Torrent9420 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I dated a girl and well we broke up. She would always tell me not to talk to girls and she did not want me working with girls either, she would always say I was gonna cheat on her. I found out that one of the people she has known for years asked her out, this guy was suppose to know we were going out. When she showed me the message and I asked her why he asked her out if he was "knowing" that we were going out, she just got mad and said that I am probably saying this because I am cheating on her. Later down the line after the break up she tells me that I should not be mad and that the guy is just going through a desperate time. (She spent alone time with this guy sometimes when we were together and they talked on the phone in front of me!) She is mad at me saying that I am a jerk and a ass hole. She said she was gonna kill herself because of me. Why is it that she put so many restrictions on me and can do all that and expected me to be okay with what that guy did. Was she cheating on me? Your honest opinion. She is not even saying what happened was wrong and saying that Im over reacting and that he is just going through something. Even through our relationship she mentioned to me that he is really into her, and she would talk about him sometimes. But if I mentioned a girl that I worked with that helped me, she would flip out and not speak to me, or yell at me. What do you think? I dumped her.
angel.eyes Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I dumped her. This is the bottom line. Why she does or did what she did is no longer relevant. You can remain mired in the detritus of a dysfunctional and now defunct relationship or you can move forward. I suggest the latter.
Emilia Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Projecting. You see it in real life and here on LS too. The 'all men cheat if they have options', 'people want this or that' brigade. Because it's how their mind works, they justify it to themselves that everyone else's does the same way.
Author Torrent9420 Posted February 26, 2016 Author Posted February 26, 2016 Projecting. You see it in real life and here on LS too. The 'all men cheat if they have options', 'people want this or that' brigade. Because it's how their mind works, they justify it to themselves that everyone else's does the same way. What your saying was, if she always said that I would do these things its because she was gonna or thinking of doing these things to me.
TaraMaiden2 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 What your saying was, if she always said that I would do these things its because she was gonna or thinking of doing these things to me. Yes, but it really doesn't matter any more. You dumped her. Consider it a bullet dodged. Block, delete, deny, move on. Sorted.
smackie9 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 You know something is very wrong when they won't allow you to talk to or even work with the opposite sex. She's nuts.
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