OnlyHonesty Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Ive lost count of the number of times Ive heard slight variations of the OPs post. It is easy to get carried away in the online thing because fantasy is easier than reality. The longer you take to meet, the more likely this connection will fail when / if you do ever meet because each of you would have built up an image that is easily disappointed by real life. Talking online has a different psychological impact than talking in person too. You should also be honest and ask yourself why out the millions of single local women you end u interested in one so far away.
mortensorchid Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Guy, be reasonable here. I know nothing about you, but remember this about both OLD as well as a LDR: First, you two have never met in the flesh as of this posting. Sometimes when you meet someone face to face it's a whole different ballgame than interactions on email, text, IM, etc. Even if you have phone calls or use something like Skype, that is still limited to who this person really is. I hope that this person is as great as you say she is, and let's say for the sake of argument, she is. Remember this about at LDR: If you are not seeing each other at least once a month, you tend to do a lot of fantasizing about the place that the person lives as well as the person themselves. And then when you are together, you're in this great rush to have a good time (and since we're all adults here I can say this) and jump in the sack with what time you do have together. That will ultimately end up feeding the fantasy even further. To make it truly work, one party will have to move to be near the other. That is further down the road for you at this point, but do either one of you want to end up uprooting and moving to a city where you don't know anyone and be quite miserable if it doesn't work? If the answer is "I don't know" or "yes", it will end up being "no" in another few weeks. I hate to sound negative and uptight but, facts are facts here and things that are to be considered. I hope this gal is as wonderful as you think she is and it works, I'm not saying that, but also be in reality.
Phoenician Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 The truth won't be revealed except when u meet . I believe ppl who meet in a place like LS know each other due to the fact that prior to their engagement they see each other stories in its basic form , hence we are vulnerable here as we are unknown .
deep_night Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 with the distance you only got her self-perception... doesnt mean it's a realistic perception though. i dont want to disappoint you but it's pretty common. wait to see her actions.
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