Author yxalitis Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 Man, you're not being honest with both women & they, especially G, most likely think you are not seeing anyone else (not correcting her 'boyfriend' comment was misleading). You're not multiple dating, you're juggling. Yeah, that's true... And it's plain that neither woman is right for you if you want long term relationship & you'll end up hurting both and yourself. No, I'm confident J is right for me... Maybe take a break from dating them & decide what you want first. Yeah, my friends tell me that too, but I can't...I miss female companionship, intimacy, I miss holding someone in bed in the morning...I've had enough "me time" since my break up with K last year, I've only had a few flings in between. Also do you just want to date exclusively Chinese women or was that a coincidence? Definitely coincidence, there are a LOT of Chinese woman on Oasis in Melbourne, it's their go-to dating site.
AMJ Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I don't get why or how you are spending every day with these women. That would drive me nuts. I have 2 days a week where I'd meet up with girls, the rest of the time is for the other parts of my life Just reading the post stressed me out! Did you see both women in one day? I can't keep it straight.
Jabron1 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Yeah, right now the last thing I need is MORE f&cking options... These woman aren't just my dates, they occupy all my time! I already said you were being too available, and should have other things to do. You said that was game playing lol. J helped me pack on the Saturday, then I gave her a very intimate massage. I consider that an escalation in Jabron's terms, I was massaging her bare bum in a G-string. That's not escalation. That's teasing. Your balls must be aching something fierce after that.
Author yxalitis Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 I don't get why or how you are spending every day with these women. That would drive me nuts. I have 2 days a week where I'd meet up with girls, the rest of the time is for the other parts of my life Because right now I have time in my life to do so. Because I want to! I've had enough time to contemplate my navel. I enjoy this, although I admit having two on the go is a bit much, I am not asking G out anymore, she just offers/insists on seeing me... I do find it hard to say: "no" to a woman... I date an African woman just before these tow (shock! not Asian), and I rejected her overt sexual advances...stopped seeing her...so I know I can...just not easy for me...I'm too nice, even when what I'm doing isn't, if you know what I mean... If someone says they love me, I have to restrain myself not to parrot it back to them meaninglessly...(Got myself in trouble like that once a long time ago...boy!) I should take Jabron's advice...lol
Author yxalitis Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 Just reading the post stressed me out! Did you see both women in one day? I can't keep it straight. OK, once, yeah... Had coffee with J, about 200 meters from G's home, then after she I took G to a movie, which was a fizzler, and the start of my decline in interest in her, she couldn't follow the movie at all, and we left half way... That's the thing, i could have stayed with J for hours more, no problem, but I already had the tickets booked, and J invited me on the spur of the moment...
Author yxalitis Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 I already said you were being too available, and should have other things to do. You said that was game playing lol. That's not escalation. That's teasing. Your balls must be aching something fierce after that. G's a bigger tease...! She actively plays with me. But I liked that moment with J better, more sensual, erotic. As you say Jabron: she may SAY she prefers to keep the physical aspects to a minimum, but that massage started out as a foot massage, and she was the one who asked me to massage her hamstring...She didn't protest as I rubbed her upper thigh, or peel back her pants to work her buttocks. In fact she was teasing about her see-through pants (Lycra). She put her hand protectively over her crotch a couple of times and giggled. Yeah, I thoutht about that later that night!
Author yxalitis Posted March 8, 2016 Author Posted March 8, 2016 (edited) UPDATE: OK, so I moved in last night, G came with a friend (she doesn't have a car), and helped a little, and gave me a dinner (which I didn't like...). She told me that having mirrors in the bedroom is bad luck... She got very jealous when I said that I was looking for a female flatmate. J had been on the phone having arranged the truck, and after the move had finished she asked if I was free tonight... She wants me to come help her again...but I think that's just a pretense, I just confirmed the time with, told her I'd be there, and her reply was : "yipeee" "Thank you! I get to see you again!" That sounds positive!! Cooking her dinner tomorrow night will be interesting...that's for sure...just her and me alone with champagne... And massage oil... Edited March 8, 2016 by yxalitis
joseb Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 G's a bigger tease...! She actively plays with me. But I liked that moment with J better, more sensual, erotic. As you say Jabron: she may SAY she prefers to keep the physical aspects to a minimum, but that massage started out as a foot massage, and she was the one who asked me to massage her hamstring...She didn't protest as I rubbed her upper thigh, or peel back her pants to work her buttocks. In fact she was teasing about her see-through pants (Lycra). She put her hand protectively over her crotch a couple of times and giggled. Yeah, I thoutht about that later that night! Honestly, I don't get how you can get to that situation and not have sex. She's probably as frustrated by it as you must be. Dont look a gift horse....
Author yxalitis Posted March 8, 2016 Author Posted March 8, 2016 Honestly, I don't get how you can get to that situation and not have sex. She's probably as frustrated by it as you must be. Dont look a gift horse.... Because I want to do that when we are both in a more comfortable place. This was in my room full of packed boxes on a stupidly hot day with my flatmates milling around outside... Yeah, I could have gone for it, but I wasn't ready.
Author yxalitis Posted March 8, 2016 Author Posted March 8, 2016 BIG UPDATE So I saw J for the inspection (some $3,000,000 place, huge but ugly), and after she told me she had to pick her son up, no not a brush off, as she suggested that I follow her, and he could drive himself home. So we had a coffee and chat...we changed our dinner date to Thursday. As I drove her home she told me how grateful she was for my company, how much she likes me. Outside her place we still didn't part, walked to a park just there, and talked some more...as we hugged goodbye, she said, and I kid you not: "Thursday we can spend the whole night together!" "You means stay over?" (Hardly believing my ears, and certainly not what I was planning) She gave me that shy giggle, "why not?" I think this thread can finish now! G has to be let go, but I already had a go at her for her jealousy regarding my female flatmate, told her I didn't want a jealous controlling person in my life. She hasn't responded since... I tell her it's not working, no details, at least we stopped shy of actual sex.
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 From this: She told me that she’s not comfortable with as much touching as I’m used to (I’m a very tactile person). This is why that cuddle was so nice. To this: she may SAY she prefers to keep the physical aspects to a minimum, but that massage started out as a foot massage, and she was the one who asked me to massage her hamstring...She didn't protest as I rubbed her upper thigh, or peel back her pants to work her buttocks. In fact she was teasing about her see-through pants (Lycra). In ONE WEEK??!?!? :eek: :laugh: Well so much for the fake "classy" act. Aren't you a little bit suspicious? "Regular" girls, much less grown up women in their 40's do not behave like this. But amazingly almost every single woman you encounter does!!
scorpiogirl Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 From this: To this: In ONE WEEK??!?!? :eek: :laugh: Well so much for the fake "classy" act. Aren't you a little bit suspicious? "Regular" girls, much less grown up women in their 40's do not behave like this. But amazingly almost every single woman you encounter does!! To me, grown men who work "massage" into every conversation and have massage oils on hand are yuck. Your text interactions also sound childish. And thus really unattractive. I'm in my late thirties, and none of this sounds appealing, including the fact that you're over 40 and have flatmates. "Multiple dating" notwithstanding, you seem to go for either very young girls or childlike older women. Are you sure you want a grown up relationship? 1
Seraphina87 Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 Why are you focusing so much on the nationality/ race of these women?
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