What is your view on love, relationships and breakups. Share

[kztar]

Hi everyone so im on a rant mode today and I was wondering how others feel?

 

Do you ever regret falling in love?

Do you regret being the dumper?

Do you take breakups as a learning experience?

Have you ever broken someone's heart? How did it feel?

Have you had your heart broken? How did that feel

 

So Im asking these questions because I'd like to see other's views on this. Please do not judge me but I am very different than MOST people. I have ALWAYS been different. I have VERY different views than most and often people take my opinions the wrong way.

 

But I definitely have to say that I regret falling in love with all the people that I've ever loved. Maybe this is bad but honestly besides my last EX I could care less or even remember about these people and I don't really have any memories with them, I literally go DELETE MODE and yes that is possible, fully POSSIBLE. (eventually my last EX) will get there too. unfortunately he's still in my heart but he's on the road to my nonexistent past. I will cry and mourn but once im over it basically these people become dead to me. I don't think I needed them in my life to learn anything as I don't even remember them so How could I possibly learn something from something that I don't even remember?. I honestly think that a breakup pain is totally unnecessary and most definitely not needed for GROWTH. I rather not experience romantic love at all if it's ever going to be this painful. I rather avoid ANYTHING that will cause me pain, even if it means not having the experience at all. I can live perfectly fine with that. I rather experience other things that for sure wont cause me any type of pain ever

 

It's sad to see people who want to commit suicide after a breakup because this is totally unbearable pain. Anyone would rather be hit by a truck than go through this,so I don't understand how some people can say that they are grateful for such an awful experience. I've been heartbroken a few times but Im nowhere near thankful for ANY of those experiences.

 

I was one of those people that wish that things would of gone right the first time. (Like my parents) Things happen for a reason, but I have yet to see the reason why not just my recent breakup but ALOT of things have happened in my life.

 

Anyways after this recent breakup I definitely don't believe in the "one" theory and don't believe in all the bull***t that comes with serious relationships. I rather do casual dating and sex and just worry about not catching an STD rather than catching feelings for someone. Seriously. I think I will resent my last EX for the rest of my life. Even if the ONE comes along sooner or later.

 

Anyways. Please share your opinions thoughts on your views on relationships and breakups. Im interested in knowing other people's views which most are probably going to be different from mine LOL

[harassed]

Your just saying this because you are hurt. Falling in love is inevitable but your not being brave, nor strong! A situation is easy to deal with as long as you understand what the situation is that you are facing and society now a days has changed and there are more opportunities today and more responsibility today on women. For relationships to be successful for you, you need to look at yourself and resolve the issues you are having. Is a relationship for you merely, just the feelings that the other person brings you. I think I regret the game that was played recently but I wouldn't change what I learned from it.. In life you have to have your life and fully be aware of what you are, where you are, what you want and all that fun stuff. When you are at a point where you have reached that then will come a time when you say, somethings missing and begin to date or someone comes along and changes your life.. You have to look at relationships from another perspective. The better person you become, the better person you will attract and right now you are hurt. It will pass and when you can resolve the pain then you will be able to look at that other person without the need to block him or her out. It'll happen on your own time!

[Emaize3]

Kztar- I totally feel you. I have had many failed relationships (long term). They all say they are fine with kids and guess what? They leave. Mine aren't young.. They're teens and spend most of their time with friends. I feel like I should just give up or just date and forget a relationship. It sucks, because the last guy was my absolute love-- and poof gone! I can't trust again. So maybe just play the field?? Even though I don't want that.

[kztar]

Harrased you are right I am hurt, however my opinion on relationships has maintained the same for many years. I thought this guy would be the exception but basically he just confirmed that my opinions remains the same. I'll probable be single for another four years and then hopefully, ill find someone to marry.

 

Emaize3 I think that too many people don't really know how to maintain a serious relationship. Getting into one is EASY maintaining is hard and requires ALOT of work. But people these days have way too many options to feel like they have to work for a relationship. That is like a living hell for this world. Why would they work when they could go try with someone else instead of working with that they have?. Also being single is way too glorified in America. I am not american where people actually believe in commitment. These guys make you fall in love and then once you get there they go on checkout mode. Its time for their next victim. I know you don't want to play the field but honestly thats the best option right now. Then hopefully someone plays the field long enough with you to earn your trust. Im def playing the field again. I did it for four years and I was living the dream until this idiot decided to stand in my way of finding true love SMH

[Emaize3]

Ditto! Everything you said is correct. Too many people want to be single and refuse to "work" on a relationship. I was always ready to work hard at my relationship, had I been aware that there was an issue. The whole "giving up" and "checking out" is bs! I think I will play the field and not let my guard down unless I find someone I feel that is worthy, then we'll go from there. Sucks when you keep thinking you already found them.

[deckard11]

Here's my view:

 

Love- Isn't real

Relationships- Never had one

Breakups- See answer for relationships

[Emaize3]

We may be bitter but it's what I know too. Having your heart ripped out over and over! Wow

[kztar]

So on point guys. SMH. I think that having your heart ripped out a few times is def enough to give you a different view on relationships