kariabelkari Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Hi all...just joined here. Really really wanted to ask a question. I have been having problems with my boyfriend for awhile now. He is 23 and I am 19. He is the greatest guy I have ever known..he really doesn't do anything wrong such as cheating or lying or anything. He's a family man and he visits his family alot with/without me. The only problem is he has trouble showing how and what he feels. He's had a pretty bad past so I know that has alot to do with it. We are currently taking a break ( not breaking up) just to see where we stand. I am 8 hours away from him with my mom. My problem is when I am feeling something...hurt, sad or whatever and it has to do with him and I bring it up to him..all he says is that I am bit**ing at him. Its like he doesnt want to hear me. Now, I have a problem also..I have never been the jealous type..but now all of a sudden i get these feelings. And the bad part is that i get jealous when he goes to his familys house and i let him knkow about it. I can see why he never why he never wants to hear me because all i do is complain...how do i change? do i have a right to be jealous? i dont want to run him away and i know i am!
ConfusedInOC Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Pretty typical for a guy that age. He's not a commincator and you are. As for the jealousy, you will need to learn to have some self-confidence in yourself. Taking a break is a good thing, it might give you both a different perspective.
Author kariabelkari Posted June 13, 2005 Author Posted June 13, 2005 we both initiated the break...we just couldnt handle each other anymore..we were always arguing (mainly because of me) I know what I have to do...but its so hard..and I have to drag it out from deep inside..i think thats what i need help on the most. We are really serious about each other..we've talked about marriage and we're pretty much about on the same page. i feel so bad..he takes on all the stress..he is currently supporting me (we live together)...he's really a mans man i guess...where as i am the typical lady who believes in romance and crap like that. i know i am crowding him..and i dont want to be like this anymore!
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