awse Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Hello, some background: My girlfriend and I met on the Internet about 4 years ago. We were just friends who talked to each other on and off until about 8 months ago when we admitted we really liked each other. Since then we've spent a week together and are planning others and eventually moving together (we live really far apart so spending time is hard). Basically we trust each other completely and have no doubts that we want to be together -- so this isn't like the other posts dealing with relationships falling apart and trust issues. The problem is that since we spend a lot of time apart, we're always looking for new things to do together. We talk on the phone, instant messenger, we have fun with webcams, sometimes play board games.. but I'm looking for some other things.. maybe something more involved. We're both geeks at heart but we do have differences. I enjoy working on different projects and maintain a few webpages but she doesn't carry that kind of interest. We both like video games so we've been thinking about trying a few online games out. Other than that.. I really don't have that many ideas. She is very laid back and is satisfied with just talking to me when she can. Being apart from each other hurts both of us but we are working on being together and know that we just have to be patient. I am just curious if anyone has any other ideas to pass the time. I apologize if this isn't like the other posts with people asking for save-my-relationship-advice. Thanks
Beautiful Breakdown Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 My boyfriend and I talked on the internet for at least 6 hours everyday for 9 months before we met, (and we still do) so I know where you're comming from. We usually just have chats with our friends, or send eachotehr funny joke sites, or take pictures of ourselves in our towns.. with our arm around "the other person" (no oe is really there, but we act like we're hugging in the pic or something.) LIke.. for an example. He sent me a piture of him on a park bench with his arm around thin air. I went to a park near me and took a photo of me smiling in the direction of "him" (even tho no one was there) and then I sent him that picture.. and then we went back and forth croping it so it fit perfectly like we were actually there together. That might sound lame... but it really does help pas the time, and it's really fun!
Sal Paradise Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Tread lightly with the online games. Be sure to set limits. They have destroyed relationships. A couple people who've posted here have had their wives emotionally cheat with people they met in game. So like I said be sure to set limits and discuss everything before you start. My girl and I play games together online. Though we live together it is a fun activity. But we set limits. We let everyone we become friends with in game know that we're happy and plan to marry. Sometimes we just tell people we're married just to prevent any problems. We tell each other when anyone is being graphically flirtatious and we put them on ignore. We also limit the amount of time we spend in game alone. This is important because many times when couples play they both start out only playing together and then one or both of them increase their playtime to include when they don't play together. Sometimes one loses interest and the other becomes addicted to the game. All of this can cause problems. Even if one isn't cheating in game, they sometimes would rather spend time in game than spend time with their SO. I'm not trying to scare you away from the games, like I said I play them with my girl, I'm just saying know what you're getting into, thread carefully, and communicate with your girl and set limits.
Sal Paradise Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by Beautiful Breakdown My boyfriend and I talked on the internet for at least 6 hours everyday for 9 months before we met, (and we still do) so I know where you're comming from. We usually just have chats with our friends, or send eachotehr funny joke sites, or take pictures of ourselves in our towns.. with our arm around "the other person" (no oe is really there, but we act like we're hugging in the pic or something.) LIke.. for an example. He sent me a piture of him on a park bench with his arm around thin air. I went to a park near me and took a photo of me smiling in the direction of "him" (even tho no one was there) and then I sent him that picture.. and then we went back and forth croping it so it fit perfectly like we were actually there together. That might sound lame... but it really does help pas the time, and it's really fun! That is utterly adoreable.
nicetomeetu Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 haha yes that is cute. Me and my bf do similar things as well. We take pictures and send letters. I usually send a package of some sort every couple of weeks full of pics, etc. Once I made him a calendar of us so we could count the days down til we saw each other (cheesy i know). We are both lucky to live in quite exciting places, so that when we get to see each other, we have tons to do, and lots of pics to take of places we will go together. I actually find having a LD relationship can be quite fun sometimes. And I think you appreciate the time you have together alot more. Ever thought of sending naughty pics? Just a suggestion.
RecordProducer Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 You can "go out" together. Visit various forums and chat rooms where the topics don't depend on you. You can also play a game in a public chat room like pretend that you just have met and flirt in a very naughty way. It might add an additional sparkle in your relationship. Go to some dating site and joke around other people's funny stuff or grammar mistakes (it doesn't have to be mean, just fun). Tell each other every little detail about what happened to you, what you thought or dreamt about. The best way to enjoy your conversations online is to not talk for a while (one day, for example). Then you miss each other so much, you're happy even with the stupid messenger programs. Send each other gifts (through email or mail).
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