NightsEcho Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Hey all, its been a long time since I have posted, but I have still been visiting this site every few days. My ex-g/f left me at the start of March. We had been together for close to 3 1/2 years. She is 19 and I am 21. During our relationship everything seemed so right. We had a magical first date(at the zoo during christmas), went to each others graduations, and basically had a loving and solid relationship. After about two years together I had to move an hour and a half away to go to school. We made it through our first year okay, and when I came back for four months, everything was perfect again. In my second year everythibg changed. SHe started work at a new office, and was miserable. She also started hanging out with new friends( and guys) and began to withdraw.I was a little naive and put total faith in our relationship. They all have ups and downs right? Well being busy in school caused me to not be there for her 24/7. and I believe she looked for comfort in new people. We stopped having sex and basically just became friends that hung out. I never pushed her for more. She dumped me on the phone at the start of March. FOr the first month I begged, pleaded, told her I loved her and always would. She would send me mixed messages and tell me she loved me, that we may get back together, and that she hoped she wasent making a mistake. When I got back from summer, the truth came out. She had cheated on me in Oct. and never told me. I learned this from her so-called best friend. I decided NC but she would still call every 2 weeks or so. She went on a trip to Africa, and we didn't communicate for 3 1/2 weeks. She called me as soon as she got back, and we talked for an hour. I was going to California for my own trip and the day before I left, she calls to ask if she can come over, but only for 1/2 hour. She showed me pictures of her trip, and I told her about myself (new car, learning drums) Then I lost it, calmly I asked her just what happened to us, I got the "it was not you, it was me" line, I found out she has a new b/f and that i should take this time to better myself. I asked her if she misses me and she said yes. When she went to leave, I hugged her and told her straight up, "I love you babe" Her response? Nothing got in the car and drove away. Ouch. Since then I went on my trip and haven't called her once. Don't know if I will. She definitley is not calling me right now, but she may not know I'm home. My question is do I have a chance at all. I know most people will say, move on and forget her. But for 3 1/2 years we were amazing. The love and chemistry was always there, we have been broken up for 3 1/2 months. I miss her so much, but am starting to unwillingly move on. I never cheated on her, supported her emotionally, and I feel like I am an attractive guy, so why is she pulling away. I know I CAN live without her, but as many of you probably feel, life is so much better with them. Any advice or am I just another forgotten ex-b/f?
prissymissy Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 The first loves are always the hardest to get over. If you have not had anyother relationships of that significance you need to have more, to learn exactly what you want. I met my husband when I was 16 and I reallly wish that I had expierenced more. I love him dearly but there is a void and i am thinking that it is becase I fell in love and married the first guy that I hooked. Well. Good luck in your relationship. I think that you should chalk it up to a good memory and go forth and make a lot more memories!!!
Author NightsEcho Posted June 13, 2005 Author Posted June 13, 2005 I guess I just get freaked out. I believe I am a romantic, and that when you find someone you love so much, you gotta go through periods of ups and downs. I'm not saying I haven't gotten back out there and dated. I have been in two rebounds (I call them both rebounds cause 1 lasted 2 months the other a few weeks) but i was never really into them. Haven't had sex either, but they did both sleep over. Guess I just miss the comfort of sleeping next to the one I loved. It seems many posts have people saying to move on, but I am yet to see someone who was really happy after losing there first love or "Soulmate" Guess god has an answer.
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