....it stifled the life out of me.

[kztar]

I guess this is NOT healthy but LMAO I WISH THE SAME. It's like you want to be the reason they even breathe. FUN

[preraph]

You're overly dependent emotionally. Honestly, it's just not healthy. It will be unlikely you find anyone who is the same way back and that even if you did, it would work out. You may even think you want it but find out that if he got that weak and dependent, it would be a total turnoff, because fact is, you're all into him now when he's NOT that way.

[GemmaUK]

This is not at all healthy.

 

You want to posses him??!

One of my ex's was like that and he suffocated the Scooby out of me.

Massive stress, total turn off and my hair started turning grey. I still find the odd few long hairs which are now normal colour on the top half and grey midway down to the end.

[Wewon]

It sounds exhausting and stressful to want someone that needy. Either that or you yourself have an inexhaustible controlling streak and may be insecure.

 

But there has been a string of post from young women that want the men in their lives to think about them so much that they end up getting long amusing text every single day.

[TaraMaiden2]

Really??

 

You need professional help.

Urgently.