Mjm1014 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 I have been talking to this girl for awhile now, and we have built a strong relationship (well at least over the phone..she's moving back to my city this summer)..Since day one she would text me constantly (and get back to me right away), she would constantly want to exchange pictures, she would call me out of the blue, and she even told me she wanted to fly back next month to see me. We've shared our deepest and darkest secrets with each other. We talked so much for awhile that it seemed borderline unhealthy but we never got sick of each other. About a week ago, I noticed that she's becoming increasingly distant/reserved almost overnight, and now she almost acts like I'm just a friend. She hardly sends me any pictures, and our conversations seem very dull. When I asked if she was still coming to see me next month she told me she probably cant make it now. This entire week, she has yet to even call me (she does pick up when I call her though)...I've brought all this up with her and she just gets defensive and say's I'm overthinking things. Here's the thing..when I back off from her completely, she starts asking why I'm not talking to her anymore. She still wants to text me, and sends me texts out of the blue if I don't respond or if I quit talking to her, but they are really lame/one or two word texts, and no matter what I say or how much I write, she wont open up to me or doesn't even seem interested in doing so. I'm very confused why this girl continues to talk to me if she isn't interested. Normally I would move on, but this was my biggest crush growing up, and we've had a great month getting to know each other. It's hard getting out of this especially when she still seems remotely interested. I just feel like something is WAY off and maybe she isn't telling me something. ps shes texting me as I write this asking what I'm doing...never ends
hasaquestion Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Sounds like she appreciates your attention. Now that she's going to be closer to you she's nervous about leading you on and pulling away. This 'relationship' sounds lame as hell. Why do you put up with this? Find a girl who is real and physically there to get to know you, not a pen pal.
brokengirl85 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 How many threads are you opening for the exact same topic??? You've already opened 3 in led than a day :: 2
hasaquestion Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 How many threads are you opening for the exact same topic??? You've already opened 3 in led than a day :: Because no one said what he wants to hear, perhaps? Don't mean to be a dick OP. Just tough love. This is the kind of arrangement that you can't respect yourself and put up with.
brokengirl85 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 We've already took the time to read and reply but it seems OP needs more? Yes, hasaquestion, it's probably because our answers don't match with his desires and hopes.
joseb Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 You can read the replies to http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/571148-best-way-handle-someone-going-cold And http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/571019-when-girl-pulls-back Which about covers it. Don't get emotionally involved with a computer screen or phone.
GTR King Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 She is either loosing interest or has found someone else... just act normal and see how she is for a few days if still not the same then talk to her about it...
Robratory Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 I have been talking to this girl for awhile now, and we have built a strong relationship (well at least over the phone... Don't do that unless you live in a town as small as the one where they shot Corner Gas. Too many people online behave as if other people are just characters in a video game. It's just not real. 1
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