elizabetk Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Some of you might be remember the two other threads I posted recently. If so, please skip the quick intro, I don't want to bore you. My boyfriend (turning 30 this year, well educated, incredibly successful) and I (23, well educated, good career) have been together for two months and it has been amazing. Things have progressed rather quickly but it feels absolutely natural. He has made jokes (according to most of you not jokes at all) about us getting married and having children. I am the more guarded one and it takes me longer to feel at ease and he has been comfortable with waiting for the right time for me(for example, he openly said he wants a relationship halfway through our first month of dating but it is ultimately up to me when/if I feel comfortable - which I did after a month and a half of exclusively dating). A couple of weeks ago he said it is highly probable I would say "I love you" in another 2 months time. In the last few days he has been jokingly asking if I love him yet (we spend a lot of time together and if not miss each others presence). The way he phrases the matter is rather humorous but I am not sure what to make of it. Does it mean that he already loves me and is waiting for me to say it first? Is he testing the waters whilst making up his mind? Thanks!
kendahke Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Does it mean that he already loves me and is waiting for me to say it first? Is he testing the waters whilst making up his mind? What did he say when you asked him that?
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 It's a weird thing to say but it seems like he's testing the waters. He may have strong feelings for you but he doesn't want to scare or overwhelm you. How do you feel about him?
Author elizabetk Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 What did he say when you asked him that? He swiftly changed the topic and made a joke. It's a weird thing to say but it seems like he's testing the waters. He may have strong feelings for you but he doesn't want to scare or overwhelm you. How do you feel about him? Thanks. You might very well be right. I believe I am falling in love with him.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 You guys are still in the honeymoon phase at 2 months so his serotonin levels from the relationship is relatively high with constant texting, hanging out etc. He is testing the waters to see how you feel about him because he obviously feels extremely good about being with you.
soleilesquire Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Sounds like he read one of those dumb lists that includes "never say I love you first" It's a cowardly move designed to get you to take the risk first.
hasaquestion Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Sounds like he read one of those dumb lists that includes "never say I love you first" It's a cowardly move designed to get you to take the risk first. Or he's gotten burned before. I wouldn't read too much into it OP. Actions speak louder than words. How does he treat you. 1
Author elizabetk Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 You guys are still in the honeymoon phase at 2 months so his serotonin levels from the relationship is relatively high with constant texting, hanging out etc. He is testing the waters to see how you feel about him because he obviously feels extremely good about being with you. You could very well be correct. I feel extremely good about being with him too and I believe I show him through my actions. Or he's gotten burned before. I wouldn't read too much into it OP. Actions speak louder than words. How does he treat you. Thanks for your input! He was in a relationship for 6 years which ended badly a couple of years ago, during that time he has not wanted/been in an exclusive relationship with another woman. He treats me amazingly and I have never felt more loved/desired/appreciated (I have had my fair share of relationships and know this is the real deal).
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Yes he is in love with you! I've had BFs that would fish around like that because they think it might be too soon or were worried it would blow up in their face. 1
Author elizabetk Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 Yes he is in love with you! I've had BFs that would fish around like that because they think it might be too soon or were worried it would blow up in their face. Interesting, thanks for your answer! What did you do in said occasions if you don't mind me asking?
Methodical Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 He's putting out feelers to see where he stand and how you perceive the relationship. He doesn't want to say I love you and in return get an ..... uh, ok? response.
Author elizabetk Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 He's putting out feelers to see where he stand and how you perceive the relationship. He doesn't want to say I love you and in return get an ..... uh, ok? response. Thanks! To be honest, I am not giving him any indicators that I would say "I love you" back. Judging how certain he was he wants me in his life and the way he treats me constantly (honeymoon phase or not), it is not hard to tell he loves me/is falling in love with me.
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