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(girl I have been talking to and went on a few dates with)

 

girl: hey

girl: um hello

me: hey how are you

girl: oh look hes alive! busy day today, spent alot of time thinking about you today

me: yea, it was busy here to. aww really thats cute smile.gif did your meetng go well?

her: yea, seems like the promotion will go through

 

 

ok my "aww really thats cutesmile.gif" had to be a horrible awful beta response right?

 

i have no idea why i sent that and i am down right embarrassed by it. Do you think she noticed?

PegNosePete Established Member

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Beta? Are you running PUA script or something?

 

Just ask her out on another date and you will have your answer.

Toodaloo Established Member

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I think you are fretting to much.

 

Ask her out if you want to go out with her.

Qboro90 Established Member

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You did nothing wrong. Perfectly normal reply. Plus the girl said she spent the whole day thinking about you so I think it's safe to say she likes you a lot. Ask her out again.

Tribble Established Member

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Nothing wrong with your text but I feel something went wrong before that. Why the 'um hello'? And what's with the 'oh look he's alive!'. Have you been ignoring her? Not spoke to her for a while? Sounds like she's assumed you aren't interested already.

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paintthehallorange New Member

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Nothing wrong with your text but I feel something went wrong before that. Why the 'um hello'? And what's with the 'oh look he's alive!'. Have you been ignoring her? Not spoke to her for a while? Sounds like she's assumed you aren't interested already.

 

 

no i had talked to her the day before. it wa slate at night and we hadnt texted all day,

 

when she first texted i was out golfing and didnt have my phone .

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(girl I have been talking to and went on a few dates with)

 

girl: hey

girl: um hello

me: hey how are you

girl: oh look hes alive! busy day today, spent alot of time thinking about you today

me: yea, it was busy here to. aww really thats cute smile.gif did your meetng go well?

her: yea, seems like the promotion will go through

 

 

ok my "aww really thats cutesmile.gif" had to be a horrible awful beta response right?

 

i have no idea why i sent that and i am down right embarrassed by it. Do you think she noticed?

 

Yeah, it's lame. It sounds like something a young girl wound send. But, you know it's lame, so just don't do it again. Perhaps you can even turn it into a joke; sometimes I act like a white knight in a really over the top way for a laugh. It sort of tells the woman that I get this behaviour, and I'm going to have fun with it.

 

If you want to talk about being beta, there's nothing more beta than a man fretting about ruining his 'chance' with a woman. That's a scarcity mindset - as if you think that this is some sort of rare opportunity, when it really isn't. I would be more concerned about that, than one bad text.

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Yeah, it's lame. It sounds like something a young girl wound send. But, you know it's lame, so just don't do it again. Perhaps you can even turn it into a joke; sometimes I act like a white knight in a really over the top way for a laugh. It sort of tells the woman that I get this behaviour, and I'm going to have fun with it.

 

If you want to talk about being beta, there's nothing more beta than a man fretting about ruining his 'chance' with a woman. That's a scarcity mindset - as if you think that this is some sort of rare opportunity, when it really isn't. I would be more concerned about that, than one bad text.

 

 

so my text was THAT bad?

hippychick3 Established Member

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I think she was a little put off that she hadn't heard from you all day. The smiley face was in no way "beta". It was a barely acceptable way to respond her thinking about you all day and to not having contacted her since the day before. That smiley face probably kept her interest more than you know.

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so my text was THAT bad?

 

No!

 

We women like smiley faces from guys we are interested in, and she is clearly interested in you.

Jabron1 Established Member

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so my text was THAT bad?

 

:laugh:

 

Using emojis isn't a big deal. But, the 'awww how cute!' is very, very, lame.

 

Text-game in a nutshell: ack/stack. That means you acknowledge what she says, and then you redirect the conversation by stacking on top of whatever she says. This way, she is reacting to you - rather than the other way around.

 

The golden rule of text game is how would you feel if your text was projected on a screen for all your friends and her friends to see?

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Yah, it was lame, but doubt that alone ruined your chances. Even if it did, you win some, you loose some, there are more fish in the sea.

 

 

The bigger issue that you let slide was that she was annoyed with you even before that.

katiegrl Established Member

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OP, if she's into you, the text and smiley were fine. Probably no biggee.

 

If she's not into you, or on the fence, it was cringeworthy IMO or close to.

 

Good news is since she said she had been thinking about you, sounds like she's into you!

 

Oh and hippychick, luv ya girl, but not all women like emojis from guys.

 

Personally I think they're a bit *girly* .....but hey I like my men super masculine, and a bit dominant, not in a controlling way, but in a confident way. Emojis just don't do it for me.

 

And words like "awww that's cute" after telling a guy I was thinking about him?

 

Uh, no. Cringe.

 

Just me!

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hippychick3 Established Member

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OP, if she's into you, the text and smiley were fine. Probably no biggee.

 

If she's not into you, or on the fence, it was cringeworthy IMO or close to.

 

Good news is since she said she had been thinking about you, sounds like she's into you!

 

Oh and hippychick, luv ya girl, but not all women like emojis from guys.

 

Personally I think they're a bit *girly* .....but hey I like my men super masculine, and a bit dominant, not in a controlling way, but in a confident way. Emojis just don't do it for me.

 

And words like "awww that's cute" after telling a guy I was thinking about him?

 

Uh, no. Cringe.

 

Just me!

 

Lol... I guess it totally depends on the girl then. My guy is super alpha and masculine and I love when he uses emojis with me. He doesn't use them with his guy friends, so I just don't see it as girly when he uses them with me.

 

Now, if I wasn't into the guy (which isn't the case with the OP's girl), it would be a TOTAL turn off.

 

Send me a hot emoji using guy any day! Haha :bunny:;):p:laugh::cool:

Jabron1 Established Member

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I think emojis can be indispensable, especially for a guy that is pushing things and teasing over text message. Certain things can be taken the wrong way, or be too forceful without a ;) or a :).

 

Emojis are just a tool, and, like any tool, it's how you use them that counts. Guys that never use them are playing it safe IMO. Nothing wrong with that (I used to), but it's a bit boring.

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Now, if I wasn't into the guy (which isn't the case with the OP's girl), it would be a TOTAL turn off.

 

 

^^Yeah we agree on that!! :p:cool:

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d0nnivain Established Member

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You called her accomplishment "cute". That seemed more demeaning then lame.

 

The emoticons were irrelevant.

 

Stop texting. Actually talk to her. Arrange another date.

 

The fact that she said "he's alive" after only not being in contact for 1 day screams clingy & unreasonable to me but you seem to like it, so carry on.

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Hopefully she doesn't remember it lol

 

Ugh stupid me

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