Astron Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 A few days ago I met an amazing girl (22) at a friend's wedding, here in Germany, but she will turn back in Canada next week. I found her great since I saw her, but I didn't want to approach her as I knew this info from start. I thought it's better to "protect" myself and not hurt me or her. However, I realized she stares at me, but I was still trying to avoid her. After a few hours she came and told me that she thinks I'm cute. I didn't want to behave like a nerd so we danced together, talked a bit, spent time together. It was also a bit awkward for me as her parents were there too. Anyway, we felt amazing. In the end I drove them home and we kissed. Obviously, I got a crush on her and I tend to believe the vice-versa is also true. Next day she had to leave for visiting the country for a few days with her relatives and the wedding couple. She wrote me that she doesn't know how much time is left for us to meet in the upcoming days. I know she will be in the weekend here and I know from the groom that she thinks now what I was thinking in the first place... that she doesn't want to hurt me by meeting, as she will leave. It is possible we will go out in a club in a bigger group in the weekend. Should I go? Should I insist for a meeting before her leaving? Currently I can't stop thinking at her. I would be happy even to have a simple talk with her. Will it hurt me that much after? Am i making a mistake if we meet and get even more intimate, let's suppose even get laid and then she'll leave? Will we dream even more at each other? I've never encountered something like this. I'd appreciate some feedback, especially if someone passed through something similar.
doeblin Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 You barely know this girl. A week ago you didn't even know she existed. There are millions of interesting, smart and pretty girls in Europe. Move on. 3
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Think of her as the "one who got away". Let her be your mysterious foreign beauty & you two were two ships that passed in the night. It's not real. It may be a great crush / awesome fantasy but the distance & immigration issues make it unrealistic to pursue. 1
yxalitis Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 There are millions of interesting, smart and pretty girls in Europe. Move on. This should just be re quoted by everyone 1
Erik30 Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Just go and have some fun with her. It's just a crush and you barely know her. But you do seem to be pretty serious about someone you just met, so she might have picked up on that and that's why she said she didn't want to hurt you.
smackie9 Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 She is not worth the investment for a relationship, but ok for a temporary fling.
Erik30 Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 I think the real reason why she said there wasn't enough time to meet is that she noticed you can't do casual.
Author Astron Posted March 2, 2016 Author Posted March 2, 2016 Well, I realize a relationship is almost impossible. This is not the problem. My concern is if going out with her before her leaving, is worth or not? If it's worth to meet her just to have some fun? If it will affect me emotionally even more after her departure?
d0nnivain Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 My concern is if going out with her before her leaving, is worth or not? If it's worth to meet her just to have some fun? If it will affect me emotionally even more after her departure? That depends on you. You know yourself. If one great date is going to make you depressed don't do it. But if you can go with an open mind knowing that this is all there is, & you will savor this memory forever, it could be a lot of fun. Remember we regret more in life the things we don't do then the chances we took even if they don't work out.
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