katiegrl Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I can see how it come off as creepy and a turn-off seeing as he laid on the compliments rather quickly. Not everyone is comfortable with the nicknames like "babe", "baby", etc. I am perfectly comfortable with those nicknames.... when the appropriate time comes, like after we've met in person.... and are actually dating.
hippychick3 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 The way I see it is this: Guys are getting such mixed messages from women these days.... "You're texting too much." "You're texting too little." "You're calling too much." "You're not calling enough." "Don't forget to say goodnight/good morning every single day" "Don't text me goodnight/good morning every day. It's smothering." The point is, maybe he is too much and creepy. But, maybe he was told this is how to keep the interest of a woman before the first date. Since you already decided you liked him enough to meet him, I don't see the harm in a quick meet up in a public place. Keep it short (like a coffee meet) and see how he is in person. You're right. You haven't met him yet. In this case, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. If you absolutely can't stand him after you meet, then don't see him again. It should just be a meet up in a public place, not a date at his house. 3
xpaperxcutx Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I am perfectly comfortable with those nicknames.... when the appropriate time comes, like after we've met in person.... and are actually dating. I actually dont like those nicknames at all because they all sound so generic. Give me traditional ones like honey or a term of endearment came out of a relationship. I remember my last relationship my ex and I used to call each other "toitle and wabbit". 2
Author DatingDirection Posted February 27, 2016 Author Posted February 27, 2016 Yup. Got another text last night asking what I'm doing. That was the last straw for me. So nope not gonna happen.
katiegrl Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 (edited) I actually dont like those nicknames at all because they all sound so generic. Give me traditional ones like honey or a term of endearment came out of a relationship. **** I remember my last relationship my ex and I used to call each other "toitle and wabbit". That's so cute ....my first boyfriend called me "pookie"! My recent ex and I always called each other babe ...just became habit. He also called me other names .... not sure those names would be appropriate to mention on this board though. Edited February 27, 2016 by katiegrl
joseb Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 We met on OLD site. I haven't met him yet, and yet he is sending me texts at the start of the day, saying Good morning beautiful. Things like that. We plan to meet, but already i don't like getting texts like that, as if we're in a relationship, since WE HAVEN'T EVEN MET. What if he meets me and doesn't like what i look like? Doesn't it seem like he's either a) a player or b) very needy? I have already committed to meeting him, so I guess I will meet him. Although im really nervious, since he placed alot of emphasis on the fact he thinks we are going to hit it off so well, even before meeting me. How much back and forth messaging have you two been doing since meeting online? When you say texting, do you mean via the online app, or your phone? Ok, personally I find this really annoying and fake. And I'd never do it. I do have a teeny bit of sympathy for him though, because he might just be trying to follow some dating advice like "make sure you touch base daily" and "make sure you compliment her". There are also a lot of threads complaining about guys not doing these things. Though I think normally they refer to after meeting. I guess it comes down to what the overall communication has been like. I'm not sure if I were you I'd cut him out or meet, I can see sense in both!
Author DatingDirection Posted February 28, 2016 Author Posted February 28, 2016 There should be a balance. A few texts here and there before a meet = fabulous. But "good morning beautiful" texts every single day before meeting = too much! How much back and forth messaging have you two been doing since meeting online? I do have a teeny bit of sympathy for him though, because he might just be trying to follow some dating advice like "make sure you touch base daily" and "make sure you compliment her". Though I think normally they refer to after meeting. LOL!!! That just cracked me up. Yes, maybe he read those dating advice bits, but it just got annoying after a while - actually yes, it got me suspicious because after a while, it came across as fake. That's the last thing i need in my life, a phony. I simply told him, I wasn't up for meeting. He never replied. I kind of feel bad, or maybe I shouldn't feel bad at all.
katiegrl Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 LOL!!! That just cracked me up. Yes, maybe he read those dating advice bits, but it just got annoying after a while - actually yes, it got me suspicious because after a while, it came across as fake. That's the last thing i need in my life, a phony. I simply told him, I wasn't up for meeting. He never replied. I kind of feel bad, or maybe I shouldn't feel bad at all. Ouch, I feel kinda bad for the guy too now, but you did the right thing. In fact you may have done him a favor. Needs to brush up on his game and stop reading "how to" advice books. Oh well.
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