Will We Get Back Together?

[giantpeach]

OK so essentially my boyfriend and I had been together for six months before he had to move to a different country for university and we never doubted that we would continue with a Long Distance Relationship. We were so in love it was ridiculous, we would talk about our future together all the time and he just made everything seem brighter. He was my best friend and the only person I ever could or want to love like I do. And the best part was he felt exactly the same, everything was so lovely and we had a perfectly happy, healthy relationship. However, as my bf suffers from depression and anxiety, things got complicated a month into the LDR when extremely small problems began to build into real issues that we couldn't discuss because he finds internet communication difficult for emotional stuff. His grandfather passed and he became even more distant, but still told me he loved he despite this, just couldnt show it properly right now because he was so sad.

 

When I went to visit him for a few days everything was so perfect and back to normal and felt so right that we decided on a new set-up where we were only in a relationship when we were in the same country. As in we could see other people etc. when the other was away. This was aimed to ease pressure, guilt and insecurity. It was a stupid idea in hindsight but we just love each other a lot and are so good together we thought we could make it work.

 

Needless to say after he was withdrawn for a few days and was ignoring all my emails and calls etc. once I returned, I was feeling like crap and kissed someone else. Even though we agreed it was ok and I did nothing wrong I know it still hurt him and I feel so guilty. I rang him the next day and ended everything. We were just hurting eachother. The breakup was on totally good terms, we voiced our mutual love and respect, we both believe that we are still perfectt or eachother and agree although this feels wrong its the only way. I love him so much still and my heart is aching. I cant eat, sleep, focus on anything I feel like Im going crazy. I have lost the love of my life. Its even more bitter because I know if we could only live in the same place things would be so different for us.

 

My question is this: Do you think we could get back together when we are older and can live in the same place? Is it just the distance that got between us? How do I even begin to get over this sense of loss?

 

I just feel very lonely and depressed and would like some advice really. Thanks xx

Edited February 23, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[d0nnivain]

Nobody has a crystal ball. Is it possible that you will get back together when you are older if you live in the same place? Sure. It's also possible that you will win the lottery or get hit with an asteroid. All three are improbable however.

 

College changes people. LDRs are hard especially when there is a whole new world at university to explore.

 

You too will go through changes & growth. Your world view & your personal view will have changed drastically over the next few years.

 

Hang in there.

[giantpeach]

Thanks for your response I cant say I'm not going to hope continuously for the next few years that we prove you wrong but I know what you're saying is very likely unfortunately. Maybe some things are meant to be? Maybe this just wasnt the right time for us?