Wanderlust2386 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Long story but this girl I was dating for 3 months suddenly blocked me for no reason, other than I was tired of her not following through on her promises. I stood up for myself and suddenly I was blocked - on phone, everything. I was devastated. Two months later she texts me and says I think we should talk. I stupidly replied "okay" and no response for a week , so I said "did you mean that?" And no response now for almost another week. I had a lot of feelings for her and was hoping we could reconcile one day and at least be friends. I don't even know what we have to reconcile about, nothing terrible happened - I really don't understand this girl. Why text me if you're not going to reply? Now I feel absolutely awful that I replied and I can't get over it. Part of me what's to yell at her and ask her why she'd do that to me, when she already hurt me once. But I'm thinking I should just leave it alone. Thing is I really care about her and I do think we should talk, but I feel so stupid. I don't know what to do. I don't know what her deal is. I'm thinking she got drunk one night and was just lonely or something. Because I did absolutely nothing to her to warrant this kind of behavior. 1
Redhead14 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Long story but this girl I was dating for 3 months suddenly blocked me for no reason, other than I was tired of her not following through on her promises. I stood up for myself and suddenly I was blocked - on phone, everything. I was devastated. Two months later she texts me and says I think we should talk. I stupidly replied "okay" and no response for a week , so I said "did you mean that?" And no response now for almost another week. I had a lot of feelings for her and was hoping we could reconcile one day and at least be friends. I don't even know what we have to reconcile about, nothing terrible happened - I really don't understand this girl. Why text me if you're not going to reply? Now I feel absolutely awful that I replied and I can't get over it. Part of me what's to yell at her and ask her why she'd do that to me, when she already hurt me once. But I'm thinking I should just leave it alone. Thing is I really care about her and I do think we should talk, but I feel so stupid. I don't know what to do. I don't know what her deal is. I'm thinking she got drunk one night and was just lonely or something. Because I did absolutely nothing to her to warrant this kind of behavior. There is freedom in knowing that there are things that are simply not in your control or ability to know/understand. Oftentimes, it has nothing to do with YOU. Acceptance is liberating. You cannot control how a person feels, what they think, what they like, what they need, what they want, when they feel what they feel, why they feel what they feel, why they do what they do. And, usually neither can they. It is what it is. You don't know why she's doing what she's doing and it doesn't matter why. What matters is that you are struggling with this and you don't have to. Do not entertain any more communication from her. Block her from your phone, SM, mind and heart. She hasn't earned her way into your life on any level. 4
blackcat777 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Stay NC. She needed the ego boost to know whether or not you're still on the hook. You deserve so much better. Stay NC for yourself. 1
Jame22 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) I had a girl do this to me once. I made it clear that I wanted her romantically and she kept trying to string me along in the friend-zone. One day, I had enough and I absolutely went off on her. It worked, she hasn't tried to contact me in over two years. I don't feel bad about it all I'm sure thinks I'm a dick, but at least I'm not hanging out in the friendzone. If she ever contacts you again (she might) I'd tell her to eff off and then speak to her again. Edited February 26, 2016 by Jame22 1
SugarLips72 Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Blow this girl off. She is immature and into games. You dont need that. what could she possibly want that would serve any good purpose? 2
soph-walker Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 There is freedom in knowing that there are things that are simply not in your control or ability to know/understand. Oftentimes, it has nothing to do with YOU. Acceptance is liberating. You cannot control how a person feels, what they think, what they like, what they need, what they want, when they feel what they feel, why they feel what they feel, why they do what they do. And, usually neither can they. It is what it is. You don't know why she's doing what she's doing and it doesn't matter why. What matters is that you are struggling with this and you don't have to. Do not entertain any more communication from her. Block her from your phone, SM, mind and heart. She hasn't earned her way into your life on any level. I think I need to have this tattooed on my forehead. 1
TheFinalWord Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Long story but this girl I was dating for 3 months suddenly blocked me for no reason, other than I was tired of her not following through on her promises. I stood up for myself and suddenly I was blocked - on phone, everything. I was devastated. Two months later she texts me and says I think we should talk. I stupidly replied "okay" and no response for a week , so I said "did you mean that?" And no response now for almost another week. I had a lot of feelings for her and was hoping we could reconcile one day and at least be friends. I don't even know what we have to reconcile about, nothing terrible happened - I really don't understand this girl. Why text me if you're not going to reply? Now I feel absolutely awful that I replied and I can't get over it. Part of me what's to yell at her and ask her why she'd do that to me, when she already hurt me once. But I'm thinking I should just leave it alone. Thing is I really care about her and I do think we should talk, but I feel so stupid. I don't know what to do. I don't know what her deal is. I'm thinking she got drunk one night and was just lonely or something. Because I did absolutely nothing to her to warrant this kind of behavior. Fool me once, shame on you...fool me twice, you know the rest. Don't beat yourself up, but you've been delivered a second dose of her inconsistency. Return the favor, block, delete, move on. 2
lchf Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 You should not have replied in the first place. 1
phineas Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 You should not have replied in the first place. Yep. Got a bunch of women I dated that would ghost on me after a few months then all of sudden message me then ignore me when I responded. Wait a week, repeat. If I ignored them they would send sad faces. Then i'd call them out on their games and tell them if they really wanted to talk to me they wouldn't keep sending me messages only to ignore me. Then they would leave me alone. lol 1
Satu Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 She's a time-waster, and it's your time thats being wasted. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care.
Author Wanderlust2386 Posted February 29, 2016 Author Posted February 29, 2016 Thank you for the advice. I've left it where it's at and accepted that she was just toying with me. I still don't understand her and I'm hurt by it, but at this point there's nothing I even have to say to her. I've been blaming myself for months and now I realize I did absolutely nothing wrong. It shows in her behavior how crazy she is. It just blows my mind how inconsiderate people are. She really got into my head though. We had an intense relationship and I think it's why I'm having a hard time letting her go. But I hate that she has a hold on me and I think you are right by saying she just wanted to see if I was still here. I feel bad that I let her win like that. It's not easy to block her, I've never done that to anyone, not even my ex of 5 years, but Ive also never been played with or dealt with someone so immature. I really want to move on. I've blocked her on social media, etc but I need to block her number. I don't know what's stopping me honestly. I know she is no good.
truth_seeker Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Thank you for the advice. I've left it where it's at and accepted that she was just toying with me. I still don't understand her and I'm hurt by it, but at this point there's nothing I even have to say to her. I've been blaming myself for months and now I realize I did absolutely nothing wrong. It shows in her behavior how crazy she is. It just blows my mind how inconsiderate people are. She really got into my head though. We had an intense relationship and I think it's why I'm having a hard time letting her go. But I hate that she has a hold on me and I think you are right by saying she just wanted to see if I was still here. I feel bad that I let her win like that. It's not easy to block her, I've never done that to anyone, not even my ex of 5 years, but Ive also never been played with or dealt with someone so immature. I really want to move on. I've blocked her on social media, etc but I need to block her number. I don't know what's stopping me honestly. I know she is no good. She has the upper hand that is why you can't let her go. I wouldn't block her just yet. Leave the lines of communications open. I think she will contact you again, and this is where you can move on from her -- by gaining the upper hand. You need this. It will help you move on from her. If she contacts you, you reply that you're seeing someone else and you're very happy. You wish her the best. THEN YOU BLOCK HER. You accomplish: 1) Getting the last word 2) Letting her know YOU MOVED ON FROM HER 3) You're happy 4) By blocking her you're slamming the door shut on her 5) You win Women do this all the time, especially the low class immature ones... they want to hurt you, f-ck you over and be able to have that hanging over your head. It makes them feel better about themselves. Really sick behavior.
Miss Peach Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Stay NC. She needed the ego boost to know whether or not you're still on the hook. You deserve so much better. Stay NC for yourself. This is my experience with people who do stuff like what the OP described.
thecrucible Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Women do this all the time, especially the low class immature ones... they want to hurt you, f-ck you over and be able to have that hanging over your head. It makes them feel better about themselves. Really sick behavior. Whoa. Quit the woman hating. Not everything is done out of spite. I have an ex who keeps coming back wanting to talk to me and I'm forced to keep ignoring because I'm in a quandary. I did give him a chance once when he said he wanted to be friends again. He blew it by pinning me down and attempting to trick me into having sex with him again. It doesn't matter how often he makes a new profile on social media and adds me, I am not budging! I consider that he has proved who he is to me. Anyway, I agree with other advice OP. You need to move on with no second thought for her. I know that's hard but tell yourself that you're wasting thoughts on someone who isn't thinking about so she isn't worth it.
truth_seeker Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Whoa. Quit the woman hating. Not everything is done out of spite. I have an ex who keeps coming back wanting to talk to me and I'm forced to keep ignoring because I'm in a quandary. I did give him a chance once when he said he wanted to be friends again. He blew it by pinning me down and attempting to trick me into having sex with him again. It doesn't matter how often he makes a new profile on social media and adds me, I am not budging! I consider that he has proved who he is to me. Not woman hating... just pointing out that there are women who behave this way.
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