dlyall Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 Honestly, we did not argue but once the past 4 months. he even asked me to be in a relationship with him. Out of the blue last night the man I have been in a relationship with says to me --he does not want to be in any kind of relationship anymore not with me but with anyone". He just does not feel like doing anything with anyone even friends. Then says he feels like people are pooling him into too many directions and he needs to breath. Mind you i see him but I never begged him to do anything. If he was busy I left him alone and so on and so forth. Than I said well ya know, I if you have been feeling like this for awhile why would you make plans with me for next month and make plans with 2 days ago? If you don't want nothing to do with me you should of just ended it when you had doubts. Than he says that he does not want to date anymore but he never said he did not want anything to do with me at all and that he never said that. So today, he starts sending me texts from work checking on me to see how I am feeling than he calls me to make plans to come over my house and return books. I told him I did not want him to come to the house I rather meet him at his place or elsewhere. So , he wants to see me 2 days after he dumps me at Dunkin Donuts after work and than he will give my text books back. I am not sure if I am seeking advice more just venting and just very disappointed.
Gershwin Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 Don't give him the satisfaction of closure/making him feel better that he has checked up on you. I'd get a friend collect those books for me. 2
Author dlyall Posted March 2, 2016 Author Posted March 2, 2016 (edited) I wish I could get someone else to pick them up but unfortunately I live too far from all my friends for such a task. These are books I need back for certification that I need for business purposes. So I need the books back..pfft. Edited March 2, 2016 by dlyall
kendahke Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 he does not want to be in any kind of relationship anymore not with me but with anyone". He just does not feel like doing anything with anyone even friends. does he have a lot going on in his life right now? Is he battling depression? Than he says that he does not want to date anymore but he never said he did not want anything to do with me at all and that he never said that. He's demoting you to a FWB--he won't date you, but he wants to be able to call you up for sex when he wants it. Get the books and leave. Don't get into a conversation with him and before you start the ignition on your car, block his number and delete him. This one isn't worth you putting any more energy into outside of getting your things from him. 2
Author dlyall Posted March 2, 2016 Author Posted March 2, 2016 Yes, i believe he is battling depression. I have been trying to talk to him about what was going on with him the past week but i figured he would tell me when he was ready but I was not worried about it either. I am not going to really talk to him when I get the books as there really is nothing to say just like you stated. FWB are not worth it at all. I have done them before and after the last one I decided never again.
smackie9 Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 People don't do a 180 for nothing. His depression could be a symptom not the problem. Breakups suck, but what can ya do....sometimes a relationship, even if there are no issues, just run their course, and feelings fade.
Author dlyall Posted March 2, 2016 Author Posted March 2, 2016 It was a fast 180 for me. Made plans for this month just last Friday but whatever. It is what it is, right?
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