Aika Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Hello, I met my ex online, almost 3 years ago. He lives about 4 hours away from me. We were friends before we began dating. I never thought of dating him at first, but we started having more contact... texting, skype calls... and we got along so well. He could make me laugh all day, and I did the same for him. Eventually we decided to meet as friends. We saw two movies together that night because we didn't know what else to do and then had dinner. We had a great time together. He got a hotel room and I was unsure of staying with him or not, but I ended up staying with him. In the morning, I didn't want him to leave, and he didn't want to leave either. This was in Nov. and we made plans to see eachother again in Dec. Dec. came, and I saw him twice that month. We became offical then, and we were both so happy. We enjoyed eachother's company and had great time together. We had many more meetings like that throughout our 2 years. Early on he wanted me to move in with him and go to school, but i didn't for fear of expense and it was really early in the relationship. Part of me now wishes I would have gone, for maybe it would have worked out differnt... Unfortunately, I began having some issues with jealousy. He is a very independent/private person and he did not do well with my jealousy issues. He was talking to a girl that he assured me was "just a friend". But it felt so off to me. The contact was pretty much hidden, I saw old calls on his open Skype one day and that's how I found out they were not only chatting on FB they were also Skyping together, which before was only reserved for me. His reaction to this was to uninstall Skype and turn off his PC. I recognize that I am not 100% right to be jealous, but I can't help having such feelings sometimes. He would brush them off, tell me I was being dramatic and downplay their contact. That hurt me the most... the downplaying and hiding it from me. Other than that I thought we had a great relationship. Come to June 2015... he tells me one day that he doesn't think we should be together anymore. He isn't ready for a serious relationship and doesn't want to move in together or close the distance. This is after 1.5 years together. I was shattered. I begged him to work on things with me. I thought he may change his mind over time. He eventually agreed to try to work it out with me, and so we continued. It went well for awhile, but the communication was slowing drasticly. We used to talk all day through text say good morning, send cute pictures and icons, call eachother on skype every night. He would stop sending me good morning texts. He stopped reciprocating affection as he was before, and we still called, but he seemed reluctant and sometimes unwilling. It was very painful and I tried to tell him this to no avail. He would get angry at me for any little thing. Small things that don't really matter like, for example, we play an online game together, if i did something wrong or made a mistake and he died in the game, he would be angry with me and give me the silent treatment (which he does often) or make me feel really stupid. This had been going on for awhile now. About 3 weeks ago, he decided to end it with me over text. He did this while i was at work. He ignored all the messages I sent him back, and sent my calls to voicemail. It was 5 days before I got him to respond, and he was so cold. No feelings there. One word answers. On the phone, I could hear no emotion in his voice. I don't know who this person is now, but I don't remember him like that. He told me he didn't want to talk to me, and didn't know how long it would take for him to want to. I gave him a few weeks, then approached him to talk. He said "idk" "im busy with work" ( he doesnt usually work weekends, and in fact he did not this weekend). Hes on FB all the time but wouldnt respond to anything I said. I finally told him, if he doesnt want to talk to me ever again, or if he doesnt care for me, I wont try anymore. He responded with "were not getting back together and I dont want to talk to you" It hurts so much that somoene I loved for 2 years, traveled so far to see, always had a good time withh, can be so cold and unfeeling now. Like I did something really wrong. I am struggling so much with this and it feels like I wont ever get back to normal.
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