Author Eaglestar83 Posted February 26, 2016 Author Posted February 26, 2016 Could it be, but a week is definitely too much time. A couple hours is a reasonable amount of time to reply without looking desperate. In this case, this girl is probably semi interested, bored, or just broke up with someone. The reply of OP is really bad. If I received that reply, I'd ignore him forever or cancel. This was intended to be a bad reply. Like I explained, I wanted to let her know that am not a fool, but also to convey that I don't really care, but also to hint that am a bit interested. If she is the fickle or the player type, my reply would almost certainly make her delete my number which is a welcomed outcome by me.
katiegrl Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) Judging from my own personal experience if someone is very slow in replying like that then their interest is very low. At least at the moment. However, it doesn't hurt to meet up, maybe it'll be different after that. But I wouldn't stick around if she's always slow like this. Well yeah her interest is low....she has never even met the guy nor spoken with him other than a chat via text. OP, meet her in person.... and gauge her interest level then. I met a guy last weekend at an outdoor concert, who asked me to join him and his group of friends that night at a club. I had plans so didn't show, but I have his number and am considering texting him this weekend (one week later) to meet up for a drink next week. I don't know how I feel about him... and why would I, I don't know him! But if he accepts my invite and we meet for a drink next week, we will both find out then! I highly doubt he will be thinking "gee, she didn't show last week and took a whole week to get back to me, I think her interest is low, so think I'll pass on meeting her for a drink, and getting to know her." How silly would that be for pete's sake! Jeez. Edited February 26, 2016 by katiegrl
Author Eaglestar83 Posted February 26, 2016 Author Posted February 26, 2016 (edited) Well yeah her interest is low....she has never even met the guy nor spoken with him other than a chat via text. I highly doubt he will be thinking "gee, she didn't show last week and took a whole week to get back to me, I think her interest is low, so think I'll pass on meeting her for a drink, and getting to know her." How silly would that be for pete's sake! Jeez. It's not the same situation, I sent her a text a week ago which went like this: " hey how are you? Hope you had a nice holiday? Xx" yea she ows me nothing, but neither do I owe her anything, what we owe each other is common human courtesy and clearly this is lacking If this guy was to text you and you took a week to reply back don't you think it's rude? Am 33 not a teenager, I expect some maturity from people I date. I was actually thoroughly annoyed that she replied back, I moved on after few days and didn't expect to hear from her again. I've dated many fickles in the past and wasted many many years, been there, done that, got the t.shirt. Now I want something worth while and genuine Edited February 26, 2016 by Eaglestar83
katiegrl Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 It's not the same situation, I sent her a text a week ago which went like this: " hey how are you? Hope you had a nice holiday? Xx" yea she ows me nothing, but neither do I owe her anything, what we owe each other is common human courtesy and clearly this is lacking If this guy was to text you and you took a week to reply back don't you think it's rude? Am 33 not a teenager, I expect some maturity from people I date I agree that it's rude to ignore a text message, however, I tend to have little to no expectations of people I haven't even met in person yet, and/or don't really know. Putting myself in your shoes... might be bugged a little... but it certainly wouldn't prevent me from meeting in person to explore the possibility of determining if something is there or not, and worth exploring. She could end up being the love of your life for all you know...and vice versa. Just sayin. Lower expectations and give people the benefit of the doubt, especially people you don't really know and haven't met.
AMJ Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 It's not the same situation, I sent her a text a week ago which went like this: " hey how are you? Hope you had a nice holiday? Xx" yea she ows me nothing, but neither do I owe her anything, what we owe each other is common human courtesy and clearly this is lacking If this guy was to text you and you took a week to reply back don't you think it's rude? Am 33 not a teenager, I expect some maturity from people I date. I was actually thoroughly annoyed that she replied back, I moved on after few days and didn't expect to hear from her again. I've dated many fickles in the past and wasted many many years, been there, done that, got the t.shirt. Now I want something worth while and genuine I gave a guy from OLD my number, he sent me a hello text, I replied. Then he sent me a longer text about his gym workout and how sore he was going to be the next day. I now have zero desire to respond. He didn't ask me a question, he didn't say anything that I can comment on other than- "well, sorry to hear you're going to be sore from your workout today" but...I'm thinking...no, sorry Micah. I'm also sore from my workout today, but does anyone really care that much?? That's the type of conversation you have with your boyfriend when you both know each other so well that you have nothing else to talk about other than what you ate for lunch that day. And how many squats you did at the gym or miles you ran or whatever. I am talking to dozens of other guys online who have more interesting things to say to me, and seem to want to get to know me. No idea if this is a similar situation, but wanted to give another perspective.
joseb Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I gave a guy from OLD my number, he sent me a hello text, I replied. Then he sent me a longer text about his gym workout and how sore he was going to be the next day. I now have zero desire to respond. He didn't ask me a question, he didn't say anything that I can comment on other than- "well, sorry to hear you're going to be sore from your workout today" but...I'm thinking...no, sorry Micah. I'm also sore from my workout today, but does anyone really care that much?? That's the type of conversation you have with your boyfriend when you both know each other so well that you have nothing else to talk about other than what you ate for lunch that day. And how many squats you did at the gym or miles you ran or whatever. I am talking to dozens of other guys online who have more interesting things to say to me, and seem to want to get to know me. No idea if this is a similar situation, but wanted to give another perspective. Interesting perspective. I actually prefer when people text me interesting titbits rather than ask me questions. I absolutely hate the "hows your day" type questions, which is all women on tinder seem to be able to say. I also dislike ending texts with a question. Feels needy, like I'm craving a reply. You know?? 1
joseb Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 This was intended to be a bad reply. Like I explained, I wanted to let her know that am not a fool, but also to convey that I don't really care, but also to hint that am a bit interested. If she is the fickle or the player type, my reply would almost certainly make her delete my number which is a welcomed outcome by me. Yeah or is she is a girl you barely know and owes you nothing and isn't desperate then it's likely that you will have put her off with that reply. You sound like you have a lot of built up resentment from past experiences. Try to not let that sabotage potential possibilities. Especially ones where people you know have helped set them up. If this friend knows other single friends, she is now unlikely to introduce them to you. 1
katiegrl Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Interesting perspective. I actually prefer when people text me interesting titbits rather than ask me questions. I absolutely hate the "hows your day" type questions, which is all women on tinder seem to be able to say. I also dislike ending texts with a question. Feels needy, like I'm craving a reply. You know?? I like your style joseb....always have. 1
AMJ Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Interesting perspective. I actually prefer when people text me interesting titbits rather than ask me questions. I absolutely hate the "hows your day" type questions, which is all women on tinder seem to be able to say. I also dislike ending texts with a question. Feels needy, like I'm craving a reply. You know?? Now the question is, what's an interesting tidbit? I'm sure some people would love to chat about their gym routine. Maybe the guy I was talking about wants a lady who loves to listen to him talk about his bench presses..and honestly, if I were in love with someone, I'd listen to them read from a dictionary. Recently a guy asked me- what's the best thing that's happened to you within the last 30 minutes? And I appreciated the quirkiness of that question. Clearly nothing that exciting has happened to me in 30 minutes, but it's an icebreaker. I'm not normally too hung up on how the conversation starts, but rather, does the conversation go anywhere. And how difficult is it to get the conversation to go somewhere. I guess my point was, people should try to avoid being the dead-end of a conversation in OLD. 1
katiegrl Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Recently a guy asked me- what's the best thing that's happened to you within the last 30 minutes? How about -- "Talking to you!" I bet that is what he was hoping you'd say anyway... :)
AMJ Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 How about -- "Talking to you!" I bet that is what he was hoping you'd say anyway... :) Not at all what I answered! LOL. Oh well.
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