MissGuided907 Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 (edited) I met my boyfriend a little over 4 months ago, he is 34 and I am 27. It seems like God truly brought us together. He's everything I prayed for and more. We were both very independent people before meeting each other. I have a steady good paying job and I can afford the things I need to live a happy healthy life. As does he. We are both happy with each other from what I can tell. He's mentally and physically attracted to me and I am to him. I really feel lucky to have him and I'm needing advise on how to keep this going. I've never given a man a chance to stay because I never felt there was a man wirth my devotion. Now here's the tricky part that I haven't been able to share with anyone. Atleast not completely... We moved in together after two weeks of dating. It only seemed right, things were so good with us and we were always together, and I was moving out of my place at the end of the lease. Really it all seemed meant to be. We went with the flow. Which was more like a fast currant. At first when we had sex he always wore a condom. Then after a month we just stopped using them. We talked about having a baby. Neither one of us has kids and both really want kids. But here we are three months latter and no baby to speak of. It's made tensions high. My hormones are up and down. And he's never been with a woman long enough to know how to deal with our monthly cycle and the way we can't control our emotions. So when I cry after he says something that hurts my feelings he gets angry instead of fixing it by saying sorry. Maybe he could just give me a hug. Lately he's been very negative. Doesn't hear me when I speak. And when he does the only response I get is "you talk too much". If we aren't bickering about something the other is or isn't doing then we aren't talking. We are still having sex with the intent of making a baby. Do I stay and work on me and what I'm doing wrong in the relationship or do I go and save my self the inevitable heart break to come? I want a life long partner to raise a family with and so does he. But I'm no good at relationships. I've always been better taking are of me. Edited February 29, 2016 by MissGuided907 Forgot our ages
VeveCakes Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Please don't have a baby at this time. I'm not sure why you would think knowing a man for three months would be suffice to raise a child together. You should wait at least a few years before even considering this. A baby is not a "thing", it's a person whose life will be forever based on your actions. Your issues can be dealt with with simple communication. That's part of a relationship. How old are you both? Have you ever been in a long term relationship? 2
Mr. Lucky Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Please don't have a baby at this time. I'm not sure why you would think knowing a man for three months would be suffice to raise a child together. You should wait at least a few years before even considering this. A baby is not a "thing", it's a person whose life will be forever based on your actions. Couldn't agree more, I wouldn't co-adopt a pet with someone I'd known for 3 months. MG907, I've had a number of things turn out to be important in my life. Looking back, not a single one could have been accurately assessed after two weeks. Why the rush ??? Mr. Lucky
GemmaUK Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 What do you bicker about and does he often put you down? EG: 'You talk too much'.
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