sunshinegirl Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Ugh. This weekend has been one big bounce backwards. I'm having pangs of missing my ex...going to the beach yesterday reminded me of him. Going to church this morning reminded me of him. The Red Sox remind me of him. (dammit!) Can someone just remind me that this is a phase? That this incredible sadness I have of no longer having this person in my life will ultimately pass? It's been 4+ months and we only dated for 6 months. Shouldn't I be over him already?!?! I hate that he's a phone call away and would likely be happy to hear from me if I called. Which I won't do, obviously, because I'm not fool enough to think I can be friends with him. If only I didn't still have feelings for him! Dammit. Dammit. Dammit.
Pyro Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Hi Sunshinegirl. Trust me, it will pass. Time is what it will take for your feelings to go away. I feel your pain. I recently ended a relationship of 14 months. It sucks when you go somewhere or do something and it reminds you of your significant other. You two were seeing each other for 6 months and its already been 4 months and you still have these feelings? He must have been quite the guy. The only thing that I can suggest to try and forget and move on is to keep yourself busy. This is a great time to perhaps take up a new hobby. Try new things. Try something that will not make you think of him in the least bit. By trying new and interesting things, there shouldn't be a problem with you keeping your mind off of him. Good luck to you.
chaos70 Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 I suggest getting the girls together...getting all dressed up and a night of boozing and shameless flirting at a club. When the guys are giving you some attention, that will help numb that. But keep it at shameless flirting...
sleeplessincnd Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 So why did you break up? Did you break up with him or did he break up with you? Seems like you had some pretty strong feelings. Maybe you should reach out to him and see how it goes. If you parted on decent terms and he is not a serial killer then there might be hope. You know that you should move on but there is part of you that is really not ready so you just might benefit from seeing if there really is something there. You need to determine if you miss him or just the idea of him! Call him and see how it goes, if the magic is still there you might not have to live without him! Good luck.
smile95 Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 I would not advise calling him....sorry if that casues conflict w/ anyone on here. You are still alive without him. Do not call. You will feel worse. What if you find out he has someone else? What if he is rude? What if he does not call you back or answer? You will have bad days, but keep moving along. I always have to tell myself that if he loved me and it was meant to be, he will call me
Author sunshinegirl Posted June 13, 2005 Author Posted June 13, 2005 Hi everyone, thanks for replying. I'm just annoyed that these thoughts and feelings have popped back up, after a few weeks that have actually been pretty good. I think I'm doing all the "right" things--getting into some new hobbies, meeting new people, staying busy with work. Actually had girls' night out Friday, and I'm starting to think about dating new people (although I'm realizing my heart's not really ready for it yet). Contacting him is not an option. I did that a month ago and learned that he has no regrets about our breakup (he broke things off, saying only that his feelings changed...we'd had no major fights or areas of incompatibility...I just happened to move to his city). He'd like to be friends but I said no. So there's no chance of rekindling anything. I need reminders that it's just not true that he was TheOne for me...it's just not true that I won't love again...it's just not true that I won't have that kind of connection again. Those are some of the things getting me down these days. Plus not having him in my life in any way, shape, or form. He made me laugh like no one else and part of me still misses that daily interaction.
Pyro Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 It's tough to forget and move on, especially with someone that you had a connection with like you did with your ex. It obviously wasn't meant to last, or else you two would still be going strong. There is obviously the "one" for you out there, you just have to find him. Don't let it get you down and keep your head up high.
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