Candle037 Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Hello, I wanted a completely objective opinion on this. A month ago my ex contacted me and we decided to be friends. He asked me to go out with him to the gym and to play pool sometime. He hasn't messaged me since. I have added him as a friend on Facebook. I am unsure why he would come back and us discuss friendship then him not followup. I have no interest in anything romantic and I told him I want friendship as he did flirt with me and I didn't reciprocate. A little background is we dated for 5 months 2 years ago so I am baffled as to why he has contacted me after this long. When we dated we were very good to each other but distance ended it for us. I had feelings for him and I asked that we not be in contact with eachother. Why would I come up to him after all this time? Any thoughts?
Spikiera Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 If you don't want anything romantic with him, why bother asking us questions here? lol. Do you really want to be friends with him that badly? He might have sensed that you don't want to date him so he just pulled away. It shouldn't really concern you though, at least based on your description of your feelings towards him.
Redhead14 Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Hello, I wanted a completely objective opinion on this. A month ago my ex contacted me and we decided to be friends. He asked me to go out with him to the gym and to play pool sometime. He hasn't messaged me since. I have added him as a friend on Facebook. I am unsure why he would come back and us discuss friendship then him not followup. I have no interest in anything romantic and I told him I want friendship as he did flirt with me and I didn't reciprocate. A little background is we dated for 5 months 2 years ago so I am baffled as to why he has contacted me after this long. When we dated we were very good to each other but distance ended it for us. I had feelings for him and I asked that we not be in contact with eachother. Why would I come up to him after all this time? Any thoughts? I have no interest in anything romantic and I told him I want friendship -- He WAS interested in something romantic and didn't want friendship. Don't be coy with us, it's unbecoming.
Author Candle037 Posted February 29, 2016 Author Posted February 29, 2016 The other times he came back shortly after we broke up and the months following he wanted friendship and that's now what I want. Yes I do have romantic feelings for him but 2 years have passed and for me a lot has changed. Thank you for letting me know your responses I hadn't considered that he wanted more and I shut him down.
angel.eyes Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Likely, he's going through a very long, dry spell and is revisiting all possible leads. I'm guessing, he wants friends with benefits, emphasis on the benefits, with barely a hint of friendship to make the offer palatable to you. In chatting with you, it became clear he would actually need to put in some minor effort. So he kept it rolling. Don't waste your time on guys behaving this erraticly. It's been two years. Try to get him out of your mind. Have you dated or been in a relationship since?
Author Candle037 Posted March 1, 2016 Author Posted March 1, 2016 I have been dating yes but nothing panned out and I stopped looking since November to focus on me. I think yes if someone wants something they work towards it so I agree with the alternate motive I guess I'm stuck on why not find a new girl to text or date?
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