nightwish33150 Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 i like some chumby girls this one chumby girl liked me , she had a cutie face but i did not ask her out becuz she was a fresh and i was shalow* at the time i regret notgetting close to her i like her now even more but not to much to date
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 13, 2005 Author Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by scratch Does this tend to pose a problem? I know a few girls 5'9 and up who struggle with this all the time. They look high and low for guys who aren't shorter then them in heels. This is a big challenge for me. I'm 5'8" and I like to wear heels often, so i need a guy who is at least 6' tall, because in heels I'm 5'10" to 6'. The last thing I want is some short guy who is eye level to my chest. It's one reason I think short guys are always trying to pick me up. Last weekend I literally had to slap some short, drunk guy in a bar who kept trying to grab my boobs and wouldn't leave me alone.
katiebour Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 I've been on a variety of dates with different guys in the last 4 months, and my conclusion is: I generally prefer someone who is my equal on the attractiveness scale, or who at least thinks that they are. If they are toned/built and gorgeous, I feel like I'm not good enough for them and I worry that they aren't attracted to me. I dated a few guys who were generally more attractive than me, and sure enough, they didn't feel a "spark." I spent some time with a guy who was fairly overweight; he was insecure and kept saying how he thought I deserved "someone better." I was happy with him the way he was, but he would get moody and depressed. In the end, confidence is the most important factor. If both partners feel that they're good enough for the other person, then it shows in their demeanor and the rest is not so important. That being said, a large weight differential can make things awkward in the bedroom. A roguish smile, a confident demeanor, a gentlemanly attitude, and a passionate embrace and kiss- these are the things that I find most attractive.
blind_otter Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Originally posted by Merin My BF now is 6'3 to my 5'5 he's the tallest Guy I've ever dated and I'm the smallest girl (height and wieght) he's dated... I think too it isn't uncommon when you've been with someone that looked a certain way and the relationship ends to seek out (even if it's not on a conscience level) a person who looks simular to the person you had been with. I'm 5' (and 3/4 of an inch, damnit)...my ex was 6'3. I once dated a dude who was 6'7! We were a weird looking couple. The mechanics of sex don't work well. I have to date guys who are 5'10 or shorter. I usually like white boys. And I like dark hair and blue eyes, that is hot.
Merin Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter I'm 5' (and 3/4 of an inch, damnit)...my ex was 6'3. I once dated a dude who was 6'7! We were a weird looking couple. The mechanics of sex don't work well. I have to date guys who are 5'10 or shorter. I usually like white boys. And I like dark hair and blue eyes, that is hot. LOL yeah you're a little girl B_O BUT you're a hot little girl It's interesting to me because part of the attraction for my BF to me is because of how small I am.. the sex is rockin LOL he's got black hair, brown eyes and is half Indian... damn he's sexy!
Artscrafter Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by Mary3 I like the big guy* small girl ratio That rocks ! One of the more often remarked-on couples in our college is a guy who's probably just over 6' and pretty much the shortest girl around (4'-something.) It's funny though - the tall women all looking for guys who are even taller, and here I am (I'm 6'3") and I prefer girls who are appreciably shorter than me. Not strikingly shorter (see above) but something more along the lines of average height. But I'm sure there are other tall guys out there who prefer women close to their own heights. It's a sad fact that people have no better way to gague compatibility on the first impression than by physical attractiveness, but what can ya do. (Sad for me especially since I'm a big guy in more than just height. I'm improving on it, but it's slower going than I'd like.) And contrary to popular belief, not all men prefer really big breasts. They've got to be right for the size of the rest of your body, and small ones often do perfectly well for this.
chaos70 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 LOL...another ratio to just plain scratch your head on is: Husband: 7'2" 535 lb Wife: 5'3" 130 lb (guessing on weight) Not me, but another good industry friend of mine.
Mary3 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 I should start a club : Women who love Big men. lol....Tall is a definate plus ! 6 foot or higher....200 to 250 lbs...,.but some of that weight needs to be muscle...like a big teddy bear type...whats the word : Husky ?
Merin Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 My BF is 6'3 and about 185lbs while I'm 5'5 and about 98lbs..
Artscrafter Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by Mary3 Artscrafter....stats please ? Height Weight ? Okay, fine, since this is anonymous anyway. Height: 6'3" last I checked. Might be slightly more now since it was a year or two ago and I'm 20, but it's about that. Weight: At present, about 290 lbs. Had been as high as 315 within the last year. A decent amount of that's gotta be muscle since people are always underguessing my weight. But I'm not even close to buff in any sense (with the possible exception of my calves. Those bear a vague resemblance.)
chaos70 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by Mary3 I should start a club : Women who love Big men. lol....Tall is a definate plus ! 6 foot or higher....200 to 250 lbs...,.but some of that weight needs to be muscle...like a big teddy bear type...whats the word : Husky ? I like the term "festively plump" myself.
blind_otter Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 My exHusband was 5'6, and my current BF is 5'7. We are the tiny people. He likes that I am so much smaller than him, as it's unusual. His last GF was 5'6 and he disliked that she was taller than him in heels. I wear stilletos and huge platforms and am still shorter than him (I refuse to wear flats. I look like a curvaceous child.)
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 I'm 5'8", and had one marriage and two long-term relationships. All three men ranged from '6 to 6'4". I just can't bring myself to even consider a guy who is under 6', especially since I usually wear shoes with a bit of heel on them.
Mary3 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 I have seen big men your size and weight and I refer to them as gentle giants. They carry their weight very well ! There is this show on ESPN called the Strongest Man in the World. These guys are all near 300 lbs but its 300 pounds of sheer muscle...Some say they look fat. I think that if they have trained and are lifting cars and tractors they have to be carrying muscle weight ! Yes they look huge but have you checked their backs and arms ? I like to check them out as they lift incredible amounts of weight So for you big guys and really big guys....you look great If you are small ...say ...180 lbs or less...and are under 5 '11 ...then I guess I am not as attracted ....I guess we all have an ideal size of man imprinted in our brain But no matter what your size : its your heart and how big it is...that really counts
rglove Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 Everyone seems to have a different definition for these weight categories. How do you define them? What kinds of body types do you prefer in the men/women you like to date? How thin is too thin? How heavy is too heavy? Does height matter? Does a pretty/handsome face carry more weight (no pun intended) than having the perfect body? Just curious to see what other LS people think. Weight Does Matter, as does Height!!! Now, I myself like a petty face - symmetrical and aesthetically pleasing, but what the body looks like does come in to play. The body does factor in, on attraction and arousal. And a body type that I find aesthetically unappealing and unattractive does take away from my overall attraction, and lessen the effects of the pretty face and the affinity I might have sexually to a person/female. It simply lessens the attraction, and if I find the body unattractive enough, if it is grossly bad, kills it!!! For me, there is such a thing as too skinny. You could say absurdly skinny, and there is a point where you're too fat, but it's more a matter of an individuals, a females, dimensions, body proportions, rather than her weight classification. The question is whether or not she is attractive enough, overall, considering her face and personality to supplement a body that might not be fitness model perfect!!! And as far as Height goes, not too glossly short or tall is all I asks!!!
housebaby Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 I have dated lots of different kinds of guys. Some extremely hot, and some mediocre - and some just plain homely. The point is: you can never really tell. I used to try not to date guys that were "prettier" than me - thinking that I would feel like I was less than them. That didn't work: the fattest guy with the worst smile ended up making me feel the ugliest. I am average build with big boobs and a nice butt - pretty smile and eyes. I think I am pretty cute - yet have trouble meeting decent guys who want more than sex. That's probably the biggest downfall to having big boobs and a firm but - all they want to do is lay you. And those who actually want a relationship can be so over-bearing because they don't like the attention other guys give. All in all - I like a guy to be in shape, take good care of himself...smiles and sexy eyes w/long eyelashes are what I am attracted to. I usually like them taller - I'm 5'2, so being taller isn't too hard for me. All I want is a confidant man who makes me feel like a strong, beautiful woman - in and out of the bedroom. No games, just respect.
Merin Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 I have dated lots of different kinds of guys. Some extremely hot, and some mediocre - and some just plain homely. The point is: you can never really tell. I used to try not to date guys that were "prettier" than me - thinking that I would feel like I was less than them. That didn't work: the fattest guy with the worst smile ended up making me feel the ugliest. I am average build with big boobs and a nice butt - pretty smile and eyes. I think I am pretty cute - yet have trouble meeting decent guys who want more than sex. That's probably the biggest downfall to having big boobs and a firm but - all they want to do is lay you. And those who actually want a relationship can be so over-bearing because they don't like the attention other guys give. All in all - I like a guy to be in shape, take good care of himself...smiles and sexy eyes w/long eyelashes are what I am attracted to. I usually like them taller - I'm 5'2, so being taller isn't too hard for me. All I want is a confidant man who makes me feel like a strong, beautiful woman - in and out of the bedroom. No games, just respect. I think you look a lot like Mini Driver... ever get that before?
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted September 13, 2005 Author Posted September 13, 2005 have trouble meeting decent guys who want more than sex. That's probably the biggest downfall to having big boobs and a firm but - all they want to do is lay you. And those who actually want a relationship can be so over-bearing because they don't like the attention other guys give. LOL! Even us ladies with big boobs and not-so-firm-anymore tushies still have trouble finding a man with more than sex on his mind. And guess what? It doesn't get any better the older you get either. My great-granny had a pretty face even into her 90s, and was well endowed with a large chest, tiny waist, and child-bearing hips -- and all the old men in town chased after her wanting dates and roll in the hay. She out-lived five husbands, but the gentlemen kept on knocking at her door. People say I look like her when she was my age. Guess that's what I have to look forward too. (sigh)
reservoirdog1 Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 curvy brunettes with glasses? Yum. Always makes me think of that whole sexy librarian thang. I'm kind of all over the map. A pretty face can get me beyond a body; however, from experience, not for long. Early this year I dated a woman with a beautiful face... but her body turned me off. I know that's shallow, but it was a dealbreaker. My preferred body type in a woman is "pleasingly curvy." And yet, another woman I dated over a year ago didn't do much for me facially when we first met... but I liked her body and she had an amazing personality, and we clicked from the get-go. It didn't last very long unfortunately, but it was fun while it did.
Mary3 Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Wow I have not heard that term * lay you in awhile. I've heard get laid...but most times it seems they say " just wanna have sex with you * instead of lay you...lol
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