LookAtThisPOst Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I see a lot of profiles like this...though they aren't entirely bad. For instance, saw this one, she had plenty of nice photos...but just said, "I enjoy the outdoors and my pets and a country girl at heart. Camping, fishing, hiking, kayaking, and anything water related is where you'll see me." That's all, nothing more. That being said, is that ALL one really needs? Perhaps I should just keep my profile short and not like a wall of text?
PegNosePete Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I had much more success with a slightly longer, more interesting, exciting and passionate profile. Don't make it a wall of text but give enough info to keep (and hold) their interest, and stand out from the crowd.
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I had four profiles during my OLD stint (technically I'm still on it, but not very active). My first, which I just kind of wung, another which was very candid and revealed some of my faults in order to get a real 'match', one which was edited by a 'dating pro' and another which was edited by a member of Loveshack.org. None of them did any better than the other really. I think the temptation exists to lay it out like a resume ... present yourself as flawless. What I have found is that if you emphasize how much you've traveled, and how much you've done and how funny, entertaining and successful you are, you might attract someone who expects you to be just that on a date. And will next you if you are not as funny, entertaining, successful, and sophisticated as they think you should be. When you treat life like a competition, you'll attract potential mates who also treat life like a competition. Which, there's nothing wrong with that, mind you, but that's not all people.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 24, 2016 Author Posted February 24, 2016 I had four profiles during my OLD stint (technically I'm still on it, but not very active). My first, which I just kind of wung, another which was very candid and revealed some of my faults in order to get a real 'match', one which was edited by a 'dating pro' and another which was edited by a member of Loveshack.org. None of them did any better than the other really. I think the temptation exists to lay it out like a resume ... present yourself as flawless. What I have found is that if you emphasize how much you've traveled, and how much you've done and how funny, entertaining and successful you are, you might attract someone who expects you to be just that on a date. And will next you if you are not as funny, entertaining, successful, and sophisticated as they think you should be. When you treat life like a competition, you'll attract potential mates who also treat life like a competition. Which, there's nothing wrong with that, mind you, but that's not all people. I'm seeing so many, "If you're on here for a booty call, ONS, or friends with benefits, click NEXT!"...enough to make me sick, esp. when you're NOT one of those guys that DO email them, only to be ignored.
ontar Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 People mostly look at the pictures and take a quick glance at the text. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I'm seeing so many, "If you're on here for a booty call, ONS, or friends with benefits, click NEXT!"...enough to make me sick, esp. when you're NOT one of those guys that DO email them, only to be ignored. I've always wondered if in real life you're happily married with kids and you just do these posts to screw around and kill time at work... 1
road Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I see a lot of profiles like this...though they aren't entirely bad. For instance, saw this one, she had plenty of nice photos...but just said, "I enjoy the outdoors and my pets and a country girl at heart. Camping, fishing, hiking, kayaking, and anything water related is where you'll see me." That's all, nothing more. That being said, is that ALL one really needs? Perhaps I should just keep my profile short and not like a wall of text? A lot more. Unless there is a photo of her in her own Jeep Wrangler, or 4wd Silverado.
normal person Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 If she thought she needed to write more, she probably would. Some people let their looks do the talking and it works just fine. Others just don't have anything to write or aren't that articulate. Varying lengths will give varying results and appeal or not appeal to all different people, there's no "right" answer. Personally I keep mine not short or long, but compact and well tailored. Enough to give some good information and character but not enough to give it all away. It works fine. 2
BlueIris Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I like it. It gives concrete information. Lots of profiles are just lists of opinions, self-assessments and aspirations.
GemmaUK Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Sounds OK to me but as you basically said - she had a bunch of nice photo - it makes a difference.. OLD first off is all about nice photos. I am one who does always without fail read a profile and will even if it is a wall of text but the piccies need to be attractive for me to mail or reply.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 26, 2016 Author Posted February 26, 2016 Sounds OK to me but as you basically said - she had a bunch of nice photo - it makes a difference.. OLD first off is all about nice photos. I am one who does always without fail read a profile and will even if it is a wall of text but the piccies need to be attractive for me to mail or reply. The photos being nice is one thing, but if the person is ugly, the photos being nice will not help.
AMJ Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 I have four photos and one sentence about myself that lists three things I enjoy doing. I cannot stand excessively long profiles. I could probably add a sentence about what I do for work. But I actually don't really want people to know much about me, until I've decided to tell them more. I'm also a pretty low-maintenance woman, and looking for a centered man. Some people love excess, and detail, and want a partner that has many needs...to each her own! On any site, people don't want to spend more than 30 seconds, and definitely not more than a minute, to decide whether or not they want to talk to you. Read your own profile, glance at your photos...if you can't convey yourself in less than 30 seconds, it's too much information.
GemmaUK Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 The photos being nice is one thing, but if the person is ugly, the photos being nice will not help. That goes without saying...unless you mail women you find highly unattractive from their photos? By 'nice photos' I meant good pics where I find the man in them attractive. Dating is about attraction.
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