Getting over that one person.

[jumpman]

I've only been in one relationship. was my first. first love and all that, she became my best friend and my everything. 3 years later she left me and havent really had much contact with her since.

 

No need to really add details, i will if you guys would like. But that one person, that one person you shared so much with, that person you spent and invested so much time into just to lose it all. The months and months of talking all day and night, just go down the drain.

 

Its really hard. its been a year almost since we broke up. and i dont expect us to get back together because she has never tried and im done trying. i dont message her anymore, she doesnt really message me neither.

 

I wonder how sometimes she feels though, when she goes to bed or things like that. she doesnt miss that guy who was always there, who talked to her till the morning time, who shared so much with her and vice versa.

 

Has me wondering sometimes. How do you guys get over this?

 

I dont really hurt anymore, sometimes i see pics with her through mutual friends on fb, or just her name on a comment, just get that feeling in my heart and its the worst. I dont go on fb often, i dont really like it.

 

Things happened before we broke up, and she wasnt the best gf or friend to me. Maybe it just hurts me because we were so close, i did lose someone who was bery special to me and who i loved very much.

 

So now theres no contact,. i decide to leave it that way, for my sake.

 

How did you guys overcome this?

[jumpman]

Any tips guys???

[smudge21]

You don't... it just happens. You can't make yourself heal or get over someone, just like you never make yourself love someone. It just happens when it happens. All you can do is ride the waves and keep doing what you're doing. I'm sure not every day is bad, just occasionally things will make you remember them - and it's always remembering the good times too.

 

 

I recall landing some work and it turned out to be direct opposite to the place we first met. For months that ate me up inside. It was just a building, yet to me it meant her and the happy times. It is hard to understand how someone can just walk away after you've invested so much of your energy, time and love into them. But trying to understand that or find reason to it will only keep you there, thinking about them. Whatever their reasons, they are gone. Even if you did fully understand everything, they'd still be gone.

[K2z]

I was insane and highly desirous of self-harm for months. I went through a liter of vodka a day for several weeks. I spontaneously broke into tears at a light breeze. When I saw the pictures of her wedding on social media, I phoned my Mommy and sobbed like I was 7 years old.

 

It's 4 months later. I went to a therapist every week, I was on a pretty robust cocktail of knockout pills to get through the nights, I posted on this community.

 

I function these days in a way I never thought I would. I wouldn't call myself "healed," and I don't know if "healed" actually happens. I will have this scar forever. It will always hurt a little forever. The space where she was in my life will always be a kind of emotional amputation.

 

But today, I resumed a little yoga practice for the first time. Unlike two years ago, I was like a rhino on rollerskates. But it felt good. Sanity returns. Eventually you tire of being a basket case, and, like it or not, the wounds scab and you think of something else to do than look at them.