risjurad Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 One Coffee Meets Bagel feedback suggested my photos looked like selfies as one place for improvement. How to specifically avoid this? Just see if I can find somebody else to take my pic for me?
hasaquestion Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 One Coffee Meets Bagel feedback suggested my photos looked like selfies as one place for improvement. How to specifically avoid this? Just see if I can find somebody else to take my pic for me? Yeah, if you don't want a picture to be a selfie, don't take it yourself. 3
soph-walker Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I've no experience of CMB but I would suggest if you want to have less selfie style pics, upload some with friends, but slightly crop them to nearer your head/body?
GemmaUK Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Yeah, just get someone to take some pics of you or use those which get taken adhoc. Must admit I hate selfies and haven't ever taken one.
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I find it ironic that in an age where selfies run rampant that someone would make a comment about it. Gimme a break. OP, don't listen to the haters unless you really want to change it up. Good luck.
SwordofFlame Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I've read in quite a few profiles that some women don't like guys who take selfies.
soph-walker Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I've read in quite a few profiles that some women don't like guys who take selfies. I don't mind *one* or *two* selfies, but my thoughts tend to wonder if they are either selfie obsessed, or don't have much of a social life if all pics on their respective profile are selfies. That's just my thoughts, not saying this is the case 100% of the time.
RecentChange Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Most camera phones have a delay setting too.... set it up - go pose, wait 30 secs - walla picture!
spmh1017 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Set the timer and maybe look away? As a guy I get **** from people or I get praise, it varies. My buddies will bust my balls but I'll get tons of praise and likes from women online. This is only fun cause I guess I just hit my "peak" at 36. My GF will make fun of me...then screenshot them and repost them on her accounts to show me off.
GemmaUK Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I don't mind *one* or *two* selfies, but my thoughts tend to wonder if they are either selfie obsessed, or don't have much of a social life if all pics on their respective profile are selfies. That's just my thoughts, not saying this is the case 100% of the time. Selfie obsessed ad social life makes me think... I don't know if its common elsewhere but in the UK the selfie in the mirror taken in the men's urinals is a common one. Ewwww! Why???!!! 2
d0nnivain Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Since it was the subject of feedback, do include at least one picture taken by someone else. At the very least having pictures other then selfies attest to the fact that you have friends & also that you put some thought into your profile rather then just slapping up selfie 'cause the mood struck you to sign up for OLD one night when you were bored.
smackie9 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Seeing photos of someone out on a hike or sitting around a camp fire with friends is more interesting, and shows you have a life. 3
SwordofFlame Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Selfie obsessed ad social life makes me think... I don't know if its common elsewhere but in the UK the selfie in the mirror taken in the men's urinals is a common one. Ewwww! Why???!!! What's your opinion of the mirror selfie at the gym, with a sleeveless shirt too.
GemmaUK Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 What's your opinion of the mirror selfie at the gym, with a sleeveless shirt too. Me personally? I'd pass.
angel.eyes Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 What's your opinion of the mirror selfie at the gym, with a sleeveless shirt too. I would prefer if your were topless with a towel wrapped around your waist, flexing your biceps and 8-pack, and growling at the gym mirror since real men don't smile. Brownie points if there's clutter behind you. Next question please. 1
thecrucible Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Seeing photos of someone out on a hike or sitting around a camp fire with friends is more interesting, and shows you have a life. But sometimes people assume you don't have a life because there are fewer photographs of you doing things. I like doing things outdoors for instance but I don't always bring a camera with me or appear in photos with other people. I only have a few of me doing things. It's kind of like on Facebook - I hardly ever post status updates and I try and be coy about revealing details of any close relationships so people probably assume I don't do anything or something .
lilmissjava Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I scroll past the guys with mirror selfies shirtless and flexing. And there is a lot of them. I would definitely look more into someone with a nice headshot and with a photo of doing something that is included in their interests like sports. I also pass on ones that include pics of their children. Their photo does not belong on a dating site. Updating photos is important. IMO guys that have the same pic for months and months are going to be continually passed on, at least by me anyway.
Author risjurad Posted February 24, 2016 Author Posted February 24, 2016 Seeing photos of someone out on a hike or sitting around a camp fire with friends is more interesting, and shows you have a life. Great. Next meetup is in another few months or so. I guess in the meantime, I'll ask if a stranger is willing to do me a favor there. Or wait until I get together with folks in a week, although they may find this odd.
hasaquestion Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 But sometimes people assume you don't have a life because there are fewer photographs of you doing things. I like doing things outdoors for instance but I don't always bring a camera with me or appear in photos with other people. I only have a few of me doing things. It's kind of like on Facebook - I hardly ever post status updates and I try and be coy about revealing details of any close relationships so people probably assume I don't do anything or something . People aren't psychic. If you want them to see something you have to show them. Avoid the selfie OP.
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I've read in quite a few profiles that some women don't like guys who take selfies. I tend to pass over a woman's profile if she has 8 pictures and they are ALL selfies. I'm like "Don't they have a friend or a timer on the phone?" It's only taken at arms length, so you don't get the full picture. Oh, and I think they think they are getting the entire body in the picture by taking it from above the head. Quite an odd angle.
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Selfie obsessed ad social life makes me think... I don't know if its common elsewhere but in the UK the selfie in the mirror taken in the men's urinals is a common one. Ewwww! Why???!!! There's actually a woman that moved to my area..that put up up an Instagram handle of herself IN her profile, "Here's my Instagram, so you can see more of me!" Of course, it's littered with selfies, and I wonder if she's actually serious about meeting ANYONE in person.
Author risjurad Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 I don't mind *one* or *two* selfies, but my thoughts tend to wonder if they are either selfie obsessed, or don't have much of a social life if all pics on their respective profile are selfies. That's just my thoughts, not saying this is the case 100% of the time. I don't really have any friends, but that's probably for another thread (see link!) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/platonic/friendship/571258-too-late-get-close-friend-when-you-re-30-a Otherwise, that's something we'll worry about after we "get our foot into the door".
angel.eyes Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 How are you defining "getting your foot in the door?" A response online? A message exchange? A first date? If you have no friends, I would work on developing your social circle first. Your ability to read social cues, and thus your social skills are probably limited since you're struggling to make friends and are asking for a "how to"list (per the thread you linked). Given this, you're going to have an incredibly challenging time trying to get dates. Making and sustaining friendship is a much easier and less hurtful environment in which to work on improving your social skills. Once you've had some progress there, then you can try dating. Have you dated in the past? Had past relationships? Past friendships?
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