Author luvflower Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) OP, I'm just something what is it about this guy that has you starting a thread when you recently got out of a more serious relationship... You were engaged...? Sounds like this more recent guy needs some serious help. I wouldn't spend much energy on him. Alcohol or any other substance have more power over prior than you know. If you cant get him help for his addiction then leave him alone, mainly for your own sanity. Nothing really. He was a good friend who at one point I used to date. I was in a serious relationship with someone else after him, then I ended up reconnecting with him (current x- guy) after breaking up with the other guy...if that makes sense. I'm pretty much not even thinking about this current(x) guy anymore.I'm really refocused on getting myself back on track after the more serious relationship with the guy I was going to marry. That was a big deal and that's what preoccupied lots of my mental space lately. So the current (xguy) is pretty much out of the picture. He got so bitter from me telling him I didn't need him anymore.plus he knew how serious the other relationship was and that made him a little uncomfortable. I'm not reaching out and I'm just letting it fade. This is done. Edited March 18, 2016 by luvflower
mightycpa Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Why don't you do something nice and memorable like give him a threesome or something while you're waiting to pull the trigger. The trouble is that the longer this goes on for him, the more pain and heartache he's going to get out of it. You'll get away pretty much unscathed. If you're not going to just cut the cord and go, I think the least you could do in exchange would be to make his every possible fantasy a reality. It's only fair that he gets something out of it too.
Author luvflower Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 Why don't you do something nice and memorable like give him a threesome or something while you're waiting to pull the trigger. The trouble is that the longer this goes on for him, the more pain and heartache he's going to get out of it. You'll get away pretty much unscathed. If you're not going to just cut the cord and go, I think the least you could do in exchange would be to make his every possible fantasy a reality. It's only fair that he gets something out of it too. You're very much mistaken. Prior to me getting to this point where I'm pretty much emotionally numb to him, I dealt with him as a functioning alcoholic/addict of other things... I only found out how many addictions he had, just recently. While he can be sweet , he can also be totally irrational and narcissistic. By me telling him I didn't need him(his drama) in my life,I DID do him a favor("something nice"). I could string him along, but its not my style to fake it... Trust me he's not sitting around waiting to hear from me. His lifestyle is almost the total opposite. So I refuse to indulge him at this point. While it sounds like I'm the cold hearted one, it's not the case. He lived a very colorful life prior to meeting me and I'm sure he's still living that life now even though he acts as if I make him want to change. My response to that is that he should want to change for his own good and for his kids. I have nothing to do with that and will not assume the burden and pressure for his change. So I don't plan on pulling any plug. 1
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