smudge21 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 .. and it's time to let go, how do you do it? I'm not talking in a LTR as such, but more those early days, from the first dates into the honeymoon period. When you just feel it's not right or not working out, or maybe when you feel you're the one doing all the work and it's simply time to move on. Do you go out with a bang (not that kind of bang) or simply walk away knowing that they won't come to you and even if they do, it won't be what you want. For me, I've always been against the bit goodbyes as often they're done for a reaction rather than to really say goodbye, which in turn (when sent to someone who doesn't care) just ends up hurting the one who sent it. However, sometimes with just walking away or even simply saying goodbye, you can be left with regret - whether that regret is that you wish you'd told them what you feel or that you regret going as you think maybe if I'd done this, that or the other.
insert_name Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 If it has gone that way because of their behaviour/a suspected lack of interest on their part then I just disappear, let 'em wonder what happened to me. Maybe they won't and I won't hear from them.again in which case I was justified in my decision. If they do get in touch like nothing happened or to ask what is wrong then I outline why it wasn't working for me and make it clear that I am still moving on. I found out the hard way recently that interested people act interested so no more half measures from now on, if someone acts disinterested I will walk and not go back. Life is too short to try and make someone like you more than they do. 2
Toodaloo Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Why bang your head against a brick wall? I learnt my lesson the hard way. If its not working discuss it and figure it out between you. If its that you just do not want to continue then you really have to say it and get out of there before the whole thing becomes a cess pool of bitterness and hurt.
lilmissjava Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 (edited) I would turn it around and say what I would want someone to say to me. All too often a guy has ghosted, but reappeared somewhere down the line. I don't respond but think to myself that if I did respond it would be this: You know what guy? I don't have time for your games, I have some self-respect to be grown up about it. Get some of that self-respect, it's empowering. And then I move on. Edited February 24, 2016 by lilmissjava Typo
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