Can bad first sex make the girl lose interest?

[carolinabluee]

Had a great first date but the sex was awful. I was way to excited

 

She kissed me when she left and said no reason why we cant go out again

 

should i believe her or should i just move on?

[basil67]

My definition of 'awful sex' is a guy who doesn't know the concept of foreplay. Or who thrusts like a jackhammer. If this is what happened, then you could be in trouble.

 

But if you were an attentive lover who was simply too excited and came quickly, don't worry about it. Women do know that men can blow their load early due to being super horny.

[smackie9]

some do some won't.

[Shanex]

Consider yourself lucky if there's a second round. . And try to do better.

[Satu]

“These violent delights have violent ends

And in their triumph die, like fire and powder,

Which as they kiss consume. The sweetest honey

Is loathsome in his own deliciousness

And in the taste confounds the appetite.

Therefore love moderately; long love doth so;

Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.”

 

― William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

[AMJ]

It really depends on how bad is "bad". We need details.

[Shanex]

It really depends on how bad is "bad". We need details.

 

Way too excited makes me think of being premature. OP?

 

Why isn't this in the sexual subforum by the way? Well it's in between dating and sex so okay,

Edited March 1, 2016 by Shanex

[yxalitis]

Way too excited makes me think of being premature. OP?

 

Why isn't this in the sexual subforum by the way? Well it's in between dating and sex so okay,

 

I never understood why premature means bad sex..

 

hang on...wait until I explain!

 

Yes, sometimes when you're young, you may come too quick...

So, kiss more, give oral, get hard again, go again...sheesh, it's not rocket surgery guys!

The second time you will last longer too.

And the third is for keeps.

[AMJ]

I never understood why premature means bad sex..

 

 

I just never understand why men feel so embarrassed about premature. I always feel like it's a compliment.

[central]

First times are often bad. If that continues the second or third time, you may not be sexually compatible. It often takes a few tries to learn what works, and get over the initial nervousness.

[Rumely]

It can, but the only way you'll know for sure is by asking her out again. If it happens again, you have figures and a mouth! Make sure she leaves happy one way or the other.

[Randomlyrandomme]

Depends on the sex

 

Depends on the girl.

[Grumpybutfun]

“These violent delights have violent ends

And in their triumph die, like fire and powder,

Which as they kiss consume. The sweetest honey

Is loathsome in his own deliciousness

And in the taste confounds the appetite.

Therefore love moderately; long love doth so;

Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.”

 

― William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

 

Exactly....

Act like nothing was amiss, and then learn and practice edging...

G

[Lady2163]

I'm also not sure what you mean by bad sex.

 

My exH was awful in bed the first few times. Horrendous. He broke up with me, then a couple days later came to talk to me. We were in the military, in a small unit, overseas. He had gone out with the boys after breaking up with me and had gone to a brothel. That led to the conversation about his experience and he probably had only had sex a dozen times. I blurted out, "well, no wonder it is so awful...."

 

We worked on it and he got much better, learned my body, learned his a bit better. He was good enough that I married him.

 

Damnedest thing. Once I put that ring on him, he developed some kind of amnesia and seemed to forget what got my revved up. I dunno what happened in that church.

 

You always hear jokes about women thinking they will never give another blow job after they get married. I had the reverse. After we got married, he seemed to think I was never supposed to have another orgasm and sex was all about him. I'm really not exaggerating.

 

So, I don't know what went wrong with you, but slow down, take plenty of time to learn her body. Then take some more time. Pack a lunch, stay for the day.

 

I'd give a second chance, I'd even give a third chance. In my late 30s I found my voice in the bedroom. I'm also an advocate for lots of talking and flirting outside of the bedroom. I've said this in another post, some conversations need to happen when you're clothes are on, not when you're naked and vulnerable.

 

But after three times of showing, telling and demonstrating, if he wasn't doing what I wanted, I'd give up. One problem with the exH, it excited him to have me describe and tell him what to do. It bored me to tears and kept me from fully relaxing and entering the wonderful orgasm zone, because he always seemed to want to have a conversation about every moan and groan. Even though we discussed this in marriage counseling and the counseled explained that removing his face from the clitoris to ask me, "What do you want me to do?" 50 times (exaggeration) essentially hit the reset button every time he did that and he was starting over. He STILL did it.

 

So, don't do that! :-)

[edgygirl]

Compliment yes, but kills the whole thing. And leaves you wanting more with a dead body by your side...

 

I just never understand why men feel so embarrassed about premature. I always feel like it's a compliment.

[katiegrl]

Consider yourself lucky if there's a second round. . And try to do better.

 

And him stressing about "doing better" is precisely why he won't do better!

 

OP, relax, and stay out of your head. Let things happen spontaneously...naturally.

 

Putting too much pressure on yourself to do it/get it right = epic fail.

 

Try and chill, she's just a girl trying to connect with a guy.

[Shanex]

And him stressing about "doing better" is precisely why he won't do better!

 

OP, relax, and stay out of your head. Let things happen spontaneously...naturally.

 

Putting too much pressure on yourself to do it/get it right = epic fail.

 

Try and chill, she's just a girl trying to connect with a guy.

 

 

Gah.. that was my lazy answer. I could have done better if the OP actually replied and gave some more details. Just like too often on these threads.

[Jabron1]

Compliment yes, but kills the whole thing. And leaves you wanting more with a dead body by your side...

 

I honestly can't believe that a guy would just say to you 'right, I'm done' and just go to sleep (well, any guy out of his teenage years).

 

There are plenty of ways of getting a woman off. What's the point in men watching porn, if they aren't going to learn anything?

 

I have learnt so much from watching lesbian porn, it's not even funny.

[carolinabluee]

I just came way too early and was pretty embarassed. she was teasing me like crazy i couldnt control it

[Lady2163]

I just came way too early and was pretty embarassed. she was teasing me like crazy i couldnt control it

 

Believe it or not, that may not be bad sex for her. I love it when teasing gets a man that excited.

 

There's a couple of things you can do.

 

I don't know how old you are, what your recovery time is or how sensitive your penis is after sex. Anyway-

 

Make sure you only have sex when you have time for more than one round.

 

Just because you came, doesn't mean the party is over. Take a shower together and afterwards dive back in with your mouth and hands. You,give her a g spot orgasm and it won't matter if you came too early.

 

Take matters in hand before you get together again. Yup, masturbate and get that out of your system.

[AMJ]

I just came way too early and was pretty embarassed. she was teasing me like crazy i couldnt control it

 

You mean she teased you after you came early? Or she teased you/turned you on which is why you came early?

 

If she made fun of you, then she's pretty dumb and immature.

 

In college a guy came around 15 seconds in to me giving him a hand job. We never had sex. I think we slept next to each other all night fully clothed, lol. And this happened in the morning. I was not at all experienced and didn't really think anything of it. But his reaction was the worst- he got mad at me! He refused to speak to me, completely shut down...if I remember correctly I think he even asked me to leave. At that point I had the idea that he was just really embarrassed.

 

Anyway, it's all about how you handle this situation. It's not a big deal, so don't make it a big deal. There's lots of things you can do to make her feel good, and maybe even go for round 2. But if you get mad or pout or something, then yes it's a turnoff for women.

[carolinabluee]

she was teasing me beforehand and i couldnt get it bak up either.to much alcohol

[carolinabluee]

i got a second dat ethough