RecentChange Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Thinking about this one, def. just one - I have uttered to two different people, but the first one was teenage puppy love.... Further - I have never had my heart broken, I am still with that "one love". Unless I pass away first - some day my heart will be broken by him. Like someone else pointed out, ALL relationships come to an end one way or another. I will always remember a powerful sociology course I took in college called "Death and Dying". The professor stressed how EVERY relationship we have, be it our closest friend, with our parents, with our lover, WILL come to an end. Maybe you will just drift apart, maybe there will be a dramatic parting of ways, maybe one will die - but in one way or another, it will come to end. Everything on this earth does. A heavy thought for the young and idealistic! So, perhaps I will will leave this earth first, or he will. Or perhaps we will drift apart, or perhaps it will be dramatic.... An analogy I like - Our love is like a vessel. The more you love, the more it is filled, and the bigger that vessel gets - conversely, the bigger the vessel, the greater the capacity for loss, for sorrow and pain when that love leaves.... Loving deeply, with full knowledge that the greater the love, the greater the loss, and that ALL relationships will come to an end - its kinda scary. It takes bravery. 1
Woggle Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Two women I was truly in love with. One was my first wife who I don't wish to see ever again and the other is my current wife who I wish to be in love with for the rest of our lives.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 For me it's only been 2 people. My first wife who I was with for a total of 13 years and my 2nd wife whom I've been with for 4 years.
kodakgirl Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 Two for me, though only one mutually. (I'm 28 for reference)
darkbloom Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 I think that this is a very interesting thread. I never thought I would ever fall in love. I did though, once. Not sure if he truly loved me back. Even though he broke my heart and treated me poorly, I really did love him. Don't know if lighting will strike twice. 1
TunaCat Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 One. I've only ever been on one first date. Had one first kiss. One first time etc. I've only ever been in love with one person. The person I thought I'd spend forever with. The person everyone thought I'd marry someday.
mikeylo Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 3. First love was puppy love at 16. Lasted a year , full on high but it wasn't real , now that I think about it. It was very real at that point. Second time around , she was superficial while I loved her a lot. Third time , I wasn't looking ! The luckiest time of my life. Married her quickly before anyone took her away off the shelf ! Many fake loves - bedtime buddies, whom one says ' I love you ' only while doing the deed.
Taucher Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 Twice. Both reciprocated. My wife and one previous ex who I was with for 5 years. Different women, different type of relationships but pure love. T
ltjg45 Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 Currently zero. Still having a hard time finding a woman that I can actually tolerance.
PickledHead Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 number I have genuinly thought I was in love with is 4. True count appears to be one My childhood boyfriend - I definately loved him. Until we split up an I met my first serious boyfriend. I definately loved him and he made me realise what I had with school boyfriend wasn't love. Then we split up after a number of years and a few months down the line I met who I thought was the man of my dreams - I definately loved this one, so much so I married him. It made what I felt for first serious boyfriend insignifanct and I realised that had never really been love either. Then my marriage broke down and After some single time I met someone else who I definately love and has made me question If it was actually love with my husband!! I thought I loved them all at the time but I think if I doubt it now then it can't have been true love! Surely proper love is never questionable
Otter2569 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 2 I was convinced that my last GF was the love of m life. It was unlike anything Ive ever experienced. If you know the story, you know the story. Still brings me to tears thinking about it...this damm post makes me teary eyed...but it is what it is. Life goes on and so do I!
Tayla Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Three. Now that I think about it...I bet I dated the Three stooges!! Seriously its a blessing to experience it even once, so to share love in life with another and learn from it....Let it come again. And any mother will tell you...you fall in love with your child in a way that has zero to do with the love in an adult relationship. and more to do with unconditional pure love ....I seriously had such adoration for my kids....and still do.
The Poster Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 (edited) Two for me, though only one mutually. (I'm 28 for reference) Pretty much exactly the same for me, except I'm 29. I've loved two girls, but one didn't reciprocate (as far as I know). Edited March 3, 2016 by The Poster
dichotomy Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Two. I have been told I was loved by a number of women. I suspect only one really did (to my view of love), and one might finally love me now in a way I understand. 1
WaitingForBardot Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 My number is 10... I fall in love easily. I'm not needy, nor have ever lacked options, it's just the way I'm wired. Mrs WfB says it's because I'm a sl#t and indiscriminate, which is not really true in any larger sense, but there are elements of truth to it. The upside is that I've never been dogged by the kinds of insecurities people seem to have about whether they'll ever find love (or again); every time I'm single I know someone else will be along before too long, I just have to be patient.
phillyisfun Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I'm prone to emotion and infatuation, However, as for actual, real love... 5 people in my lifetime
jen1447 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 We'd have to define "in love" in a consistent, broadly applicable way before this discussion could really be useful. Otherwise we're just comparing random figures arrived at in random ways by random ppl otherwise known as randomness. 2
WaitingForBardot Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 We'd have to define "in love" in a consistent, broadly applicable way before this discussion could really be useful. Otherwise we're just comparing random figures arrived at in random ways by random ppl otherwise known as randomness. I suspect your answer is a bit tongue-in-cheek, not to mention a bit random since you didn't actually answer the question , but I disagree. Some may think love is light/airy, others may think it is deep/profound, and others may think it as all of the above. And though we all may perceive love differently, what matters is the number of times we think/perceive we have been in love. I'd bet dollars to donuts that even if brain imaging revealed a specific brain activity associated with love, we'd all still feel it in our own way. Kind of a tortured analogy, but it's similar to the age old philosophical question of color perception. You and I may perceive the color yellow completely differently; it might look yellow to you and purple to me, but because we're trained since birth to identify a specific set of wavelengths as yellow, we will always call them yellow regardless of how we actually perceive them.
LydiaLong Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I love that line about 'the slow discipline of love.' Very insightful.
SammySammy Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Two. Five serious relationships. Several other lovers. Only two true loves.
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