Pillow Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 I met him last year but neither one of us were looking/thinking about dating. We met again at a hotel this year. First, he noticeably stammered when he met me that his friends looked at me and then him. From what I remember, he never stumbles over his words but he was drunk so? After that, he somewhat avoided me. Then, he asked me what I did for a living and I told him. He then gave me his card with his number and told me he wanted me to look at some things of his. He told me if I didn't feel comfortable asking for money, I could at least allow him to take me out to lunch. I was surprised by this but I assumed he was just being business-like by the seriousness of his face. Then, all of our friends went to bed. He was like, "It looks like it's just us two," while looking at me from the side and smiling. He had first said he was going to bed early, but he must've changed his mind. It was a bizarre/fun/hilarious time. We had fun until 6:30 am. He also said he wasn't going to bed at 6:30 am, until he saw me get in. He changed his mind then too. We finally got in bed together and he cuddled and surprised-kissed me! I returned the kiss and cuddle. He told me "this may be a bad idea" because my other guy friend is interested in me. Indignant, I told him I was single and not interested in that guy. Then, I proceeded to lightly touch him. He did not shy away. We slept very close together. The next day, we hung out again, but he was back to being polite/standoffish and not the carefree spirit he is when he's drunk. He's observant of me though and I catch him staring and watching me and remembering certain details about my life. I returned the coolness because I was not sure the reason why. I figured perhaps he regretted kissing me? Or maybe he wore booze googles the other day? His friends asked him about girls and they all looked at me when they asked him. I do hear that he is single. When his friends left, it was me, him and my poor guy friend. We hung out again and he was back to his usual self. He laughed at my jokes/introduced me to people and was fun to be around. When he dropped me off at home, he got out of the car and asked me again to hang out. We hugged goodbye. The next day I messaged him that I lost his card and that I was open to hanging out this weekend. The day after that, he gave me his number again and told me to text him, but said he would be busy with work. I wondered if he was rejecting me. My last text was an animal pic but he hasn't respond. Then, being the woman I am, I saw that he was planning to attend a free event in an industry he works in, and I went. So, I get there and observe. He's not flirting with girls. Just hanging out with his buds and enjoying the event. I build up the courage and finally say hello. He seems happy and pleased to see me and we hit it off again. I have to leave early and he asked me how i'm getting home/where I'm going. We hug goodbye again. TL:DR: I think he is interested but I'm not sure, but here's what I want. I think a netflix and chill with wine kind of date would be great, but I don't want to scare him off by being forward. I would love to makeout with his face and other things-ha. I haven't had sex/kisses in over a year. I haven't texted him again since the event. I am also okay with a fwb situation or something more. My feelings for men grow or decrease based on physical contact so just going out on coffee date won't do it for me. I wondering if I should text him and ask. Or should i just slow down and wait until I see him again and ask if he's interested then?
Shanex Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 I liked your story and I've been there too. Chickened out with a 'friend' in bed, I know how ambiguous is that, we were in my bed, both tipsy after our mutual friends left my place. And I.. hesitated, exactly like this guy did, I was around your age as well. Probably some idiots would have told me to 'grow a pair'. We didn't kiss though but we intentionally cuddled, slightly. I don't think I dodged a bullet looking back, but it might have became awkward having been friends for a couple of years and having mutual friends gossiping about it.
PogoStick Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Why not invite him over? What do you have to lose? If not him, I'm sure you can find plenty of other guys who are willing to meet your needs.
Author Pillow Posted March 2, 2016 Author Posted March 2, 2016 I did it. I asked him over! He agreed!! He wasn't offended at all lol. Funny bc if a guy had asked me to his place, I'd be offended but men are easier to please. He says that sounds fun but says he is traveling for work and says maybe when he gets back as in a question to me. I'm going to respond back that's fine/yes. Hope this is an example ladies! Go for what you want!
Lois_Griffin Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 So....he hung out with you when he was drunk and acted uncomfortable around you when he sobered up. You continued being in touch with him until he stopped the contact after your last text. Not content to take the hint and leave him be, you go snooping around to find out if he'll be at an industry event and then coincidentally show up there and reacquaint yourself with him though he doesn't ask you out or talk about seeing you again in the future. So big deal, he asked how you were getting home. His mother raised him to be a goodhearted compassionate guy. That's hardly a huge show of interest. Still not content to take the hint, you basically swallow your pride and invite him over for sex because you can't get his attention any other way. And you're flattered that he said yes and then said 'maybe' when he gets back you can schedule it? Don't be too surprised if he ghosts you again. I do hope he doesn't have a bunny hutch in his backyard and a nice big dutch oven pot beside the stove. Sorry, but I don't see this as an 'example' to ladies at all - unfortunately, it just reeks of desperation. 1
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