Shouldn't he be the one coming to visit me instead of the other way around?

[Northwestern1011]

Met a guy on tinder. I wasnt aware when I swiped right, that he lived 2 hours away. He, however, was here on vacation, and HE was the one swiping while away. It's not apparent from his profile he doesn't live here, or I would have swiped left.

 

He's taken it upon himself to be my pen pal every.single.day. And in the last week, has started bugging me about "when am I coming to visit him?". The answer: I'm not. I'm not driving 250 miles round trip, to spend a weekend with a guy I've never met. And it's getting old. I generally work part of the weekends, I also drive the vehicle with worse gas mileage, and he has the better job ($$) of the two of us. If he wants to meet me, he can drive up again.

 

Does anyone else agree given he's the one who was tindering while in MY town, he should come to see me if he wants to meet me? Instead of the other way around?

[LoveRefreshed]

who the hell cares. Some random dude 250 miles away wants to hook up. I'm sure you can find some dude 25 miles away that wants to hook up.

[BlueIris]

"Should" doesn't really matter. Just tell him you're not interested since he's too far away. Have confidence in your choices. You don't have to justify them.

[smackie9]

Hit the delete button.....next!

[Wewon]

Met a guy on tinder. I wasnt aware when I swiped right, that he lived 2 hours away. He, however, was here on vacation, and HE was the one swiping while away. It's not apparent from his profile he doesn't live here, or I would have swiped left.

 

He's taken it upon himself to be my pen pal every.single.day. And in the last week, has started bugging me about "when am I coming to visit him?". The answer: I'm not. I'm not driving 250 miles round trip, to spend a weekend with a guy I've never met. And it's getting old. I generally work part of the weekends, I also drive the vehicle with worse gas mileage, and he has the better job ($$) of the two of us. If he wants to meet me, he can drive up again.

 

Does anyone else agree given he's the one who was tindering while in MY town, he should come to see me if he wants to meet me? Instead of the other way around?

 

 

Just from the tone of the OP I don't think that either of you should be making the drive. Neither one of you really wants to do it. The resentment is strong in this one.

[Rumely]

If he wants to make the trip to you, you can see where it goes. If not delete.

[katiegrl]

And in the last week' date=' has started bugging me about "when am I coming to visit him?"[/b'].

 

 

How did you respond?

 

I would have said "I was just about to ask YOU the same thing."

 

Throw it back to him.

[Shining One]

First, you need to determine whether or not you actually want this meet to occur. Assuming that you do, how do you envision it going? Would he drive to you and you would host him at your place?

 

I've never had a first meeting of this nature, but I have had a few long distance arrangements. We always had the understanding: The traveler was responsible for the travel expenses and the host handled all expenses while the traveler was in town. This is a first meeting though, so the "rules" are a bit different.

I also drive the vehicle with worse gas mileage

I wish women in my life would use this logic when determining who should drive.

[katiegrl]

OP, how about agreeing to meet at a half-way point?

[contel3]

This post is funny

 

It really doesn't matter who should visit who, neither of you is ready to put in any effort.

 

Next.

[basil67]

Neither of you is sufficiently interested enough to drive, so why bother meeting him?