Does walking around with my stomach sucked in all the time make me fake?

[TedBed]

My boyfriend hates that i do it. We've been together for a long time so he knows my flat toned looking stomach isn't natural. I'm not anywhere close to being overweight or ugly but i have always sucked in my stomach because i think i look better that way and i feel more confident. It just naturally pokes outward and I'm so use to seeing it sucked in that when i look at it relaxed i think i look pregnant. My boyfriend is always begging me to let him see it without me sucking in but i can't. I hate how it looks. He has never gotten a good look at it and I'm afraid it will look too odd to him since he's use to seeing it flat. He thinks it's fake and stupid to try to look like something you're not. I don't get what the big deal is. It's not the fakest thing a person could do. I'm pretending to have a flat stomach not pretending to be a doctor. My boyfriend says he wants to see the "real" me and that i should give up sucking in all together. That's really sweet but I'm not comfortable enough with myself to do that. If i did stop sucking in i would look like i put on about 7 pounds. I know I'm not the only girl that does this.

[MidwestUSA]

That's gotta take a lot of effort to do all the time. Isn't is exhausting?

 

Get your core in shape, so you won't have to suck.

[Redhead14]

My boyfriend hates that i do it. We've been together for a long time so he knows my flat toned looking stomach isn't natural. I'm not anywhere close to being overweight or ugly but i have always sucked in my stomach because i think i look better that way and i feel more confident. It just naturally pokes outward and I'm so use to seeing it sucked in that when i look at it relaxed i think i look pregnant. My boyfriend is always begging me to let him see it without me sucking in butt i can't. I hate how it looks. He has never gotten a good look at it and I'm afraid it will look too odd to him since he's use to seeing it flat. He thinks it's fake and stupid to try to look like something you're not. I don't get what the big deal is. It's not the fakest thing a person could do. I'm pretending to have a flat stomach not pretending to be a doctor. My boyfriend says he wants to see the "real" me and that i should give up sucking in all together. That's really sweet but I'm not comfortable enough with myself to do that. If i did stop sucking in i would look like i put on about 7 pounds. I know I'm not the only girl that does this.

 

Does walking around with my stomach sucked in all the time make me fake? -- This is about body dysmorphic disorder. You are not the only girl who does this. However, it puts your in a population demographic that requires support and therapy. This is not "normal".

[TedBed]

That's gotta take a lot of effort to do all the time. Isn't is exhausting?

 

Get your core in shape, so you won't have to suck.

It's not as exhausting as you think. I do it automatically. Also I'm at a healthy weight so i don't have a lot to suck in. I've done core exercises in the past. While they definitely help keep things firm, they don't give me that flat look

[Buddhist]

Not fake, no. But you probably look stupid and this may be your boyfriends real concern. Drawing in your stomach is obvious to anyone who looks at you. In order to do it, certain muscles have to be tensed and that changes your entire posture. I've never seen any other woman walk around like this but if I did I would probably laugh my guts out.

[TedBed]

Not fake, no. But you probably look stupid and this may be your boyfriends real concern. Drawing in your stomach is obvious to anyone who looks at you. In order to do it, certain muscles have to be tensed and that changes your entire posture. I've never seen any other woman walk around like this but if I did I would probably laugh my guts out.

I've seen some women who look really obvious because they are actually chubby so they try to suck in way more than possible. I'm not and it's just a small pooch at is being sucked in. I hope i don't look weird like that. He never said it looks stupid. He just said he prefer i not pose.

[TedBed]

Not fake, no. But you probably look stupid and this may be your boyfriends real concern. Drawing in your stomach is obvious to anyone who looks at you. In order to do it, certain muscles have to be tensed and that changes your entire posture. I've never seen any other woman walk around like this but if I did I would probably laugh my guts out.

By the way, how are you thinking i look when i do it?

[FastHands]

Well for bodybuilders it's called the vacuum and they do it to keep your mid section in check.

[Redhead14]

Well for bodybuilders it's called the vacuum and they do it to keep your mid section in check.

 

No, they do it to keep their ego in check, and more accurately, to keep it in tact . . .

[ExpatInItaly]

I have a friend who does this, and yes, it looks obvious and silly.

 

Your boyfriend's real concern, I feel, is that you can't just be yourself around him. Especially if you've been together a long time. Your stomach is probably nowhere near as "pregnant"-looking as you think. Most people are too self-focused to notice what your stomach looks like, to be honest. Do you really feel everyone is watching you? I guarantee they aren't.

 

Combine core-strengthening exercises with cardio and a proper diet and you will see a difference.

[Shining One]

I thought (some) women only did this for photos. I didn't know anyone walked around all day like this.

[Popsicle]

I thought that's what Spanks is for.

[basil67]

So we're talking more than just good posture here?

 

I would suggest simply using good posture when you're walking and a regular belly when you're relaxed

[lino]

Not fake but perhaps really vain and try hardish. I couldn't be with a girl who is afraid to let her stomach out.

 

Kudos to you for being able to always be like this!

Honestly I've seen this sort of thing more in guys though but only when they take off their shirt at the beach or something.