So very hurt!

[Tastytwix]

I left my husband two months ago. Our second anniversary is in a couple of months. We dated for a year got engaged and got pregnant. This is both our second time around for marriage and we each have a teenager from prior. I sold my house, uprooted my daughter, and moved my career to be with him and another city and hour away. I was a widow before and he didn't want any of my things in the house because he thought it was weird. I understood to a certain extent. Then he became controlling over how i cleaned the house and how I raise my daughter especially. He also did innocent flirting that when I confronted him he said was no big deal I was blowing out of proportion. That he didn't mean anything by it at all. After my daughter's birthday party he told me that he didn't want to be a parent to her at all that he did not even want to look at her sometimes. He said he understood if I was completely angry because he would be too and he would bolt if someone said that about his son. He didn't talk to me hardly for a month and definitely wouldn't even speak to my daughter and we were all in the same house. She became withdrawn and isolated and then he accused her of being antisocial. He takes no responsibility for how he treated her as though she were supposed to be overly excited to come home to a house where no one spoke to her. He said she had a bad attitude. He didn't care if she was 13 but that's no excuse to be a teenager and act like that. The last straw for me was when we got into an argument and he called her a bad name. I moved out A week later and I've been gone for two months. I'm extremely hurt on how someone That would cry at your wedding would turn so quickly in their love for you. How and why does that happen? He's also a police officer and suffers from PTSD. He grew up military and is very strict in his parenting and beliefs. He says our standards aren't the same and patronizes me. From what I read he's completely narcissistic. It's his way or the highway he'll talk you to death until you just believe what he says and forget your own beliefs. He withdrew from me emotionally when the episode with my daughter came to a head and he stopped talking to her. No physical, no emotional, nothing. I felt so alone as though he withdrew and left our marriage a long time before I physically did. I am deeply hurt and don't understand why he wouldn't stay committed and want to work this out but he says I'm the one that moved out and ran. He doesn't understand that it takes no responsibility for anything. He also cannot empathize with how he's treating me would have any affect on me. He doesn't get it at all. Our problems are all because of me and not because of him. That's also narcissistic. He says he doesn't want to work on things right now and that's not even on his mind. It's as though his life just picked up and moved on and is just fine. I have a strong faith and he works so that's his excuse not to ever go to church. He doesn't want to go to counseling, at least not right now. When would ask what I'm supposed to do, but I've already moved out and feel so much more at peace in my new home not walking on eggshells every minute. They got to the point where I didn't want to go home anymore because of what he would complain about. He would always be something. As though he were always irritated but the blame our issues on a child and not the fact that he wouldn't except my parenting not be exactly like his is ridiculous. What am I to do?