itsheragain Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 It sucks to be in this position again after coming this far. My bf has always given me mixed signals about where he stands, but finally in past few months, things have changed for the better. He really shows a different side of himself, he shows he cares and wants to make this work. It has made me happy. But unfortunately, there have been recent signs that remind me of the past. He's said some rude comments. He claims hes joking around but at the same time, why even bring those things up? For ex, he recently joked how it would be the last time we see each other and then he goes "haha just kidding." Im like what? Even if youre kidding, what makes you even think that? We were in the middle of an argument and he just said that rude statement like no big deal, almost like "lets see her reaction to this." Not only was it rude, but like I said, we have been doing so good and then things got weird the other day and now we're just giving each other the silent treatment. Hes always had a problem with commitment but then hes slowly showed more commitment to me. But there are still some things he does that show he wishes he wasn't in a relationship which obviously hurts especially how far weve come. Like he still has doubts? If so, where does he stand? Does he take me seriously? There are some things that he still does but Ive come to accept them cause thats just who he is. Before I took it personally but I learned it was just his personality. But things like those statements or where hes just being distant are not acceptable. It brings me back to the past on how he didn't want to get in a committed relationship but still have me around. Its disappointing to see he still has these annoying things in him. What do I do?
mikeylo Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 If he is the non committal type of guy , move on. You cant make him commit.Its the truth.He will keep you around till he is done with you.Then he will run again.Dont waste your time. The thing is, he basically has a need which a particular girl will fulfill.If you ask him what that need is, he wouldnt know.But when that girl comes along, his flood gates will open and all his exes , friends , family will be shocked and so will he be ! He will be ready to commit even before that girl is. This happens time and again. Its then he will do all the right things for that girl.
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