Just talked to this 'very handsome guy'

[loveflower]

That's what this guy told me, he said he is very handsome.

 

This guy contacted me in wechat long time ago...didn't really interest in stranger, so kind of ignored him.

 

I just fb friend requested this guy I actually met once and been fascinated for years. i finally mastered the courage to do it.

 

God I am so nervous about the outcome of the request...

 

so I finally chatted up this guy to take my edge and mind of the request. he asked for my pics and age. he seemed really want to meet me. and said he is very energetic and like intimacy with girls and I can explore him etc....good lord...

 

um...what should I do with this guy? I just used him as a buffer. he maybe indeed very handsome, but he is definitely not my type. I don't like guy who has high number.

[loveflower]

and he is 10 years younger...not that it matters as I am not serious about him...even he is indeed very handsome.

 

this is very easy and quick.......

 

unlike with this friend I requested...I know for years, and think about for months and years and not even really talked as friend.

 

and here I am meeting this stranger guy who started talking close already.

 

life is ironic...

Edited February 25, 2016 by loveflower

[MidwestUSA]

 

and here I am meeting this stranger guy who started talking close already.

 

life is ironic...

 

 

You're meeting him? When?

 

You realize what he's after, right?

[brokengirl85]

He's after sex, loveflower. He said he's energetic and likes intimacy. Please be careful when friending a stranger on FB.

 

Is this the guy you've posted about yesterday? The one you've been obsessed for years?

[basil67]

I don't understand what you're trying to achieve

[loveflower]

You're meeting him? When?

 

You realize what he's after, right?

 

yes, I know.

 

I did not agree to meet him today. he said I let him know if I change my mind.

[loveflower]

He's after sex, loveflower. He said he's energetic and likes intimacy. Please be careful when friending a stranger on FB.

 

Is this the guy you've posted about yesterday? The one you've been obsessed for years?

 

Thanks for the reminding.

 

goodness...I don't know if I have writing problem or you have reading problem.

[brokengirl85]

Thanks for the reminding.

 

goodness...I don't know if I have writing problem or you have reading problem.

 

You have a writing problem, definitely.

[loveflower]

I don't understand what you're trying to achieve

 

Just to have someone else to talk to to take my mind and edge of FB friend requested this guy. so I can feel less lonely and desperate. He hasn't accepted it yet. I will give it some more time, since I sent at night and it's early in the morning.

 

wechat is a very populous app like skype and whatisapp

[loveflower]

You have a writing problem, definitely.

 

other may confused that I didn't specific this guy and that guy. but since you follow my posts, you should know better.

 

my second post should make things crystal clear...

[lilmissjava]

Is the FB guy single?

 

The 10 years younger guy sounds like "fun" lol.

 

He sounds pretty confident. Some might feel he is very handsome (including himself) and others may see him as average, depending on who it is.

 

I would just continue talking to him, no harm in that.

 

Men come in droves once in a while. The tough part is choosing the one that mirrors what you want.

[Michelle ma Belle]

When you play with the bull you get the horns as they say.

[loveflower]

Is the FB guy single?

 

The 10 years younger guy sounds like "fun" lol.

 

He sounds pretty confident. Some might feel he is very handsome (including himself) and others may see him as average, depending on who it is.

 

I would just continue talking to him, no harm in that.

 

Men come in droves once in a while. The tough part is choosing the one that mirrors what you want.

 

Don't know now...I supposed he was 5 months ago. coz he was living in a remote area, hard to think one will find a gf in a place you don't want to stay. now he came back to this big city 5 months ago. so I don't know if he found a gf in 5 months.

 

yes, the Wechat guy is very confident and going after....so I think someone like him must have high number. he just said hi again 20 miniutes ago...I didn't reply until 10 minutes later...no response now.

[loveflower]

I think I let my imagination carried away with this guy I just friend requested. It's not so much about his looks. I met him once over a long coffee talk. and I saw him a couple times in events.

 

It is just that he used to live in my native country for years and speak the language and know the culture. while I only visited there for a few weeks in the last 20 years. so maybe that alone makes him very endearing.

 

I just feel he is a good guy.

 

He still hasn't accept the request yet. It is so nerve racking...but I will give him some times.

 

what will he think of my request? now I finally did it after a year of looking at him showing up at my 'people you know know list'. hope he doesn't think I am a freak?

 

I just need to be brave and get it over with no matter the outcome, before I make myself really crazy.

Edited February 25, 2016 by loveflower

[ExpatInItaly]

The younger guy is looking for casual fun. Don't meet him in a private area, and don't give him your personal details. If you insist on meeting him, do so in a public place not too close to your home. You have no idea who you're dealing with until you meet in person.

 

The guy you've been fantasizing about: you're right, you're letting your imagination get carried away. You barely know him. I see you're making a lot of assumptions about him and his relationship status, though. Not much you can do about that. If he accepts your request, it still doesn't guarantee anything.

 

I think it will be more productive to stay involved in hobbies and interests that don't involve men, to keep your life rich and interesting anyway. It will provide a great distraction that is healthier than chatting up random strangers online.

[loveflower]

The younger guy is looking for casual fun. Don't meet him in a private area, and don't give him your personal details. If you insist on meeting him, do so in a public place not too close to your home. You have no idea who you're dealing with until you meet in person.

 

The guy you've been fantasizing about: you're right, you're letting your imagination get carried away. You barely know him. I see you're making a lot of assumptions about him and his relationship status, though. Not much you can do about that. If he accepts your request, it still doesn't guarantee anything.

 

I think it will be more productive to stay involved in hobbies and interests that don't involve men, to keep your life rich and interesting anyway. It will provide a great distraction that is healthier than chatting up random strangers online.

 

Thank you for the cautions.

 

Yes, you are right. I just need to get it over with.

 

He still hasn't accept it. I sent 11:40pm last night, now it is 11:42am.

 

um....maybe I should put a sexy pic in my fb profile. now I just used a flower as my profile pic, I assume he recognize my name?

 

but a semi-sexy pic (just bare shoulder and show a little cleavage) will make me look like what?