Finalchapter Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 So here it is.. Never thought I would make a post like this. I have a friend who really likes me and I like him back. For the past few months we were flirting but things weren't moving anywhere. I thought he was uninterested and left it at that. A month later, a co-worker asked me out and I impulsively said yes. We had a great time that night and he wanted a second date. I said no, because I had no interest but he started pursuing me and I began to start enjoying the comfort and companionship. We went on a few more dates and had a great time. However, he is moving out of country in August and hence doesn't want a serious relationship. He asked me to enjoy things in the present and then let go in August. Meanwhile, my friend has started pursuing me again and he came over my place one night and we ended sleeping together. This is someone who wants to have a serious relationship with me but is going through a lot of stretime I am extremely confused. What should I do? I can't date both guys...if I say no to my coworker for no reason I lose amazing companionship and if I say no to my friend I lose a friend. Pls tell me how to decide on one option. At present I am avoiding both of them and have asked for time to decide. 1
smudge21 Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 The co-worker has made it clear this is only a short term deal, so if you think that's worth all this stress over then carry on. I'd see it as what it is, and the fact he's being upfront and honest with you. Clearly he's already decided he's not going to stay around and just wants a f**k buddy until he leaves. Do you want that? This other person clearly likes you and you like him but you've both taken your time and neither has progressed the situation. Why would you lose a friend if you started dating? You're more likely to lose him if/when he finds out about FB above. It sounds more like that you are unsure about a long term relationship (your "friend") and prefer the ease of something short term (the colleague). Decide on what you want before it gets decided for you. 2
Exotic Flesh Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 Do yourself the ultimate favor and choose the possibility of being loved. Your coworker has made it clear that there is no possibility he could love you. With your friend, it is more than possible. Long term meaningful love is greater than short term meaningless sex. Always choose meaning. - Laurell. 2
Author Finalchapter Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 Thanks for the responses. I said no to both of them. I am just too tired of flings and confused behavior. The friend sleeps with me but says he doesn't want to lead me on. The coworker does all the small and nice things but says it's not a relationship. I am done!! I am looking for the real thing. Why is that so difficult nowadays? 1
smudge21 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Why is that so difficult nowadays? Tell me about it... be stick with it, there's 6.7 billion people on this planet. That's a fair few options. 1
Satu Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Thanks for the responses. *I said no to both of them. I am just too tired of flings and confused behavior. The friend sleeps with me but says he doesn't want to lead me on. The coworker does all the small and nice things but says it's not a relationship. I am done!! I am looking for the real thing. Why is that so difficult nowadays? *You did the right thing because neither of them are right for you. There are many more suitable people out there. By closing the door on what you don't want, you've opened the door that leads to you finding what you do want. Walk forward into the sunshine. 2
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