Kimmyluv Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I met this guy off a dating site and we went on 4 dates. All of the dates were great or so I thought. After the third date I could tell he really liked me. He text me as soon as he got home and in the morning. The weekend came and that's when I noticed he wasn't texting me. So I text him on Tuesday. He sounded happy to hear from me but didn't ask me on a date. He asked me out the next week but it was the same day as I text him. I text him last week because I noticed he was no longer on the dating site. He said he doesn't use it so he deleted it. We chatted and again he sounded happy to hear from me but no mention of a date. He's on my Instagram and likes my pics but hasn't texted me for 9 days. I stopped initiating texts just to see if he would take the initiative and nothing. Is he not interested in me anymore? Why is he liking my pics then?
SunnyWeather Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Have you initiated any of the dates thus far? If not, I'd say after 4 it might be a good idea to suggest and plan something, reciprocate. 3
Author Kimmyluv Posted February 26, 2016 Author Posted February 26, 2016 Thank you for responding. Well technically the fourth date was initiated by me but he said he might be able to hangout with me but had to get back to me and he forgot to get back to me and I told him he left me hanging. He apologized and said he would take me out next week which is when I had texted him cuz I hadn't heard from him. He claims he gets really busy and that's when he asked me out that's day. After the third date I've been the one initiating texting.
Buddhist Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 He's either not interested or is extremely passive waiting for some chick to come along and save him from himself. Either way, if you keep pandering to his lack of initiative all that will happen is you'll end up in a relationship with someone who doesn't really want you, nor appreciate you and just accepts everything you give them before walking away with explanation or conscience. People who make no effort, aren't invested.
brokengirl85 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 He's not into you. I'm sorry. Move on. And please stop initiating. You've already invited him on a fourth date and he rejected you. Time to move on 2
Lois_Griffin Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Well technically the fourth date was initiated by me but he said he might be able to hangout with me but had to get back to me and he forgot to get back to me and I told him he left me hanging. Kimmy, he didn't 'forget' to get back to you. Something happened after that last time you saw him - either he got turned off by something or it's possible he met someone else and is no longer interested in seeing you. He's doing the fade on you. He's a coward who doesn't have the guts to tell you he's no longer interested. Stop contacting him because it makes you look desperate. 1
Zippy2000 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Kimmy, he didn't 'forget' to get back to you. Something happened after that last time you saw him - either he got turned off by something or it's possible he met someone else and is no longer interested in seeing you. He's doing the fade on you. He's a coward who doesn't have the guts to tell you he's no longer interested. Stop contacting him because it makes you look desperate. I agree with this. Hes doing a fade. Nothing more bad mannered or cowardly. I cant stand people who do the fade. It leaves the other person haning on wondering what happened. Hard to say but you have to let go of him.
Larryville Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I met this guy off a dating site and we went on 4 dates. All of the dates were great or so I thought. I text him last week because I noticed he was no longer on the dating site. He said he doesn't use it so he deleted it. (did not say you were the reason he was not on the site...) We chatted and again he sounded happy to hear from me but no mention of a date All of the dates were great or so I thought. I have always wondered what that exactly means, would you not be 100% sure? Also would that have not been communicated clearly soon after the dates? Seems he was just being polite but clearly moved on to OLD choice #1.
Redhead14 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I met this guy off a dating site and we went on 4 dates. All of the dates were great or so I thought. After the third date I could tell he really liked me. He text me as soon as he got home and in the morning. The weekend came and that's when I noticed he wasn't texting me. So I text him on Tuesday. He sounded happy to hear from me but didn't ask me on a date. He asked me out the next week but it was the same day as I text him. I text him last week because I noticed he was no longer on the dating site. He said he doesn't use it so he deleted it. We chatted and again he sounded happy to hear from me but no mention of a date. He's on my Instagram and likes my pics but hasn't texted me for 9 days. I stopped initiating texts just to see if he would take the initiative and nothing. Is he not interested in me anymore? Why is he liking my pics then? Why is he liking my pics then? -- Because he likes your PICTURES and he's not interested in dating you.
AlexDominico Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 definitely not interested. as a guy you would be very much into getting more dates as soon as possible. I suspect he has a gf now or met someone who he really likes. Probably used you for seks. Sorry
smackie9 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Yup he has met someone he wants to get serious with, but keeps you on the back burner or is just doin the fade. It's true an interested guy doesn't "forget" to call you. They don't call you because they don't want to. Remember people multi date. 1
phineas Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 I agree with this. Hes doing a fade. Nothing more bad mannered or cowardly. I cant stand people who do the fade. It leaves the other person haning on wondering what happened. Hard to say but you have to let go of him. I don't do the fade. I'm more like yanking a band-aid off a hairy arm. Just get it over with reguardless of how painful it might be for the person. Women who do the fade on me....errr wait, they can't fade on me. When they cancel or flake I stop initiating. I have had women start to fade then notice I was allready gone. So they hit me up again for I don't know why. Maybe because I ruined their fade and they insist on me chasing them so they can complete it?
Popsicle Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 I agree with the others that he is doing the fade due to not being interested. He likes your IG pictures because he's trying to keep you as a backup option.
joseb Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 definitely not interested. as a guy you would be very much into getting more dates as soon as possible. I suspect he has a gf now or met someone who he really likes. Probably used you for seks. Sorry I think he's probably just multi dating and you are one of many balls he is juggling, and sometimes he drops one. 2
Author Kimmyluv Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 Thanks everyone for responding! It really helped me to know there was a name for what he was doing. The fade out fits him to a T! He hasn't text me still and continued to like pics of me on Instsgram.
Author Kimmyluv Posted March 12, 2016 Author Posted March 12, 2016 Not sure anyone still reads this thread but long story short I found him back on the dating site and confronted him. He claims he literally made it that day. I said doesn't matter when he made it I wanted him to be honest if he liked me or wanted to date me cuz I'm over this. He never text back so I blocked him on Instagram. I know I had my answer with three weeks of no contact.
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