Sweetgirl28 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I was wondering how acceptable dates on weekdays are. I'm seeing a guy tomorrow who has the day off due to a medical checkup. I will get out of work early so he wanted to meet up. Is this ok? Or is the weekend more appropriate? It's been 1,5 week since I last saw him because both of our weekends were full last weekend.
hippychick3 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Whatever works for you is what is acceptable. There are no rules about having to meet only on a weekend. If a weekday works out well for both of you and he's not using his weekends to meet up with other women, it's all good. Enjoy! 5
PegNosePete Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I had many dates on weekdays, in fact I met my partner on a Tuesday. 1
hippychick3 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I had many dates on weekdays, in fact I met my partner on a Tuesday. Just realized I met mine on a Wednesday. When I was dating, I went on dates almost every night of the week. I feel tired now just thinking about that. 2
SSJROMANCE Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Maybe he has a weekday Groupon - buy a dinner get one free. Gotta save money these days. Lol. 1
candie13 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 at the beginning, I organize all of my dates during the week days. After the first 2 -3 weeks, I'll let him migrate towards Friday. My weekends are for me and for my friends. Weekdays are fine for strangers. 4
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted February 23, 2016 Author Posted February 23, 2016 Alright, thanks everyone! I guess in this case it was more a matter of "I can't wait until the weekend" or something.
candie13 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 you waited almost 2 weeks to see eachother, indeed, it's not really a case of "can't wait until the weekend". If he absolutely wanted to see you before, he would have (unless you guys were traveling). Interested men act interested. keep it real, girl. And keep an eye out of other men and other dates too, it'll make you feel better.
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted February 23, 2016 Author Posted February 23, 2016 Last weekend just didn't work out. He has been texting me every day asking interested questions so no generic things like "hey what's up".
candie13 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 girl, the only thing I'm trying to say is that nothing ever stopped a man from seeing the woman he wants to see. If you want something, you find a way. If you don't, you find an excuse. Now, if you are sure about him, fine, but please be extra aware of smooth talkers and watch their behavior. Really. That's what defines a decent man, when his good intentions are matched by consistent actions in that direction. Texts are easy to send. Making time in your schedule to see someone it's something else. If I had one advice for you, limit the texting as much as you can and favor face-to-face meetings. If it's only on text, it's not real. He's selling you dreams. Stay grounded.
PegNosePete Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 nothing ever stopped a man from seeing the woman he wants to see. If you want something, you find a way. If you don't, you find an excuse. Rubbish. 2 days after I met my partner, I went to Nepal for 18 days. Does that mean I didn't want to see her again? No! It means I had already made other plans and obviously could not cancel a trip of a lifetime. If they both had other plans (as the OP states) last weekend then that's fine. People have lives outside of dating. They have weekends with friends, visits to parents, work, etc. The OP never stated what they were *both* doing last weekend. To suggest that he's not interested, just because they both had plans, is a bit ridiculous. Actually I'd say the opposite, a guy (or girl) who flakes or cancels pre-existing plans with friends or family or work, is unreliable, and is likely to also flake/cancel on YOU in the future. Besides, he did find a way. He asked her on a weekday date. 2
newmoon Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 i never go out with dates on weekdays, only serious bf's. i 'date' on the weekends and if/when we become a couple i go out on weeknights, too. but i don't think it matters... it's up to you and him and the schedules you have.
candie13 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Rubbish. 2 days after I met my partner, I went to Nepal for 18 days. Does that mean I didn't want to see her again? No! It means I had already made other plans and obviously could not cancel a trip of a lifetime. read my post carefully - I said (provided that none had to travel) If they both had other plans (as the OP states) last weekend then that's fine. People have lives outside of dating. They have weekends with friends, visits to parents, work, etc. The OP never stated what they were *both* doing last weekend. To suggest that he's not interested, just because they both had plans, is a bit ridiculous. Nope, but at least 10 days passed. While I understand how one had plans during the weekend... how about the other 7 days? Bullocks. Most likely he had other girls on the go. Actually I'd say the opposite, a guy (or girl) who flakes or cancels pre-existing plans with friends or family or work, is unreliable, and is likely to also flake/cancel on YOU in the future. It depends, it's very difficult to generalize. But... if you've just met someone, it's NORMAL to want to spend more time with them. It doesn't mean putting your life on hold, sometimes just pre-dinner drinks for 2 hours are better than no date at all. If there's a will, there's a way. Besides, he did find a way. He asked her on a weekday date. I believe this is what weekdays are for - dates. I also believe that he squeezed her in his busy schedule when he felt like it. And in the end, that's fine too, fair enough. But not when he's bullsh*tting her about how he cannot wait to see her . It's a very common pick up technique, during which men overpromise and underdeliver. Now, perhaps I am jaded and cynical. Maybe he had plans and all, which is fine. He has a life, everyone does. But I sense he's putting efforts into raising her interest in him artificially, by text, while frustrating her a little by not being physically available. If he tries to sleep with her at the end of their date, she'll know she's dealing with a player . Do the math and keep it real. Stay grounded.
central Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Any day is good. Some people work weekends, so have no choice but to date weekdays. What should it matter, other than some preconceived notion? Besides, plenty of activities and clubs are open weekdays as well - lots of people go out whenever they have the time and something to do.
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted February 23, 2016 Author Posted February 23, 2016 read my post carefully - I said (provided that none had to travel) Nope, but at least 10 days passed. While I understand how one had plans during the weekend... how about the other 7 days? Bullocks. Most likely he had other girls on the go. It depends, it's very difficult to generalize. But... if you've just met someone, it's NORMAL to want to spend more time with them. It doesn't mean putting your life on hold, sometimes just pre-dinner drinks for 2 hours are better than no date at all. If there's a will, there's a way. . I believe this is what weekdays are for - dates. I also believe that he squeezed her in his busy schedule when he felt like it. And in the end, that's fine too, fair enough. But not when he's bullsh*tting her about how he cannot wait to see her . It's a very common pick up technique, during which men overpromise and underdeliver. Now, perhaps I am jaded and cynical. Maybe he had plans and all, which is fine. He has a life, everyone does. But I sense he's putting efforts into raising her interest in him artificially, by text, while frustrating her a little by not being physically available. If he tries to sleep with her at the end of their date, she'll know she's dealing with a player . Do the math and keep it real. Stay grounded. I already made it clear that I have plans after the date as well. It will be an afternoon thing so it's unlikely he'll enough time to try to sleep with me.
ASG Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I work most weekends, so most of my dates happen on weekdays. I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.
bu2002 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I don't prefer to go out on weekdays, but make it happen if the others' schedule doesn't allow. Fridays are easy for me to rearrange, so i will start with that day, and then modify if necessary.
Larryville Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 at the beginning, I organize all of my dates during the week days. After the first 2 -3 weeks, I'll let him migrate towards Friday. My weekends are for me and for my friends. Weekdays are fine for strangers. If he absolutely wanted to see you before, he would have (unless you guys were traveling). Interested men act interested. If you want something, you find a way. If you don't, you find an excuse. I had this very conversation with someone I am seeing, new 2 dates, both good dates. She has asked a few times in different ways about distance relationships (we live about an hour apart) and dating times and days. She has said up front is very busy and active could be doing things 7 days a week. I already know Sundays are out, she does not work Monday or Tuesday. We spent the day together almost all day Saturday and we have plans this afternoon.... (did receive the obligatory headache text at 6 am.. I know where this will lead ) oh well... Most people I have dated I absolutely knew I will ONLY see on some Fri eves, Saturday and part of Sunday. These are busy, active, professional types and weekday meets were rarely going to happen if ever. Meeting with their lady friends, exercise, external activities ect. But gets to one of the above quotes... If you date someone of quality, they will no doubt be busier. If you want something, you find a way. If you don't, you find an excuse. But more importantly Interested men (AND WOMEN) act interested. Time is almost never an issue for me because of work flexibility and lifestyle. I stopped asking for dates, I might be wrong but I let her hint or suggest at possible openings the way my jobs works my availability is clear well in advance. Making it up to her shows me she is clearly interested in me and it minimizes (does not prevent tho) flaking.
candie13 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Excellent! Have a great date and apologies if I sounded cynical, fingers crossed for a great time & many more dates!
andie1969 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I had many dates on weekdays, in fact I met my partner on a Tuesday. Same here! In fact, tomorrow Feb. 24 will be one year! (was on a Tuesday last year).
Jejangles Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 For me, weekday dates from online dating were preferable! I held week-ends aside for my preferred activities and friends. I met the guy I am currently seeing on a Wednesday night and we took advantage of half price drinks. The other advantage of a weeknight date is a "get out of jail free" card. If it's not going well, you can claim a busy day or early meeting the next day. But really, it depends on your schedule and preference.
hasaquestion Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Interesting thread. I prefer weeknights for a first date. In my mind, Friday and Saturday nights are off-limits for a first date. I don't actually tell anyone that (they'd look at me funny) but I observe it. Friday nights aren't for new people. They are for my people. If I don't spend a Friday night with long-time friends, family or someone else who I think is special I'd rather spend it alone. It sounds silly but it makes sense in my head. 2
SwordofFlame Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 It's fine for the first two or three dates. But if you both work on weekdays, and are only going out after work, it can limit the amount of activities you can do. There is also some belief that once you move to weekend dates, you're more of a priority in each other's lives.
angel.eyes Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I was wondering how acceptable dates on weekdays are. I'm seeing a guy tomorrow who has the day off due to a medical checkup. I will get out of work early so he wanted to meet up. Is this ok? Or is the weekend more appropriate? It's been 1,5 week since I last saw him because both of our weekends were full last weekend. Was your first date on a weekend? A weekday date is fine on occasion. If, however, he's only ever available on weekdays, then I would question his situation--Work? Married? In a relationship with someone else? Dating others? It's interesting that you've gone ten days and counting since the first date. How do you feel about him? 1
thecrucible Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Nothing wrong with a weekday/night. People have commitments, jobs, places to be and you just find what times you are available. For instance I work on Saturdays, I volunteer at three places during the week and sometimes have other stuff going on so I would just meet at whatever times suits both of us. As I can be busy, I am flexible about times to meet. I wish had the liberty of more free time to completely close off weekdays/nights for dating.
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