Belevr3 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 I had a very short relationship with a guy who I really liked. He was kind of a bad boy but sweet all in the same person which is what attracts me. I believe it was more lust than anything. Long story short, I did some digging in the internet and social media and put some pieces together and found out he has at least nine kids that I know of. He only told me about the three that live with him. He was married four times and he's only 39. He hid all this from me. Once I did the digging and found out I confronted him and asked him if there was anything he needed to tell me. He said no. I asked again if he was sure he told me everything and again he said yes he has told me everything. I dumped him the next day because that was a straight up lie. I basically said to him I know for a fact you're not telling me everything and I wish you'd tell me the truth but I don't think I'm gonna get the truth so it's over. I got no reply from him. My biggest thing in all this is trying to understand why someone has so many kids. He did ask me to stop taking birth control because he wanted a baby wth Me. I never stopped the pill. He seems like he just impregnates all these women. I don't understand why. Low self esteem? I'd like to see others opinion. Il make it clear, I don't want him back but I do miss him. I know I dodged a bullet by dumping him.
amaysngrace Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 What's to understand? He likes to bang. 1
LostOnes05 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 I think about it this way. For one, he seems to be unstable and probably narcissistic. Married 4 times before 40? 9 children? Told you to stop taking birth control. He wanted to hook you. Thing is he probably feels that if you carry his child, he will always have a relationship with you. He will always have a back up plan if something goes wrong with a new woman or one of his children's mom. Essentially, he would have a brood of children and a harem of women. He's butt hurt now because he lied in an attempt to keep you around and was definitely trying to trap you. 2
angel.eyes Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Not your problem why he has so many kids. You broke up with him, right?
Author Belevr3 Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 I understand it's not my problem. I guess in my weakest moments I just need reassurance that I did the right thing. Also I just curious what others think of this behavior. Just trying to understand. Kind of intrigues me.
angel.eyes Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Who cares? He's not relationship material. That's the only relevant data point in all of this.
dreamingoftigers Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 I understand it's not my problem. I guess in my weakest moments I just need reassurance that I did the right thing. Also I just curious what others think of this behavior. Just trying to understand. Kind of intrigues me. Well if he told you "I have (at least) nine kids after four martiages, now drop the birth control." It would be far less likely to happen. I kind of wonder of this guy is my uncle. Seems a very odd pattern.
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