Ex messaging me about products?

[alphaa]

Basically my ex messaged me out of nowhere to ask me where i got a gift that i bought for her, she wanted to buy another one? This is someone who dumped me, then played games, then talked about meeting up and never following through. I recently asked if i could see her and she shut me down. so 2 weeks later i get that message about the gift?

 

Whats up with this girl ????

[Simon Phoenix]

Maybe she just wants to know what store it was bought at.

[alphaa]

I have no problem with that. and i told her where i got it. But her actions of recently and the way things ended, we dont even really talk and i am fine with that. this is something i got her in 2013 for valentines.

 

Just had me curious why she would ask about it.

[basil67]

 

Because she wants another one.

[alphaa]

lol thank you. both of you.

[Simon Phoenix]

lol thank you. both of you.

 

Sorry dude, don't mean to sound like we're making fun. But sometimes there's not a greater purpose.

[alphaa]

oh no i meant that sincerely. i was laughing at my stupid self to giving it any thought because it does not deserves any.

 

this girl has just been playing emotional games, talking then stopping then all kinds of stuff.

[Acacia98]

Whats up with this girl ????

 

I'm not sure it really matters what her intentions are. The more important thing is her pattern of behavior with you: communicating solely on her terms/at her whim. And it clearly annoys you. So block her.

[PegNosePete]

This is someone who dumped me, then played games, then talked about meeting up and never following through. I recently asked if i could see her and she shut me down.

So I am wondering, why on earth you would ever want to talk to her again? Why haven't you BLOCKED her? Why are you instead, twisting yourself into knots, trying to fathom out her intentions and looking for a deeper meaning in a simple question she asked you?

[EatYourVeggies]

Whats up with this girl ????

 

I have had several probably a dozen or so exes contact and some who I never expected too at all. I am not even on social media so most had to contact a relatives of mine to get my phone / email address. I suspect that it is very common now that social media is so popular. Hell, isn't that really one of the main reasons people use it? To stalk exes and compare yourself to everyone? LOL

 

If you throw out post break and anything within the first year... Most of the time I have been contacted it was years later and a Ex who kicking the tires to see if there was something there that could be rekindled. Some just want to say hi, see how I was doing. Some to relieve guilt and say they were sorry for things that were said or done. Had one email me 10 years later to let me know she was getting married. I have no idea why, she was the one who dumped me. The last long term relationship I was in was 5+ years ago and I still hear from her a couple of times a year. Age gap relationship and she is in her 20s sowing her wild oats. Asked to meet up several times but I decline I see no point really.

 

I have had Exe (first loves) from 20+ years ago contact and still does every few years. In her case, it's just checking in, seeing how my life has turned out, sharing some news about her, her kids, her family (who I knew well). She is married, has a wonderful husband, life, would never cheat (nor would I) and never inappropriate.

 

I know I didn't directly answer your question but I find they contact sometimes years or even decade(s) later and they all seem to want / say different things. Obviously I had moved on, whatever hurt feelings either of us might of had were long since gone and forgotten. It's was never like movies and very anti-climatic compared to the 1,000 different ways you imagine it, the conversation or the feelings or how it would go. It's good but honestly you really didn't care or need any sort of closure and felt that way long before they reached out. But right after a break up and for some time after that... it sure is fun to talk about and image the situation where you either get them back or sock it too them and to a degree therapeutic.