ilovemusic3 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I'm a 26 year old female and I'm okay with not having a relationship. It's fine if I find a guy to just hang out with sometimes and maybe do some sexual acts, but I don't want to have sex with guys like this. Is this something some people do?
Dreamworld Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I have had some scary sex related health problems as of recently so I am planning to do the casual dating without the sex for awhile myself. And yes I think it is something that people do. I did. I didn't sleep with everybody i was casually seeing, so there were a lot more guys i only casually dated than the casual daters i slept with. But I made sure the guys and I were on the same page so there were no misunderstandings.
EatYourVeggies Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) I'm a 26 year old female and I'm okay with not having a relationship. It's fine if I find a guy to just hang out with sometimes and maybe do some sexual acts, but I don't want to have sex with guys like this. Is this something some people do? You would have a very long line and distinguished list of men that would gladly wait their turn and to jump at the chance for exactly that. In fact, some even pay for it, literally. Edited February 26, 2016 by EatYourVeggies
PegNosePete Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 just hang out with sometimes and maybe do some sexual acts, but I don't want to have sex You may find guys willing to do sexual acts but not have sex, but most will expect that if you're doing sexual acts, sex will be on the table. You need to be very clear up-front about what you're looking for, otherwise you'd be considered a terrible tease and leading them on, blue balling them, etc. If you're clear and up-front about what you're looking for I'm sure you'll have an orderly queue to choose from.
smudge21 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Men can have unusual wants and needs to you know. We're not all beers, boobs, xbox and boobs (did I mention boobs?). It depends on the timing. Sometimes, just like you, we also don't want anything serious. Even just having someone female to hang out with occasionally. Just be clear and honest with guys from the start and you may find one who's in the same boat as you.
LoveRefreshed Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I don't know. I guess you could easily find someone desperate that is up for anything. Or a guy with a fetish that can be satiated without actually having intercourse. However, I've got my kinks but they are all still lead up to the final act, so to say. It may be difficult to find someone satisfied as a fwb, since I'm assuming you don't want to date them, but also don't want a large number from your tone, it seems more that you'd want one or two long term arrangements until Mr. Right pops along. However, this view I do wonder about. How can you do all these acts of a sexual nature and view it as somehow more pure/innocent than actual intercourse? Where's the line? Anal sex? I know a lot of guys who'd be all for that arrangement, ew. I feel like you fear your sexuality, or what judgment you might have for having sex outside of a committed relationship with a future.
SwordofFlame Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 However, this view I do wonder about. How can you do all these acts of a sexual nature and view it as somehow more pure/innocent than actual intercourse? Where's the line? Anal sex? I know a lot of guys who'd be all for that arrangement, ew. Agreed. I don't understand when women want to stop before actual intercourse. The only reason that makes sense is they're afraid of getting STDs or pregnant?
Redhead14 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I'm a 26 year old female and I'm okay with not having a relationship. It's fine if I find a guy to just hang out with sometimes and maybe do some sexual acts, but I don't want to have sex with guys like this. Is this something some people do? Sure, the parties involved are called friends. I don't have sex or do "some sexual" acts with friends. It blurs the boundaries and sets you up for crossing the lines you're trying to establish. "Oh, gosh, I had sex with him. I don't know what came over me. I never have sex with guys. He got worked up and pushed me into it. I was drunk and got carried away." And, "some sexual" acts expose people to STD's anyway.
d0nnivain Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 OP it's absolutely possible. Just be clear about where your boundaries are. I don't understand when women want to stop before actual intercourse. The only reason that makes sense is they're afraid of getting STDs or pregnant? For women sex can be much more of an intense emotional act. We have to accept another person inside our bodies. With that level of a physical connection it can be hard to turn off the emotions. If you know they are not reciprocal that hurts. Where as other sex acts don't require that same level of connection & are thus emotionally easier to deal with. So women stop for more then just medical scare reasons.
road Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 If I was dating and the woman did not want PIV sex I could handle that. There are a lot of ways to have fun. So I would be ok working up slowly. 1
soleilesquire Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I'm a 26 year old female and I'm okay with not having a relationship. It's fine if I find a guy to just hang out with sometimes and maybe do some sexual acts, but I don't want to have sex with guys like this. Is this something some people do? Yes, many many people do. Society would have you think everyone who is anyone is jumping into bed and that you have to in order to get dates. You don't. There are people with standards like yours.
Miss Peach Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I guess it depends on what you want. I'm a LTR girl. I don't like taking the risks of casual sex. I went out with a lot of guys without sex. I try to be upfront about where I stand and if I don't see potential breaking it when I know that. I tend to wait awhile before I'll sleep with a guy (usually a few months at least). I am very upfront I need to get to know a guy better, that I don't do casual sex, and that sex is something I reserve for serious BFs. I had no problems getting dates but many of the guys didn't meet my BF standards so I broke it off. I know someone who would only do 'friends with perks'. She found quite a few guys OK with that arrangement.
joseb Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 I personally know a women who does this - ie she meets a few different guys regularly and get the guys to jump through all kinds of hoops in the bedroom and then leave them frustrated. I have nfi why guys sign up for this, but apparently there are a few who do.
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