What to expect from this coming date

[Aloahey]

Hi all

I`ve been online dating for a while and had quit a few intense contact where I mailed or texted with girl on a daily basis. Most of the time they also gave me the feeling, that they really liked me. Although all dates, went always well and lasted long, it never worked out and ended just in a friendly way.

 

Now since about three weeks (the girl contacted me first) I started to mail with this girl. First on a very casual way, basic questions, like what you do, where do you like to travel and so on. Anyway about a week ago, we started to Whatsapp with each other. First she was very careful and didn`t tell me to much of her. She also had written in her profile that she got hurt a lot in the past and is looking for something serious, as do I. The chatting however got soon intenser, like she is texting me before work in in the morning, at lunch time and in the evening we usually chat from the time she gets home until midnight. Also we started to play this question answering game, where the questions got very quickly personal and intimate. Like what are my intention in a relationship etc. Then she started slowly to ask me things about sex. Last night just before bed time she texted that she is in bed naked. Only a couple minutes later, she send me a nude pic from her side. So I`ve sent her a pic from me, only upper body though, which she apparantely really liked. I also wrote her that I really appreciate her trust to send me this pic but I`m missing a pic from her front (in a joking way of course). To my surprise she agreed and sent me two. Further, even though I asked if she wants one from me too, she only mentioned that is not necessary she already has the other one she really likes.

Is she just playing with me or does she mean it serious? Btw she is 35 and we are dating this sunday. Haven`t been in this situation yet and I`m just not sure what to expect on sunday. I really like her and from what we know from each other, we seem to match really really well.

 

What do you guys think?

cheers Aloahey

[PegNosePete]

I think either she's an overweight bald guy, a group of giggling teenagers, or you're just one of many guys that she does this kind of thing with. If option 3, then I think she'll either cancel your date, regret her "extroverted" behaviour, or her interest in you will die very quickly. None of those options are particularly good, really.

 

I would very much recommend not doing what you're currently doing. You're building up an idea of what she's like from a very limited interaction using technology. It's impossible to know what she's actually like in real life from this, and the image you're building up of each other will most likely be inaccurate. An inaccurate image usually means you "fill in the blanks" with your idea of perfection, so leads to disappointment when you finally meet.

 

It makes much more sense to meet up sooner rather than later, so you don't build up a "perfect" mental image. Remember nothing is real until you meet.

[Aloahey]

Hi PegNosePete

 

Thanks for your response. The pics are real and its definitely her. I know that from a couple of reasons, which however would take too long to explain. Her interest in me seems to get bigger day by day, even after she told me a couple of very intimate details from her and sending me the pics. Also she mentions pretty much every day that she is really looking forward to see me this sunday. Probably going to do some sport or to a thermal spring together. Why do you think, her interest in me will die very quickly? Our chatting is not all about sex, most of the time its more emotional stuff.

 

Cheers

[PegNosePete]

Why do you think, her interest in me will die very quickly?

Because it is based on a fictional version of you that she has created in her head, based on the limited interactions you have had, using technology rather than a face-to-face meeting.

 

Either that or you're dealing with a stage 3 clinger.

 

Sorry I can't be more positive here. I may be wrong, you might get on like a house on fire, who knows. But in my experience, that which burns brightly, burns fast. There's really no reason to think this date will go any better than any other OLD first meet. And most of them are one-shot wonders for various reasons.

[d0nnivain]

Bring condoms on your date & see what happens. Keep your expectations low though. She might not be as forward IRL as she is when hiding behind technology.