liza93 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Hi there, new to this forum and just a little confused by something and would be grateful of the help. Last year I was travelling Europe and spent four months in a hostel in Prague. There was a guy there, let's call him 'M' who was there as long as I was. We were always friends but not particularly close. We were part of the same friends circle though. In his last week we spent more time together and we were what you would call an 'almost relationship', feelings developed and we became very close in a short amount of time. Anyway when we both were back in our home countries a couple of weeks later (I am from Scotland, he is from Germany) he said he didn't want a long distance relationship but if we were from the same country he would have gone for it. Fair enough, who does want long distance after all? I was upset at first, but after a bit it was fine and we both said there were no hard feelings whatsoever and as I was planning a trip to Munich within the next year he made me promise I would get in touch so we could hang out again. Since then there was no contact, not because of any bitterness, just life getting in the way. I travelled more of Europe and started dance training so I was always super busy. This is the part I am confused about: M was on my friends list back in January when he commented on a mutual friend's post on a weekend. That reminded me to get in touch with him about my trip to Germany I have booked in a couple of months. I went to message him on the Monday, and he had removed me from his friends at some point over that weekend. I find it very very odd after all these months, when there were no hard feelings over a relationship starting and we had both moved on from each other that way and we were on friendly terms. He does have a girlfriend but they got together months ago so it can't be that he is removing old flames and exes because of her. I would message him and ask but my pride is standing in the way. I take this to mean he suddenly doesn't like me and never wants to talk to me again but I just don't get WHY after seven months. After he rejected me as a girlfriend I behaved with nothing but dignity, I was happy for him when he got a girlfriend a couple of months later and I just got on with my life. I will feel very sad if I have lost a friend just because at some point feelings got involved. Anyone care to venture a guess? Thanks very much PS: I did wonder if I was being paranoid and he had just deleted loads of people who he hadn't spoken to for a while. But everyone from the friendship group at the hostel is still friends with him, he only removed me.
Author liza93 Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 My guess is that he has a girlfriend. You're right he does, but he got together with her months and months before removing me. I haven't had a problem with it or harrassed him because of it so not sure why the new girlfriend would trigger this.
TheScientist Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Were you the only girl from that group he had history with - if so thats probably the answer to your question. I would not worry about this too much, I have plenty of friends that have girlfriends that do weird things like get the boyfriends to delete girls (especially ones with a history or one of those 'what if' histories) from their friends lists and even some have deactivated profiles. It's odd but it happens.
Author liza93 Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 Were you the only girl from that group he had history with - if so thats probably the answer to your question. I would not worry about this too much, I have plenty of friends that have girlfriends that do weird things like get the boyfriends to delete girls (especially ones with a history or one of those 'what if' histories) from their friends lists and even some have deactivated profiles. It's odd but it happens. There was one girl he was sleeping with for a bit, they were just FWB then it stopped but they didn't have feelings involved. She is still on there. I wonder how his girlfriend would know he has a history with me though. Surely the only way she would know was if he told her which would be an odd thing to do to your girlfriend
TheScientist Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Ha ha you know what some girls are like, digging for information, and even sometimes guys blindly feel liberated and very comfortable and start speaking freely to only be met with DELETE HER NOW! Nonetheless I would not worry too much, hopefully it won't be on your mind for too long xxx
Author liza93 Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 Ha ha you know what some girls are like, digging for information, and even sometimes guys blindly feel liberated and very comfortable and start speaking freely to only be met with DELETE HER NOW! Nonetheless I would not worry too much, hopefully it won't be on your mind for too long xxx Well I guess if his girlfriend of six months feels threatened by a girl who had a thing with him for only a couple of weeks then I guess that is a compliment
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