Fernville Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 So I asked this girl out for lunch and she didn't say yes or no just thankyou. Anyway her personality to me has completely changed she looks embarrassed when I look at her, doesn't speak to me, generally seems distant and often avoids looking at me, but I have spotted her glancing a few times. sometimes when she looks, she will look and when I will look at her and she won't hold eye contact and look away to the side. She occasionally give glimpses of 'being her old self' She has gone quiet around me, when I try to speak to her she often replies rudely. She is just a lot less interacting with me and I notice other people she's not as bad, but when I'm around she goes quiet. I feel I'm hated by her tbh. I have made sure I continue being myself around her, as much as I can. I'm now wondering if I did the right thing, all I did was offer to take her out for lunch and it feels like I've done something much worse What should I do, move on? 1
d0nnivain Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 You can move on because I would interpret her behavior as not interested but too shy or lacking self confidence to tell you. If you are a more direct type & really need to hear the no from her or you have reason to believe that she is shy & immature (i.e. you two are in high school) perhaps gently prod her to either have lunch with you or to let you down gently. 1
Satu Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 I think she's shy when around the opposite sex, and your invitation made the shyness kick in with full force. It would probably be best to just let her be.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 So I asked this girl out for lunch and she didn't say yes or no just thankyou. Where do you see her? For instance, if you work together, she may want to avoid the "office romance" that becomes fodder for every breakroom conversation. Some like to keep public and personal lives separate... Mr. Lucky
Wewon Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 Wash your hands of this, you can count on about another month or so of this weirdness, then she'll talk to you as though nothing happened.
katiegrl Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 LOL, I am sorry for chuckling, but her response when you asked her out was funny. I'll have to remember that next time a guy asks me out, I don't want to go, but don't want to hurt his feelings. Guy: Would you like to have dinner Friday night? Me: Thank you. Head down, walk away. Perfect! OP, she's not interested. Sorry.
Author Fernville Posted February 28, 2016 Author Posted February 28, 2016 Where do you see her? For instance, if you work together, she may want to avoid the "office romance" that becomes fodder for every breakroom conversation. Some like to keep public and personal lives separate... Mr. Lucky We are in Uni together, so we see alot of eachother, we are also in the same circle of friends. I intend to keep my distance.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 We are in Uni together, so we see alot of eachother, we are also in the same circle of friends. I intend to keep my distance. There you go, she may simply want to avoid the complications arising from dating and socializing in the same circle. The good news - I'd guess there's lots of other girls at the school ... Mr. Lucky
Chris2016 Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 We are in Uni together, so we see alot of eachother, we are also in the same circle of friends. I intend to keep my distance. She's not interested. Move on. Do not wast anymore time/energy on her. You are at Uni. Great opportunity to try to find a mutual connection. Do not let this opportunity slip by. I don't know your background, but as you get older, out of university, it may get harder to find someone. So drop her, and be opens to others.
Author Fernville Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 She's not interested. Move on. Do not wast anymore time/energy on her. You are at Uni. Great opportunity to try to find a mutual connection. Do not let this opportunity slip by. I don't know your background, but as you get older, out of university, it may get harder to find someone. So drop her, and be opens to others. Thanks, I'm more bothered about the way she has been with me since, like I had done something very wrong lol. She will have moments where she is nice and speaks in a lovely way again. I asked if she's ok and she replied in a child like voice. Very strange.
preraph Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 She reacted awkwardly because that's who she is, but it was still a no. So forget about her and move on. Her glancing your way is just keeping an eye on you, not attraction or she'd have said yes.
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