Mjm1014 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Long story short, I've been talking to this girl for a little over a month now over the phone (we use to have a huge crush on eachother about 10 years ago in college but lost touch. Up until about 4-5 days ago she seemed extremely interested in me. She would send me pictures all day, tell me she wanted to come see me (we live in separate towns but she's moving back over the summer). She told me two weeks ago she was booking airfare to come visit. She would call me out of the blue, get back to my texts within a min or two, and be very engaging over the phone/texts. For the past 4-5 days, she's been very distant, gives me one word answers, doesn't call, doesn't send pictures, and just seems plain uninterested. Also, all of a sudden she said she isn't coming to see me anymore. If I stop responding to her or don't answer one of her texts she brings up a new conversation..when I try talking to her about whatever it is she wants to talk about, she gives me boring one or two word/dry answers all over again. When I bring all this up to her, she says she's fine and says I'm over thinking things (usually very defensive). For the past day or two I've backed off A LOT but whenever I do that she starts to question why I'm not talking to her. I do not get it! I'm super bored. Its clear this is becoming very lame. My question is why would she string me along? I have no idea what to do..... When I try to move on, she starts texting me again. I just want someone totally in or totally out...games :/ 1
neowulf Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 When I try to move on, she starts texting me again. I just want someone totally in or totally out...games :/ In a similar situation myself at the moment. It's pretty simple man, don't put up with this game playing. Take control back. Don't like how's she's behaving, then just lay it on straight with her. Tell her it's been fun but you're moving on. People get so caught up with the wrong questions. It doesn't matter "Why" she's playing games. All that matters is whether or not this relationship, this style of communication is working for you. Clearly it's not. Who cares about the "why" of it man. Then block her number. Seriously, just walk away. The thing about people who play games? They can ONLY play them if you stay around to interact with them. 2
katiegrl Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 . I just want someone totally in or totally out... And this^^ is precisely what you tell HER. If she's in, fab....if not, have a nice life, next. Why you haven't done that is beyond me. Communicate. 4
phineas Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 And this^^ is precisely what you tell HER. If she's in, fab....if not, have a nice life, next. Why you haven't done that is beyond me. Communicate. Yep. Had a few women like this. Each time I ignored them until they went crazy with the calling & texting. Then I asked "do you want to see me again or not?" Most said "yes" and after that they cut the crap because they knew if they said "no" they were 110% done.
angel.eyes Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 My question is why would she string me along? I have no idea what to do..... When I try to move on, she starts texting me again. I just want someone totally in or totally out...games :/ No one can string you along unless you let them. So why are you allowing yourself to be strung along? This isn't even a local relationship. It's long distance. Ridiculous! On to the next! 1
Maggie4 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Don't think about what might be. Just look at what is. Right now this is one super boring girl. And she's repetitious too, nothing interesting to say. Maybe she used up all her material at the beginning and now she's just plain boring. *yawn....
brokengirl85 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Long distance is difficult. She might feel frustrated with you. Try to think why. Did you reciptocate to her when she seemed interested? Maybe she is frustrated she had to do all the work? Do you initiate? I couldn't possible to long distance. In very bad at texting and communicating online in general. I'm the best when I have the other person next to me as I can see their body language. Who knows, maybe you'll need something different?
Redhead14 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 Long story short, I've been talking to this girl for a little over a month now over the phone (we use to have a huge crush on eachother about 10 years ago in college but lost touch. Up until about 4-5 days ago she seemed extremely interested in me. She would send me pictures all day, tell me she wanted to come see me (we live in separate towns but she's moving back over the summer). She told me two weeks ago she was booking airfare to come visit. She would call me out of the blue, get back to my texts within a min or two, and be very engaging over the phone/texts. For the past 4-5 days, she's been very distant, gives me one word answers, doesn't call, doesn't send pictures, and just seems plain uninterested. Also, all of a sudden she said she isn't coming to see me anymore. If I stop responding to her or don't answer one of her texts she brings up a new conversation..when I try talking to her about whatever it is she wants to talk about, she gives me boring one or two word/dry answers all over again. When I bring all this up to her, she says she's fine and says I'm over thinking things (usually very defensive). For the past day or two I've backed off A LOT but whenever I do that she starts to question why I'm not talking to her. I do not get it! I'm super bored. Its clear this is becoming very lame. My question is why would she string me along? I have no idea what to do..... When I try to move on, she starts texting me again. I just want someone totally in or totally out...games :/ Don't try to be in her head. Focus and reflect on how she is making YOU feel. It doesn't feel good, right. Leave it. My question is why would she string me along? -- Because -- she can. Don't let her do it. You've asked her about it, she didn't give a clear, mature response. End of story. 1
Buddhist Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 No contact is the fix for this. She keeps stringing you along because you keep responding to her. Stop that. Don't hate your time here just move on. 1
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2016 Posted February 25, 2016 She has someone else on the line. Doesn't matter if she has been talking to you for a month.....you are not dating, you are just talking. You both are not obligated to a committed relationship at this time. You both are free to date others.
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