katiegrl Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 I like to expand my horizons - Richmond has a lot of good places to go to but she's been stuck in her little world and seems content with that. Some sort of adventurous spirit is nice. She and I are not in the same book. This has happened with someone else but she did have reasons - mainly financial - for not doing different things but she had a great spirit and liked trail running, etc that we had in common. I understood that. It's not the same in this situation. Hey I am not faulting you for not being into her.....not at all. You have every right to not be into her .....we can't help who we like or don't like. You are a mismatch....you recognize that and it is possible she does too. Not sure why you are still posting about it.....do you feel guilty for not being all that into her? Do you think you should be? If so ...there is no reason to. We like who we like. And if you don't like someone, that is okay! No rationalizations or justifications necessary. Just move on and look for another girl you click better with.
Author jdubinva Posted February 28, 2016 Author Posted February 28, 2016 Hey I am not faulting you for not being into her.....not at all. You have every right to not be into her .....we can't help who we like or don't like. You are a mismatch....you recognize that and it is possible she does too. Not sure why you are still posting about it.....do you feel guilty for not being all that into her? Do you think you should be? If so ...there is no reason to. We like who we like. And if you don't like someone, that is okay! No rationalizations or justifications necessary. Just move on and look for another girl you click better with. If I wasn't attracted to her physically but bored to death otherwise I would just drop communication with her. I thought her mysterious nature was intriguing at first and since then I've seen that it's just her personality.
Ferret Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 I'm not talking about my cultural experiences or world travel or anything along those lines. I just think that her being a homebody is lame to me. And, I've mentioned several times that SHE HAS said that she's an introvert and I think that's what is holding her back from trying different things. I can barely drag her a few miles from her home to try a restaurant. If she's that boring and uptight now, eff it. I've already made my decision. Tech introverts can and do try new things they just find being around a lot of people all the time to be draining I think you are a little misguided on what being a introvert is all about..just saying.. But anywhoo like you say you made your decision and I think its a good one for all involved she deserves some one who she can be herself with and you deserve what you get too...
katiegrl Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 (edited) If I wasn't attracted to her physically but bored to death otherwise I would just drop communication with her. I thought her mysterious nature was intriguing at first and since then I've seen that it's just her personality. Right we get that ...you don't like her personality.....and that's fine! You didn't answer my earlier question though. ...do you feel guilty? Do you think you should like her personality? I am confused as to why you are still posting. I mean of course you have the right to post to your heart's content. but we get it. You found her intriguing at first, but have since realized you are not into her, she's not the girl for you. Which again is okay! Or is there more to this? I am wondering now if you still might be very intrigued, but trying to talk yourself out of it? You seem quite emotional over a girl you claim you have no interest in. If not, time to call it a day and look for someone else. Good luck! Edited February 28, 2016 by katiegrl 1
RRM321 Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 Did I hit some sore spots with what I was saying? No, actually you've simply set off some alarms. Red Flags as it were. The effort you have put forth here suggests this thread was never actually about her.
EatYourVeggies Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 (edited) I like to expand my horizons - Richmond has a lot of good places to go to but she's been stuck in her little world and seems content with that. I am going to walk out on a strong limb and guess you are very controlling in relationships. She is different than you, yes but she freely makes her own choices and is doing what brings her happiness. That doesn't seem to sit well with you. Look at how you talk about her and describe it above and throughout the thread. You believe her to be "stuck", live in a "little world" and should not be "content". All implying she is wrong, you are right and she should do what you say, be who want and change for you. Dated the female version of you, and I am not a fan. Passive Aggressive, can never be wrong or make mistakes, always critical / non stop complaining, condescending and always trying to wear you down and make you into someone else. Edited February 28, 2016 by EatYourVeggies 1
joseb Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 (edited) Tech introverts can and do try new things they just find being around a lot of people all the time to be draining I think you are a little misguided on what being a introvert is all about..just saying.. Yes this is true. I would probably be an introvert, but I love new experiences, travel, etc. I too find being around a lot of people draining at times. Edited February 28, 2016 by joseb 1
Chris2016 Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 I am going to walk out on a strong limb and guess you are very controlling in relationships. She is different than you, yes but she freely makes her own choices and is doing what brings her happiness. That doesn't seem to sit well with you. Look at how you talk about her and describe it above and throughout the thread. You believe her to be "stuck", live in a "little world" and should not be "content". All implying she is wrong, you are right and she should do what you say, be who want and change for you. Dated the female version of you, and I am not a fan. Passive Aggressive, can never be wrong or make mistakes, always critical / non stop complaining, condescending and always trying to wear you down and make you into someone else. Hmm, interesting perspective. Yeah, the nit picking, judgemental stuff, it wears on you. Not a fan either.
Chris2016 Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 OP just let her go. Find someone more suitable. To me she'd be perfect. I haven't been to Disneyland. Why? Cause parents didn't know what it was. Now that I make my own money, I can go anytime.
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