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I went out with this guy which i met online for a first date. I think i look kind of different in pictures than in real life so i dont know if he is still interested in me after the first date but these are some of the things he did during our date.

 

1)There was eyeliner mark on my hand so he gently hold my hand and rub it off

 

2)He was all over me and keep touching me whenever we're on the escalator. For example, he put his hand on my shoulder and pinch my cheeks. Afterwards, I kissed his hands and then he kiss his hand which I kissed on earlier

 

3)He grab my waist, hold my hand when crossing the road and gently massage my hand while walking. He give me a side hug too while walking and rub my head

 

4)He gave me this intense stare whenever i'm not looking. And even though i told him not to look, he still do. I tried covering his eyes when he keep staring at me too.

 

5) When we were laughing at something, he would side me a side hug and i realised he tried to sit closer to me.

 

6) He touch my chin and said there's something but actually there wasn't anything.

 

BUT above of all that, we didnt talk much and he didnt ask much things about me. it was rather awkward and we walk silently LOL.

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he left me for awhile to talk to his friends whom he bump to while another friend of his accompany me.

 

After date he only messaged me "be careful when you go home bby" Afterwards, I said sorry for not giving him a kiss since i promised to give him one before we met so i said:

 

Me: "Sorry i didnt give you a kiss!"

Him: "why? i was waiting for it"

Me: "cos the time is not right"

Him: "haha ok no problem"

Me:"Next time when we meet okay!"

Him: "hhahah ok. So there's still next time. why?"

Me: "Because i feel bad. That is if you want to go out again though"

Him: why u feel bad bby. ya ofc why not"

 

 

He didnt intiate another date but i did instead. That kind of shows he is not that interested in me? But he did mentioned and ask if we can french kiss one day after the date. Is he only interested in being flings?

 

Appreciate every single reply. THANK YOU

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Sounds like he just wants to get you into bed.......

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katiegrl Established Member

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Sounds like he just wants to get you into bed.......

 

^^^This and stay away from guys who call you "bby" after the first date.

 

You had ONE date, you are not his "bby* ....jesus.

 

Player ploy for sure.

 

And instead of obsessing how HE feels about you, you should be questioning why you like him!

 

IMO, his behavior was gross...and I would have been outta there.

 

Next.

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Dump this dude. He wants you in a bed naked so he can pound you all night. That is his only goal.

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urmm actually he already called me baby before our date...idk if he's just like that or he is really playing around. I'm not interested in him but more of like im interested to know if i am actually good looking because im really insecure of myself and hopefully my first date could validate my attractiveness based on how he treat me. :/

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Sounds like a smooth operator. He's calling you "baby" on the first date? Ick.

 

You both didn't talk much and he didn't make an attempt to get to know you as you stated -- but he surely is looking forward to that french kiss. :sick:

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Dump this dude. He wants you in a bed naked so he can pound you all night. That is his only goal.

 

Yup, and OP this is not a compliment.

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im interested to know if i am actually good looking because im really insecure of myself and hopefully my first date could validate my attractiveness based on how he treat me. :/

 

The only one that validates you is YOU. You don't go seeking approval from people as to your value and self-worth. That only breeds more insecurity.

 

If you are insecure then work on loving and improving yourself. You define you. You don't go seeking that from others.

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but well i already made it clear to him that i will never have sex with any man. If he only wants sex from women, find other girls and dont talk to me. But he is still persistent about it and wants to meet even though i am very rude and bitchy to him in text.

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but well i already made it clear to him that i will never have sex with any man. If he only wants sex from women dont find other girls and dont talk to me. But he is still persistent about it and wants to meet even though i am very rude and bitchy to him in text.

 

Of course. He's going to try and break you. Your bitchyness and rudeness doesn't phase him because he has a goal. And he knows you like the attention he's giving you. At some point you'll give him sex. Some guys can wait for the goodies.

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but i dont get why must he go through all those savage and bitchy text i sent to him just to make him leave when he could get it easier from other girls?

 

the way i talk to him is

 

"if you only want sex **** off dont bother talking to me cause i wont give you any and wont change my mind"

 

"if you cant even type properly dont talk to me"

 

"dont even dare to touch me during the date unless i give you permission"

 

But well, he is still persistent about meeting me....

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but well i already made it clear to him that i will never have sex with any man. If he only wants sex from women, find other girls and dont talk to me. But he is still persistent about it and wants to meet even though i am very rude and bitchy to him in text.

 

Sometimes "hard to get" girls really get them interested, but as soon as he gets what he wants, he will drop you like a hot potato.

To some guys "the chase" is all, once he has you, you are no longer of interest.

 

This "all over me" style of touching on the first date is a ploy used by some men, and it obviously worked here.

He is Mr Octopus but he has no conversation, so what is attractive to you about this guy?

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You came here asking for advice with regards to his intent. You received unanimous responses.

 

Did you give him permission to touch you at the date and that is why he was touching you all throughout the date? It's all silly passive game playing on your part. And he knows it. You try to act bad ass but you're not. You're insecure and he can probably smell it.

 

Meet him again. You'll likely get your answers the hard way.

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***urmm actually he already called me baby before our date..

 

 

.idk if he's just like that or he is really playing around. I'm not interested in him but more of like im interested to know if i am actually good looking because im really insecure of myself and hopefully my first date could validate my attractiveness based on how he treat me. :/

 

Before the date? That's even worse!

 

If it had been me, there would have been no date!

 

I suspected you were insecure, and men like him prey on women like you.

 

Don't fall for it!

 

Value yourself... respect yourself ...block this guy.....he's bad news.

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but i dont get why must he go through all those savage and bitchy text i sent to him just to make him leave when he could get it easier from other girls?

 

the way i talk to him is

 

"if you only want sex **** off dont bother talking to me cause i wont give you any and wont change my mind"

 

"if you cant even type properly dont talk to me"

 

"dont even dare to touch me during the date unless i give you permission"

 

But well, he is still persistent about meeting me....

 

Because right now you are a big challenge and men love challenges!

 

Don't fall for it! He doesn't like *you*, he likes the *challenge*.

 

A man who actually liked you would be put off by your bytchy texts and stop contacting you.

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but well i already made it clear to him that i will never have sex with any man.

 

"if you only want sex **** off dont bother talking to me cause i wont give you any and wont change my mind"

 

 

Like, ever?

 

 

My guess is that this guy was just f*cking with you.

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I have a different take.

 

You admit to being awful to this guy, yet he keeps coming. You told him you would not have sex with him. Yet, he keeps coming. the fact that he didn't initiate another date may mean he thinks you are not interested.

 

At a minimum you are acting like a tease. You promised him a kiss before you met then didn't follow through but you keep on talking about kisses.

 

While he may very well be the type that just wants to see if he can break you despite your protests to the contrary, all of the things he did are probably his way of trying to romance you. Whether he's doing that because he genuinely likes you or just wants the challenge of another notch on his bed post I can't tell form your posts because you come across as naive so I can't trust your perception. There were a few too many "baby's" in here for my taste but he wouldn't be the 1st guy to erroneously think the overuse of that term is the epitome of suave.

 

If you enjoyed spending time with him & want to see him again, by all means do so.

 

If you think he's playing you & trying to use you, walk away.

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I have a different take.

 

You admit to being awful to this guy, yet he keeps coming. You told him you would not have sex with him. Yet, he keeps coming.

 

Yeah he keeps coming because he has a goal (sex) and she is a big challenge.

 

Guys who care... who have feelings .......would never keep coming back to a chick who treated him that way....they'd be put off, hurt.... precisely because they like her.

 

Unless they're insecure with no self-respect and after the way this guy treated her on the first date (calling her baby, etc., even before the date), all touchy feely, he doesn't strike me as the insecure, needy type.

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Yeah he keeps coming because he has a goal (sex) and she is a big challenge.

 

Guys who care... who have feelings .......would never keep coming back to a chick who treated him that way....they'd be put off, hurt.... precisely because they like her.

 

Unless they're insecure with no self-respect and after the way this guy treated her on the first date (calling her baby, etc., even before the date), all touchy feely, he doesn't strike me as the insecure, needy type.

 

 

Maybe. But there is a slight chance that he's playing at being the Romeo. The stuff he did was so cheesy. It struck me as a guy who might not know any better.

 

 

Again, I could size this guy up in a heartbeat IRL but only from the OPs description, which I don't trust, it's hard to be definitive.

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If I were that touchy feely on a first date, I'm sure I would have been slapped, punched, maced?

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Maybe. But there is a slight chance that he's playing at being the Romeo. The stuff he did was so cheesy. It struck me as a guy who might not know any better.

 

 

Again, I could size this guy up in a heartbeat IRL but only from the OPs description, which I don't trust, it's hard to be definitive.

 

This could be true. I wouldn't discount it.

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This may sound like a small thing....but IMO calling her "baby" before even meeting speaks volumes.

 

Who does this? A guy who wants to set up a false familiarity/intimacy so that when you finally do meet..... you feel all comfy cozy with him and have sex with him.

 

Oh no, he knows what he's doing....he knows exactly what he's doing.

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I'm a guy and I find it creepy for a man to call a woman "baby" he doesn't know too well.

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I'm a guy and I find it creepy for a man to call a woman "baby" he doesn't know too well.

 

Thank you! Exactly my point.... :)

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urmm actually he already called me baby before our date...idk if he's just like that or he is really playing around. I'm not interested in him but more of like im interested to know if i am actually good looking because im really insecure of myself and hopefully my first date could validate my attractiveness based on how he treat me. :/

 

Uh your insecurities are a problem. If you are insecure with low self esteem and/or needing validation and/or with no boundaries may I suggest counseling? There are a **** load of guys out there that prey on these kinds of girls. I swear there must be a class on how to identify these girls. Being one or more of these makes it so easy for the guy to land you in bed. I know it's easier said than done but you need to work on this.

 

You can be butt ugly with loads of zits dripping with pus and two inch scars all over your face - the guy is still going to tell you you are the most beautiful chick he has ever seen. You are going to hear this, it's going to jack up your emotions make you feel in love with this man and from there it's easy sailing for him. Be confident in who you are have high self esteem dignity and self respect and you will be OK. In the meantime dump this douche bag.

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