Mjm1014 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I've been talking to a girl a little over a month now, and up until a week ago she seemed super interested, texted me all day, sent tons of pictures, told me she wanted to see me, even offered to fly out to see me (I'm temporarily out of town for work for 2 months).. About a week ago, she started acting distant so I brought it up with her. It all started when she took a couple shots in a bikini and sent the pics to me, but then she called laughing and told me she sent them to another guy by accident but said he was just a friend. I didn't get mad, but noticed she started to pull back right after that...I asked her why she was being distant and she made me out to be the bad guy, and since then she takes forever to get back to me, tells me she isn't sure if she's coming out to see me anymore, and just talks to me like I'm a friend-not like someone she likes. We aren't fighting anymore but it's just plain boring now. I've pulled back and when I try moving on she starts texting me "is everything okay" and "why won't you talk to me?" I'm just sick of games. If she's not interested, why does she string me along? What should I do? Ive had a crush on this girl forever and don't want to give up especially when she told me how she felt, but she just seems plain uninterested anymore
preraph Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 She's got more than just you going on, that's why. 2
swirly27 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Can I ask how old u guys are? Not all girls are the same and mostly if I am into a guy, I won't be pulling back......but.....my take either she is embarrassed she sent another guy those pics and maybe misunderstood ur reaction (imposing her fears of ur reaction into ur words) or she is losing interest....but when u pull away she gets nervous cause she stills wants u around feeding her ego? I could be completely wrong but I did this once where I didn't really want the guy anymore but I wanted him to still want me, an attention thing. It was wrong but in my defense this guy was a rebound for me so I was not in good place to be dating anyway. I have never done that again! When I really like a guy, I won't be offended if he questions me if he thinks I am acting strange, it's good communication! It's normally when the girl wants to ask what is wrong of a guy that it can be more dicey. Good luck!
Zippy2000 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Why do girls do this? They string you along and mess with your head. Well, I ll tell you. Too many options and too many people who feel they cant commit and then change their minds. Id never string anyone along. Its not right and its unfair for the other person. Why do it? Why mess with someone? Pure evil. 1
elaine567 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 She's no longer really interested, its only been a month and so maintaining a LDR is hard. You have no real bond, no common history keeping you together and she is losing the connection with you. Go find someone else. 1
smudge21 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Push/Pull there mate. Like a baby with a toy, doesn't want to play with it until another baby starts to play with it, then wants it back. It is a silly childish game she's playing, but probably she doesn't know she's playing it. Trouble is, you try to have it out with her and she'll probably be off with you or not want to open up. That call is yours to make. If you feel it's ending though, then you have nothing to lose in trying to clear the air. I'm walking away from something similar now and despite the fact she goes quiet on me, it's always her who then gets in touch to ask why I'm going quiet... er... okay! Sadly you can point out the issue to them but it doesn't mean they're going to change.
jesseambers86 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Move in. She's just messing with you and it's not gonna get you anywhere nice.
truth_seeker Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Why do girls do this? They string you along and mess with your head. Well, I ll tell you. Too many options and too many people who feel they cant commit and then change their minds. It's women from 18-29 who usually do this. Once they hit 30 their mindset is get married to someone safe, ie, a guy who is financially stable and other women won't be after because he's average looking.
Popsicle Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Yeah, these games are silly and it does sound like she's playing games. I never pull back if I'm into a guy, it's not natural. I think you should sit her down and have a frank talk. Hopefully she'll respond maturely and then you two can move forward, but if she continues with the games, then she may not be the girl for you.
smackie9 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Stay away from LDRs....they are all just talk. 1
truth_seeker Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I don't know how people can do LDRs... I can see doing it for awhile but then someone usually cracks and it's over. I tried it for 3 months. I got annoyed with the constant phone calls, then not being able to do anything with women I would see IRL when going out frustrated me... I ended it. You really need to be in close proximity for a relationship to work. 1
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