Jacob_22 Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 (edited) Granted, I'm happy with the friendship, but I don't know, I feel like I want to be in a relationship with this person. I feel she best represents my values, and is really sweet and understanding. She got out of a long relationship a while back, and she isn't ready, so I don't want to be the rebound guy. (Never dated, but even I understand what this means) I guess what I'm trying to get at is, how long will it take for her to get over this? I can't just ask her. That would be rude. I have also thought of other people, but my heart is set out on her and her happiness. I guess I just feel conflicted. Need advice from those who have been here before would help. Thanks in advance! Edited March 1, 2016 by Jacob_22
neowulf Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Granted, I'm happy with the friendship, but I don't know, I feel like I want to be in a relationship with this person. I feel she best represents my values, and is really sweet and understanding. She got out of a long relationship a while back, and she isn't ready, so I don't want to be the rebound guy. (Never dated, but even I understand what this means) I guess what I'm trying to get at is, how long will it take for her to get over this? I can't just ask her. That would be rude. I have also thought of other people, but my heart is set out on her and her happiness. Need advice from those who have been here before would help. Thanks in advance! Ok, well here's a couple of things. Firstly, you've got to figure out if this girl could ever actually be interested in a relationship with you. Secondly, once you lay those cards on the table, it's potentially going to be difficult to go back to simply being friends. So, if this is someone you really want to date, just tell her. Don't wait around for the "right moment". You say "I'm attracted, yes I'd like to take you out some time" and throw the dice. Waiting for the "right time" is just another excuse people give themselves to avoid the risk of rejection. Don't make assumptions about another persons feelings.
Author Jacob_22 Posted March 1, 2016 Author Posted March 1, 2016 Ok, well here's a couple of things. Firstly, you've got to figure out if this girl could ever actually be interested in a relationship with you. Secondly, once you lay those cards on the table, it's potentially going to be difficult to go back to simply being friends. So, if this is someone you really want to date, just tell her. Don't wait around for the "right moment". You say "I'm attracted, yes I'd like to take you out some time" and throw the dice. Waiting for the "right time" is just another excuse people give themselves to avoid the risk of rejection. Don't make assumptions about another persons feelings. Well, I just asked her, and she said she's not ready. But she is interested in me, just not ready. 1
road Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Well, I just asked her, and she said she's not ready. But she is interested in me, just not ready. Great news. Just continue being a good friend and try to do fun activities from time to time. Not dates per say but showing her that you are fun to be with.
neowulf Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 Well, I just asked her, and she said she's not ready. But she is interested in me, just not ready. Well played You got your answer. No more guessing. Now you just have to decide how long it'll take for her to "be ready". Just don't allow yourself to be strung along forever huh. Good luck!
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