beachlover966 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My guy friend told me that he doesn't want a relationship. After he told me that he didn't want a relationship, I went on a date with another guy since me and my guy friend aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. I told my guy friend that I went on the date with another guy and he told me that he didn't like me going on the date with him but since we aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. Why would he tell me that he doesn't want a relationship but will treat me like a girlfriend and won't let me date other guys?
Emilia Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Because he wants the benefits of a relationship without committing to one. He wants it all on his terms. I'd never go along with something like that. 2
Redhead14 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My guy friend told me that he doesn't want a relationship. After he told me that he didn't want a relationship, I went on a date with another guy since me and my guy friend aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. I told my guy friend that I went on the date with another guy and he told me that he didn't like me going on the date with him but since we aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. Why would he tell me that he doesn't want a relationship but will treat me like a girlfriend and won't let me date other guys? He didn't tell you can't date other people. He may not like it, but he gets it. "he told me that he didn't like me going on the date with him but since we aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want." He didn't demand that you stop seeing others. No one really likes to hear that someone they are spending time with is seeing other people. It's just human nature really. However, if you are dating for the purpose of having a committed boyfriend and he doesn't want a relationship, you should move on. He's not likely to change his mind . . . 3
smackie9 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Stop telling him about your dating life....it's none of his business who you are dating or sleeping with. BTW why are you even telling him anything? Make him jealous? 3
angel.eyes Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Why would he tell me that he doesn't want a relationship but will treat me like a girlfriend and won't let me date other guys? He's not treating you like a girl friend, and he certainly didn't tell you not to date others. Quite the opposite! Here's why: My guy friend told me that he doesn't want a relationship. After he told me that he didn't want a relationship, I went on a date with another guy...he told me that he didn't like me going on the date with him but since we aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. It seems you're hoping for a relationship, and that's just not going to happen with this guy, no matter how many other men you tell him you're dating. He doesn't want that with you. You need to cut the cord and look elsewhere for a boyfriend. 1
katiegrl Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My guy friend told me that he doesn't want a relationship. After he told me that he didn't want a relationship, I went on a date with another guy since me and my guy friend aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. I told my guy friend that I went on the date with another guy and he told me that he didn't like me going on the date with him but since we aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. Why would he tell me that he doesn't want a relationship but will treat me like a girlfriend and won't let me date other guys? Where are you getting that he won't let you date other guys? He said (above) you were free to date whomever you want. He may not like it, but he realizes since he does not want a RL, he has no right to tell you not to date other guys. 1
thecrucible Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Because he wants the benefits of a relationship without committing to one. He wants it all on his terms. I'd never go along with something like that. or he is trailing along unsure of what he wants, not willing to start something serious or he's getting there but not quite there yet. I'll go with your idea though. I've met this kind of guy before - the guy that wants you to be totally into him while he has all the opportunity in the world to play the field. It's just a ploy from them to your attention and you should carry on what you are doing unless he makes an effort to make things serious between the two of you. The guys who have genuinely liked me have seen me get in and out of relationships and yet they still like me now. Once I realised this, I knew I should do what's best for my sense of well being and let the chips fall where they may. You never have to worry about losing a guy's interest if he is legit.
lilyrocks9956 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My guy friend told me that he doesn't want a relationship. After he told me that he didn't want a relationship, I went on a date with another guy since me and my guy friend aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. I told my guy friend that I went on the date with another guy and he told me that he didn't like me going on the date with him but since we aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. Why would he tell me that he doesn't want a relationship but will treat me like a girlfriend and won't let me date other guys? I agree with everyone else here. He wants those benefits of a relationship without a commitment and it sounds like you'd rather be in a real relationship than a FWB situation or something. You need to have a talk with him and explain that if he's not willing to be official that it's not what you want and sorry but you need to distance yourself. Having him whine everytime you go out with other guys isn't going to help with anything.
Redhead14 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 She's trying to read into it/read his mind. He says she's free to date others. She hears "he won't let me date others" because she thinks that deep down he's in love with her, "he's just confused". 1
stillafool Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 The only reason he told you this is because whether he is your bf, FWB or man off the street he doesn't want to do seconds behind another man. No man wants sloppy seconds, as he is worried about STDs.
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